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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:17:33 pm
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"He wants it twice a day!" "She would be happy to go a whole month without touching me." Does this sound familiar?

 
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October 10, 2005, 8:40 am PDT

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Are you getting any exercise? How have you been feeling about yourself lately? If you do not feel good both physically and emotionally, a sex drive can plummet. Try walking 15 minutes in the evening. Also try reading a sexy story to get in the mood. Remember, you have been rejecting him so you have to let him know that you are up for romance. Most men will give up after being turned down too many times. Most of all you should discuss with him that it is not "him" specifically, but you have no sex drive. Discuss in a non sexual place (over lunch) and focus on how you feel. It's not too late to change the direction you are heading. Good luck and keep me posted.
two months for you. try  6 months going on 7. my drive is so far gone, it is stuck so far down in a jar of mollasses that you couldn't even slurp it up with a hot buttered biscuit let alone a corn bread fritter!!!!!!
 
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October 10, 2005, 8:44 am PDT

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if there was a law stating you could not have sex it would be ok with me. my drive has long been gone.
 
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October 10, 2005, 7:04 pm PDT

Toys

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 My husband and I have been together for over six years. My sex drive has always been strong while his has always been weaker. We are both healthy but for some reason he reaches orgasm too soon for both of us. Then he has no interest in trying to continue. It is getting very frustrating for me because I am not  getting anything near satisfaction and its pushing me away. Any advice out there??
I suffer from a low sex drive and my boyfried has an extremely high one. We figured out that things like a clitoral stimulator and a cock-and-ball ring work the best for us. He last longer with the ring and I am pretty much guaranteed an orgasm with the stimulator.
 
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October 11, 2005, 1:50 pm PDT

Never Had a Sex Drive!

I am 26 years old and I have never had a sex drive!  Sometimes, like 2 times a year, I might get the urge.  Mostly I would rather just please myself instead of having to deal with a man.  I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now and he is not pleased with the feeling that he has to drag it out of me.  I have read MANY books on the subject and it is hard for me to understand what women feel and mean when they say that they look forward to sex and desire it.  I know that there are more people out there like me.  What have you done to deal with and fix the problem?
 
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October 11, 2005, 5:29 pm PDT

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I am 31 yrs. old and my husband is 43.  We have been together for 6 yrs and married for 3.  I am very frustrated about our sex life.  He works out of town alot and when he is home sex is not important.  I told him I have to do without when he is out of town I shouldn't have to when he is at home.  I have tried talking , begging and finally told him I was not asking anymore.  Since then we have not had sex.  So I feel emotionally alone,  and single .  So if I feel single should I take the plunge   AFFAIR OR DIVORCE. 

Lovemenot 
 
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October 12, 2005, 9:14 am PDT

I have huge sex drive he has little

Okay 27 yr female, vs 45yr male.....only problem I have is my drive is quite in over drive......but his is not.  a week for him is fine, I could do it eve4ryday...sometimes twice...so what we do is we start messing around, and stop short to finish later, this makes him turned on all day asnd appeases some of my labido....any other suggestions or comments?
 
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October 12, 2005, 6:40 pm PDT

Age is a problem

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Okay 27 yr female, vs 45yr male.....only problem I have is my drive is quite in over drive......but his is not.  a week for him is fine, I could do it eve4ryday...sometimes twice...so what we do is we start messing around, and stop short to finish later, this makes him turned on all day asnd appeases some of my labido....any other suggestions or comments?

when it comes to sex and compatibility. The key here is compatibility, if your on overdrive then thats because of your age. He is on stall because of his age as well, he's had his prime, and probably just isn't up for it any more. Normal for his age. 

  

Becareful though, you are going into your prime from now till well who knows when it will end. I'm 49 and still like it daily. Don't get tied down to a man who isn't going to match your sex drive, you will regret it in another yr or so. You will be soooooooo frustrated that you'll chew your arm off!! Re think your relationship before you wind up angry and resentful at him. ~Red 
 
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October 12, 2005, 6:49 pm PDT

Why isn't it important

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I am 31 yrs. old and my husband is 43.  We have been together for 6 yrs and married for 3.  I am very frustrated about our sex life.  He works out of town alot and when he is home sex is not important.  I told him I have to do without when he is out of town I shouldn't have to when he is at home.  I have tried talking , begging and finally told him I was not asking anymore.  Since then we have not had sex.  So I feel emotionally alone,  and single .  So if I feel single should I take the plunge   AFFAIR OR DIVORCE. 

Lovemenot 

to him anymore? He is only 43, and if he is out of town and not getting any sex(?) then he should still be coming home and jumping your bones!! 

  

Something just doesn't jive, there has to be a reason. If he won't tell you what it is, then you need to deceide if you want to go without sex for the rest of your life. Hard choice, but it seems like he has made a choice not to have sex with you?! So if that is out of the question for you, then a divorce is the way to go, an affair will not solve the problem your having with hubby and only make it worse. Once your divorced then you can have as many sexual partners as you like(being careful of cource). 

Good luck, hope you find out what hubby is up to and why he is treating you this way...~Red 
 
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October 12, 2005, 7:30 pm PDT

there is hope

for all of you out there without sex drive, there is hope. I have been with the same man for 18 yrs and after boring, quicky, 4 times a yr. sex, I thought that was it for me, a life of blah sex. After giving thought to divorce, I met a man who has awakened every fiber in my body, I want him 24/7. I had never felt this way. So far, we've kept this affair only "emotional" because we know if we do have sex, we might not be able to keep it secret and things will get complicated. My point is just because you don't want it now, you can have a great drive if you find the right chemistry (guy).
 
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October 13, 2005, 7:25 am PDT

Emotional v/s physical

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for all of you out there without sex drive, there is hope. I have been with the same man for 18 yrs and after boring, quicky, 4 times a yr. sex, I thought that was it for me, a life of blah sex. After giving thought to divorce, I met a man who has awakened every fiber in my body, I want him 24/7. I had never felt this way. So far, we've kept this affair only "emotional" because we know if we do have sex, we might not be able to keep it secret and things will get complicated. My point is just because you don't want it now, you can have a great drive if you find the right chemistry (guy).

  

  

For me I think an "Emotional" affair would be harder to break off  than a "Physical" or sexual one.  

Once you get to need the emotional attachment of someone it is hard to go through the day without  

needing another fix!  When you add Chemistry well you have bigggg problems.. So do you plan on keeping your husband and your "Emotional" affair?  I am asking because I am riding the fence Divorce or Affair 
 
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