Topic : Differing Sex Drives

He is not wanting to take responsibility and dragging you along with a string. He knows you will keep taking him back and accepting his behavior . You need to make a stand. Don't think you can't make it without him. I had a 2 year old when I left my last husband and we were together for 7 years but he acted like that also but worse. I thought he would change but he wouldn't change because I enabled him. I kept allowing that to happen. Make a stand and see what he does and if he wont' stop than I would leave that situation because Men hardly ever change hun.. Good luck and I will be praying for you and your family.

Sincerely...

I believe my fiancee is a sex addict.  It seems like that is all that ever comes out of his mouth.  If he isn't wanting sex....he is talking about it.  I find myself telling him all the time ....."is that all you can talk about'?  We have been together a little over 2 yrs.  He went to Vietnam & has post traumatic stress syndrome.  He sees a psychologist regularly.  He is on a lot of medication.  He takes everything from heart medication to trazedone (sp?)...which I believe is a sleeping pill of sorts.  This problem is driving us apart.  If he could have sex every day...he would be happy.   It is really beginning to frustrate me.  We have talked about this problem many, many times....but nothing is getting better.  I am now finding myself wondering if I should get out of this relationship.

Any help would be appreciated!

Thanks

I feel terrible. I m married to the most amazing man - he is a great husband and a great father and when we met 7 years ago, things between us were very hot because we only saw each other about one week every month. When we married, he worked out of town and travelled alot so when he was home, it was like a honeymonn every day! 3 years ago I got pregnant with our daughter and we decided to change his career so he would be home with us. That is when the problems started in the bedroom. First of all he had pregnancy issues - not that he didn't find me ttractive but more like he put me up on this pedastal as mother instead of wife and woman. Now our daughter is 2 and although he is eager - it isn't quite what it once once and I am having a very hard time responding to him and when we do mke love, it is unsatisfying - at least for me. We talk about it and he tries but it seems so mechanical like he just doesn't get it or can't figure me out. I am starting to fantasize more and more about my ex, who always turned me on - even just thinking about him does. This scares me, I love my husband but sex is a very important thing to me.

Any advice?

My husband is a vet with PTSD too - on the same meds as well. Trazedone actually alleviates nightmares while helping them to stay asleep. I know sometimes when my hubby is having an episode, he wants sex as a form of reassurance and connection - the sme way women do, just coming from a man it feels wierd. Instead of judging your boyfriend or codemning him for wanting/talking about it all the time, try some different types of reassurance - holding hands, comforting talk, lots of ego-stroking, that sort of thing, I will bet you see him get back to normal soon.

Good luck!

I am still around.  He would never go to counceling.  Things are getting worse.  He isnt so bad about sex, he has kinda eased up a bit but now I am just not happy in this relationship.  He does work full time and does take care of the little one at night while I am at work, he works days, i work afternoons.  He does on occasion do the dishes also.  I am 26.  Sorry trying to answer your questions.  I'm kinda stuck, I love him with all my heart and soul but am not happy.  Don't know what to do.