Topic : Differing Sex Drives

My husband and I have been married for 16 years, and now we aren't intimate anymore. Yes, he loves me, kisses me goodbye and hello, and calls me, about 5 times a day, from work, just to say "I love You".

BUT, his sex drive has gone down the drain, and he's dragging me down with him. He has all kinds of excuses, but, I know he's not cheating. I know where he is all the time. Honestly.

He's overweight, and blames it on that, but he's only 10 pounds heavier than when we first met. I'm slim, but I like big teddy bears.

Sometimes he'll take Viagra, and that works great. Any advice? I've got a lot of beautiful lingere, used to no avail.

On another note: When a guy takes Viagra, and his erection lasts too long, the television ads say to go to the emergency room. The burning question is, "What do they do at E.R., for a man with that problem? Send over a cute nurse, or provide pornography? Just wondering.

Thanks for listening

 I HAVE BEEN THROUGH A LOT OF STUFF IN MY MARRIAGE AND SINCE THEN i HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME HAVING AN ORGASIM. I FEEL IT COMING, I JUST DONT NOW HOW TO RELEASE IT. HOW CAN I GET OVER THIS PROBLEM

When a man loves a woman, under the influience of Viagra, and the erection last that long, there is a possibility of he losing his erection on a permament basis. The blood runs to that area, giving the erection, and blood vessels and such can burst and there is no cure, othe than the tongue.

What they usually do, to my understanding, it has never happened to me, is the give a shot in that area, which sounds tterrible, but not as bad as never getting it up again.

There are medical reasons for a man's sex dring to go in the toilet. Certain medications can cause a drop in sexual desiers. Two that come to mind are some acid control meds, and a big on is anti-Depressants. There are ohers and he should talk to his doctor about the situation. Obviously he has talked some, as he had the prescription medication. Another thing would be some sort of "new" stress in ones life. It is difficult to feel romantic when your nerves are shot, and you are worring about some situation. Drinking can make one more loose, but hender the actual act. A change in job or some life experience is anotheir thing that could "get in the way"

I Hope this gives you a little food for thought. Good luck, and keep us posted

Sexual Abuse can cause emotional problems not allowing a woman to reach orgasm. Sometimes a woman has not has a sex partner that gives the time for a woman, and is sexually selfish. Many men are more interested in their sexual gratification than that of their partners. I don't know if this applies to you or not. Getting close, but no cigar could also be the stress of you knowing ahead of time, that this difficulty occurs,  and then your focus goes on worrying about not having the orgasm to the point of it becoming a self fulfilling prophesy. Men, sometimes having a problem of obtain or maintain an erection and the next time they attempt sex, they worry so much about not getting an erection, they too wind up with a self fulfilling prophesy.

It is difficult to know where you fit in this situation, as there are so many variables. This is a small amount of food for thought. You may want to talk to a doctor or therapist if you think this is something emotional due to your sexual abuse. I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex!

I do understand what you are talking about and I do Thank you for the advice

I've never posted on a message board before, so here goes.

 I have been with my husband for 14yrs. Married 8yrs.