Topic : Differing Sex Drives

A persons sex drive and go up and down due to many physiological and psychological factors.

I am an atheist, I don't believe that sex should only be within marriage. I don't personally advocate people getting married with out having sex first, or at least talking about it...A LOT.

However, that part aside, there are people who wait to have sex that have healthy sex drives. Your social anxiety sounds like it is very much linked to your sex drive.

Try talking with a therapist about this. You can ask them about their own religion ideas before you start, that way you have a therapist who understands your ideals. I think until you deal with the reasons behind your anxiety, and you learn to live life with out those issues owning you, you won't have a fulfilling sexual side.

My girlfriend and I went from having amazing sex 2 times a day to lucky if its once a month. She says her body has changed and she's not horny anymore. I think she might be cheating on me what else could be the answer ? Anyone please help me!

Could be any of a number of things.  Yes, maybe there's something going on with her physically that's altered her sex drive.  There's also the usual slow down that most couples have after those early 'doing it all the time' days when they first got together.  You didn't say how long you two had been together, what your relationship status is (dating, living together, etc), so it's a little hard to guess. 

Keep an open mind on this one and talk to her. 

My fiance wants sexs like 2 times a day and I could really care less if I ever have sex again.. He gets really mean when we doesn't get sex at least 2 times a week.. so now it's to the point that I feel like I have to have sex. I think this is why my sex drive is totally gone. We have two kids together and after my first we didn't have the time to have sex a few times a day anymore.. well he thinks thats bs and still wants it that much.. I feel like sex is a chore and another thing on my to do list.. I have no sex drive at all.. I miss having a sex drive and I miss feeling close to him.. how do we fix things??

More than one person has told me that since they went on birth control pills that their sex drives have significantly diminished.

 

I was just wondering what some of your experiences have been?

Hi to everyone...Im new to this message thing,and im from south-africa.he he he

I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now and it started out like all good relationships but now it's not so good. My boyfriend told me a month ago that he hates kissing and being intemite and he didnt hate it when we started dating. I've read some of the comments and understand in a way but it upsets me! Is it because of me that we aren't having sex? He gets sooo angry when I ask him about this and I feel it's unfair. Also I made a joke a few days ago and said that at some point I thought he was cheating on me,and he went crazy defending himself which made me wonder, why over defend yourself if you haven't done anything wrong? Do I have a reason to worry or am I just being silly?

Please help me.

My husband and I have two totally different sex drives. we have been married for over 11 years and it is really the only thing we fight about. If we had it my way it would be twice a day, he would rather maybe once a week. It is hard to explain, but he just doesn't get it. All of his buddies told him he is a fool. They would give anything to have their wives just ask once.

 I used to feed him tons of garlic cause I heard once it would increase his sex drive. It just made his breath stink and I couldn't kiss him.

I call sex  "chocolate cake" since we have kids they have not a clue what we are talking about. I tell him that sex is like eating  chocolate cake. You eat one piece and then later on you are thinking about that cake and want another one. Although I can count on both hands how many times that has happened.

If your partner just doesn't have the same drive as you  then you better make sure you are prepared and understand what it really means.

I am a 50 year old woman. I've been divorced, widowed and recently a 13 year relationship ended. 4 months ago I met a man online, we spent one week together, took a three week trip across country and got married. He is 2 years younger than myself. Our sex drives are sooooooooooo different. I want it everyday and he is good with about once a week. I must initiate sex. We still haven't seen each other completely naked. But.............that will come with time I suppose. I don't understand why a 48 year old man wouldn't want to have sex all of the time. I just don't understand it. In my 13 year relationship, sex was every other day. Until near the end of the relationship. I thought all men wanted sex all of the time. What is his problem? Or am I wrong about men?

My husband never wants sex...we have been married for almost 20 years.  I am 46 and want it all the time.  Do you think he is cheating?  He does not seem the type.  What could it be?  I am about 20 lbs. overweight- could that be it?  Help-

MY HUSBAND OF 20 YEARS NEVER WANTS TO HAVE SEX...WE HAVE GONE 6 MONTHS AND THEN ONE NIGHT- WE HAVE SEX-GREAT SEX 3 OR 4 TIMES.  DO YOU THINK HE'S CHEATING?  HE SAYS HE DOES NOT EVEN MASTURBATE...PLEASE SOMEONE HELP.

 

ALSO, DOES A DR. NEED TO TELL A WIFE IS THE HUSBAND HAS A S.T.D.?