Quote From: memommaI have the same problem. I can't stand smells, and I referenced this in my previous post. I have a coffee-scented candle that I can't even be in the same room with, even if it's not lit because it gives me such a headache. I had to put it in a bag and put it in a drawer. I can totally relate, because when I kiss my husband, even if his teeth are brushed, the air coming out of his nose smells bad to me and turns me off. And I won't make love if we aren't both just-showered, because I am so self-conscious that
I might be the one that smells bad. So maybe I am a little OCD as well, and that might be part of my lack of desire to have sex. So at least I am not the only one like this. Is there some kind of help for this overactive olfactory problem? Besides Vicks, because that is also too strong of a smell for my delicate senses. And yes, odors do attach themselves to clothes and hair, and I am very conscious of it on others and self-conscious of it on myself. I have had to move to a new seat in church and other places because someone smells like their breakfast (bacon, sausage, etc) or other odors. So take heart, you're not the only one like this. Our poor husbands!!
Hi mimomma...wow...I just went back and read your other post. Though when I was younger, I did have a pretty good sex-drive, in general I hated to be touched in just simple forms of affection (except when I liked a special guy or something. (I guess my drive and sense of romance turned off all of those anti-touch feelings back then?). Don't get me wrong though!...I was a virgin till I was twenty (though I had plenty of 'everything but' before then) and I was pretty conservative after that before I met my husband.
I've always been embarrased to say 'I love you' to anyone. I mean to relatives when I was younger and now my husband and kids today. I'm squirmy when someone tries to hug me and try to shrug it off. I don't like kisses that are even the tiniest bit wet on my cheek (even from my kids). I can't cuddle for very long with my husband because I get all restless and feel confined. I always seem to want my space. I like knowing that the people I care about want to hug and kiss me and be near me...but I don't like them actually doing it.
As weird as this is going to sound...the only living things I actually love to kiss and cuddle with are my cats! Thus my user name! I'm not some psycho into weird things with animals or anything, but to me, they're beautiful. They're just so cute...and have that unconditional love thing going on. They're little bundles of comfort who want nothing more than to be fed and have a clean litterbox. Plus they're clean, and don't like hanging all over you. Instead, I hang all over them!
I mention the cats because through most of our marriage, my husband was literally jealous of the affection and attention I paid to our's. I mean we've actually argued about it! For some reason, I 've always been totally free with abandonment when it comes to hugging and squeezing them...Why can't I be that way with people? I'm a weird or is there a reason I'd feel that way?
I know I was intitially talking about how odors are ruining things for me but when I saw what you said about the touching and all...I saw so much of myself (cats aside!).
