Quote From: sillygirlyHello, I am a young girl about 24 and I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I love him very much but, he wants me to gain weight. I am only 5'3 and I stay around 115bls. I’m not bone skinny either. I have always been a little self-conscious and for me gaining weight is making me feel bad. I feel his desire for larger women has become a big issue in our relationship. I don’t know if I should just suck it up because I am being to vain or if this is some sort of abuse. He tells me that he loves me and I am very pretty but he doesn’t find me sexually attractive. I find myself telling him I want to do this for him just to make him happy because he makes me feel so bad if I don’t. He will not even look at me if he doesn’t think I’m trying to gain weight. I would like it if he would just accept me and not have expectations. I understand if someone has a preference but he has me felling very much tormented inside.
What should I do? Am I being to selfish?
Thank you all for your time.
do actually prefer big women. Others use it as a way to control their women. They think that if they get them fat enough, no one would look at them. This makes them feel secure, see he may be a very insecure guy who doesn't trust that you love him for him.... And he should love you for you, the way you are and have been for 8 yrs! Time to rethink the time you have invested in someone who wants you to change how you look. Your only 24 and much too young to waste any more time with someone who doesn't find you sexually attractive. Why would you even consider making yourself feel so terrible just to please some need he has?
Turn the tables and find something that you know he would hate to have to do and tell him you want him to do it or else... I bet you'd find him walking away with the door hitting him in the azz on the way out!
