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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:17:33 pm
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"He wants it twice a day!" "She would be happy to go a whole month without touching me." Does this sound familiar?

 
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June 6, 2006, 7:01 pm PDT

Differing Sex Drives

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I have been married to the same man for 18 years (in September).  Over the last 4 - 5 years we have had sex 4 - 5 times, yes that is right.  Once a year.  I have tried everything to seduce him, trn him on, his penis has shrunk and he has no interest what-so-ever and yet  I do not want to cheat on him and he refuses to go to the doctor.  If it were not for my Pocket Rocket I would be insane by now.  What shold I do>

If you look up infidelity online you will see what the signs are.  I'm married 35 years and our most frequent argument  since we married was his lack of interest in sex.  (once every 10 days or so was good enough for him, but not me).  After 32 years of marriage I found out he'd been cheating on me since day 1.  Wish someone had told me the signs to look for.  When I did doubt him and we talked about it he would say when would he cheat, when he wasn't at work, he was home, which was true.  Turns out he was seeing women during work hours or talking a few hours off without telling me.   Beware!!!   
 
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June 7, 2006, 9:13 am PDT

Differing Sex Drives

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Is it just me, or does everyone notice the changes in libido after being with the same person for a while? You can be dating a person with a skyhigh libido, only to find out after getting married, that their intrest level wanes....makes me wonder about the old adage, "men use marrige to get sex, and women use sex to get marrige". Any thoughts?
My libido is still where it was in 20's >I am now 50 married for 5 yrs to a man that has almost 0-2 sex drive and he i ONLY 45. NOW did he use sex to get married? I am frustrated with the whole dang thing. He does well living in a marriage as a single man, he has a wide screen to watch all his sports, his weed, his cigarettes now tell me is that living.  We are very kind to each other, I cook at less 2 - 3X some days, fix his lunch for work, wash his clothes, fold and put them away, keep the place clean and pay only the phone bill. I do not work and do not ask him for money to take care any of my personal needs, NOT even my sexual needs. No, I have not had an affair and I do not take care of my need. So now, does a 45 yr man still have a strong sex drive?
 
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June 7, 2006, 9:25 am PDT

Yes, I noticed

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Is it just me, or does everyone notice the changes in libido after being with the same person for a while? You can be dating a person with a skyhigh libido, only to find out after getting married, that their intrest level wanes....makes me wonder about the old adage, "men use marrige to get sex, and women use sex to get marrige". Any thoughts?
My libido is still where it was in 20's >I am now 50 married for 5 yrs to a man that has almost 0-2 sex drive and he i ONLY 45. When we dated it was not as often but it did have some spark to it when it did happen. NOW did he use sex to get married? I am frustrated with the whole dang thing. He does well living in a marriage as a single man, he has a wide screen to watch all his sports, his weed, his cigarettes now tell me is that living.  We are very kind to each other, I cook at less 2 - 3X some days, fix his lunch for work, wash his clothes, fold and put them away, keep the place clean and pay only the phone bill. I do not work and do not ask him for money to take care any of my personal needs, NOT even my sexual needs. No, I have not had an affair and I do not take care of my need. So now, does a 45 yr man still have a strong sex drive?
 
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June 7, 2006, 2:42 pm PDT

sex who eeds it

I am so tired of my husband complaining that he doesn't get it enough I could give n every night and skip one day and he is mad I would not even care if he is cheating anymore maybe he will leave me alone
 
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June 7, 2006, 10:09 pm PDT

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I am so tired of my husband complaining that he doesn't get it enough I could give n every night and skip one day and he is mad I would not even care if he is cheating anymore maybe he will leave me alone
 
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June 8, 2006, 9:10 am PDT

Sexually Frustrated

I am 21 yrs old and my girlfriend is 18 and we have been together for a little over a year.  She is still a virgin and I had never pressured her for sex.  I have been living with her (her parents's house) about a month.  We sleep together and have fooled around a bit but stop before things get too heavy.  At the beginning, my gf never liked to kiss, hug, make out, much less have sex.  Lately, we have moved on to the making out/fooling around stage, finally..... But I'm really getting sexually frustrated.  I sleep with her every night and it's really difficult not to get excited.  We've discussed having sex but she said she's afraid it will hurt.  I'm in love with her and i know she feels the same way but I'm getting tired of cold showers and i don't know what else to do...
 
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June 9, 2006, 4:11 pm PDT

What a turn off

Hey everyone...My boyfriend and I are the same age (29) and let me tell ya our sex drives are totally different. Unfortantlly this does cause tension between us. He wants all the time no matter what. I can tell him no,I don't feel good,I have a headache nothing matters to him he just wants sex. It is very frustrating to me cause I feel sex should happen naturally not because u have been bugged to death for it and just give it to them to shut them up...is that wrong? I have tryed so many times to to talk to him and say that his approach sucks to. He very rarly works up to its always...Lets go have sex or come make love to me...God those are such a turn off to me. Any ideas where to go from here...???
 
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June 11, 2006, 11:09 pm PDT

Married and having "NO" sex

Hi everyone,  

                     I have been married for almost 31/2 years and me and my husband have never had sex. Yes you hears me right NEVER had sex. Before we were married he was all over me and I am the type of girl that will wait till she is married, so on our honeymoon we tried to but he could not preform. I have been so calm about all of this but it is really starting to get to me bad. I know there is more to marriage than sex but I am getting none of that other stuff either. We have talked about it and I told him that I think he is not being very fair to me. Just because he has no sex drive does not mean that i don't and I wish he could help me and be with me but he told me that he knows it is wrong but thats just the way it is and it is taking a toll on me. Our marriage is not going well at all. We fuss all the time about nothing really but there is no kind of intimacy there at all in any way. He has been to the doctor and he got shots to help him but I have lost my job and we can not afford them anymore and even when he was taking them the did not work. There was still nothing there. I just want to know what I could do to try and help us both cause we are in this together but I feel like I am the only one trying plus I want kids and when you are not having sex that makes it a little hard. I am 34 and my clock is about to run out. Please if anyone can help or have ideas please let me know.....thanks S Dilgard 
 
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June 12, 2006, 2:13 pm PDT

different sex drives

Hi everyone. I am new to this site and these message boards.  But I need some advice.  Can anyone help? 
 
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June 12, 2006, 2:18 pm PDT

different sex drives

I guess my previous post should have said a bit more.  Here is the "question".....I like sex, I love to make love to my fiancee.  When we first got to that level in our relationship, the lovemaking was great.  Awesome.  Now, it almost seems to be a "chore" to him.  He NEVER wants to have sex anymore.  I'm lucky if he wants it once every six weeks, when it  used to be almost every day.  Also, when we do have sex, it's just that.  sex. it's not lovemaking anymore.  I ALWAYS have to manually stimulate him before anything happens, yet he NEVER gives me any foreplay.  He doesn't even kiss me or touch me anymore.  I fear he doesn't love me anymore, doesn't find me attractive, or is having an affair.  Help 

  
 
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