Well, not knowing much about your situation, it sounds like with the stress of the kids along with the mortgage and bills, he's having a hard time dealing - not that you aren't (but we're women and therefore natural multitaskers)!!! In my experience, my husband tends to "go into his cave" when he's stressed - even when he doesn't realize something's bothering him. What needs to happen is for you two to touch base, maybe even with a counselor as a mediator. Hopefully this would at least raise his awareness. I have a feeling he's not very emotionally invested anymore. Have you had deep, meaningful talks since the kids came around? Make date time like you used to? The romance shouldn't end once you get settled (get a babysitter). Try to get him to open up. I hope that he'd be willing to go along with it. He would if he cared. If it turns out he's ambivalent, DEFINITELY go to counseling!! And, if nothing else, toys come in handy. You need to look out for your #1 - YOU! Good luck.
