Topic : Differing Sex Drives

im confused, should i lke boys or girls society tells me so many diffrent things ps slayer rips

I bin with my man for three years now at first everything was good the sex was great after awhile I found the sex was going down hill , Ive tried everything to turn him on but I can't seem to do it .
after finding out that he was cheating on me I couldn't believe it because we never have sex and now  I find out he had sex three time with someone elce.  I don't get it he doesn't have this high sex drive to begin with before he started cheating on me we had sex maybe once or twice a month how do you have sex with someone you don't love and not have sex with someone you say you love?
He tells me I want sex all the time  Well YES I'm at my peek right now .
Now that I found out about his cheating he wasn't sex all the time I guess that's what guilt does to you , .Is sex a big part of  a relationship?????

yes sex is a big part of a hrelationship but not all of it.  i pray fr your sake he used protection.   i really feel for you, you must be in pain and anguish.   my now husband did cheat on me and lied about it but he didnt cheat sedxually at least to my knowledge but he probably did.  it hurt and today it still hurts from what he did.  i know everyone says to just up and eave them that we dont have to tolerate it, but its not that esdy once your in the shoes of being cheated on and you really love the person with your heart.

porn is just plain nasty and gross and degrqading to both men and female

 i don't know what to do we just had a baby 4 months ago ans he did say he used comdoms  and to top it off the b was a friend.  yes your right if my friends found out they would tell me to leave hin thats why i didn't tell anyone 

 do what feels right in your heart , don't listen to what everyone tells you because their not living your life you are and if you live your life for everyone Else you will never be happy .
I had a friend that didn't know what sex she liked and she just went with her feeling and ended up with another woman it's all what the heart tells you not what people tell you no one knows what you feel but you.

I am really sorry that you were pressured into such a violating act.  I feel any person who would push you to do something that you feel is so wrong has a very serious problem. He is willing to inflict physical and emotional pain on you for his own pleasure.  THAT IS JUST PLAIN WRONG. You need to tell him to get professional help or you will leave (if you are willing to leave) .  And you should seek help yourself no matter what he does.   Under no circumstances should you ever do this again unless it is somethng you want to do, not something you were pressured or manipulated into doing. 

  

ONLY YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY WHAT HAPPENS TO YOUR BODY!! 

  

My husband has also asked for this act.  One time a friend lent him an anal porno.  I found it and promptly took it into the driveway and ran over it with the car.  It was a clear message about my feelings on this subject.  Once in a while he still asks and I just tell him to leave me and go find what ever it is he is looking for. Needless to say he is still here.   I have not performed anal sex nor do I ever intend to.  I will not violate myself for someone elses pleasure or satisfaction. 

Well....if you believe in the Bible, it's HIS that matters.  "Devote yourselves to prayer for a time and then come together again so Satan will not tempt you because of your LACK OF SELF CONTROL."

Porn is a tragedy for both involved.  However, men would never have to resort to it if women didn't use their bodies as a weapon against us.  Women are the chief reason why men have to use porn, and it's a shame that we have to go that route because it IS degrading.

If you don't want us to cheat or buy "Just 18", then act like wives.  Remember what the Bible says; that the person who caused the sin faces a greater punishment than the person who committed the sin.  Hence, if you refuse to let your husband touch you and he cheats on you with his secretary, you've no one to blame BUT YOURSELF because men NEED sex. 

  

I mean, you wouldn't let us do our business on the rug, right?  It's the same thing.  It's a natural function that WE GUYS HAVE TO HAVE AND CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT. 

  

I have a friend of mine who is 79.  Back in the day when he was married, his wife wouldn't let him touch her because she thought sex was disgusting and only for procreation.  He was lucky to get a twice a year.  This forced him to go to every nudie bar in the San Fernando Valley. 

  

He says that she STILL doesn't get it. 

  

Yes, it's wrong for men to cheat and it's wrong for us to use porn-especially if we are married.  HOWEVER, we would do neither one if WOMEN PUT OUT.