Hello, I really did not want to say anything, but if this helps someone else, here it goes. My husband and I have been married for 26 years. It has been a struggle from the beginning, and I think we have stayed together because we are "used to each other." In other words, we support each other. We also do love, trust, and respect each other.
I had noticed that when he quit smoking, the problems with his lack of stamina during sex went away. I have given a lot of though to the problem...he gets an erection, and orgasms quickly, one minute tops it seems. He knows that he will become flaccid after we engage in sex after a few minutes into it, so he rushes, and is anxious to orgasm before his penis has a chance to become flaccid.
No, it is not my tight vaginal muscles, or my talent; it's him. LOL! He went to the doctor this past Saturday, and the doc said that he has high blood pressure to go along with the premature ejaculation/flaccidity problem. I have told my husband that he could solve both problems if he just quit smoking for good. Instead, he wants to try Levitra or something of the sort which can have side effects. He isn't thinking straight. I won't even kiss him because I don't like to taste cigarettes or smell it on him. He won't give up smoking, so it makes me feel that smoking is more important to him than a healthy sex life with me.
Your husband may have a health problem, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or diabetes which can contribute to sexual problems. Make an appt. for him, and if he smokes and you ask him to quit, you may be able to solve the problems brought on by smoking. I just can't seem to get it through my husband's head! Quit smoking, and you won't need pills! He is creating the problems.
