Topic : Differing Sex Drives

Yes, this sounds very familiar to me!  I believe that males have a high sex drive.  Sometimes women may have a high sex drive too, but not as often as males.  A woman can go some time without having sexual intercourse at all and it won't bother her.  On the other hand, some males act like they can't live without it.  Some males will go overboard and cheat just because they can't get any from their wife/girlfriend.  That is a shame. 

We definantly talk we talk a lot. She wants to have childeren 2 infact (how thats going to happen i don't know!) Yes your correct in your assumption NOTHING I have not had sex with her at all ever not even on the honeymoon! I do not do well with being subtle it has never been a quality of mine. I tend to speak exactly what is going on in my mind short of makeing acusations or being flat out rude. I am honestly starting to loose my interest and attraction to her I have not conveyed that to her but i have asked how long she expects me to be a good patient loyal husband. She did express concern about getting pregnent right now because she wants to wait untill i leave the military because she wants a more stable household and not worry about me so much. I have no problem at all with using condoms I am well versed in proper use of them (managed to not get 1 girlfriend pregnent throughout high school or college never even 1 pregnancy scare). Even if she did get pregnent now it would just be a earlier start to a family then we expected. I think she is just so uncomforitable with the idea of sex that she can not get herself to do it. She is attracted to me i know that much and I am not horrible when it comes to intamacy because she gets turned on enough to grind with me she just can't seem to get the courage to get naked and go the whole way. What we do do is fun but she doesnt seem to understand that anything short of sex just isnt't sex and there is a definant differance in the feeling of it. She has even had the nerve to ask me why i don't just use my hand and stop bothering her! 

this might sound horrible and im sure im gonna catch hell but what about getting her drunk and talking her into it that way 

or - and im sure all guys are bad about this- but are you like really big or something and its scaring her? 

on the preg thing if you use a condom and she gets on birth control she should feel secure enough to not worry about pregnancy 

if nothing else - if youre getting to the annulment point- give her an ultimatum- if not couple marriage counseling will she talk to someone alone? maybe theres something she doenst want you to know- something shes embarrassed about 

 I know what you are going throught I am to a mother of four and I am 26 and have been married to my husband for almost four yrs. I take care of all the bills and kids and cleaning and cooking and ariens and appointments and on top of that I go to work at 1am to 4am. My husband thinks about sex all the time and talks about it all the time. We almost always get into fight about not having sex and if it is not that were fighting about then were fighting about bills and money. I to have a bad habit of pushing my husband away when he is trying to love on me cause I think then he is going to turn it into something sexual instead of just cuddling. He always tells me that their somthing wrong with me or he says he never gets it at all. We have sex once a week. when we first got togther we had sex every night. So just to let you know it is not just you that feels this way  

                                                                                                                                               chelsea