Topic : Differing Sex Drives
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March 10, 2006, 7:34 pm PST
 Quote From: eredluin Hi, My husband is a good guy, never abusive or mean, not bossy either. Not like the awful mean husbands on the show. So, what do I have to complain about? He rarely wants sex. We didn't have sex until our wedding night, but I thought once we were married the fun would never stop. Even on our honeymoon (25 years ago) he was dissapointed and really would rather I left him alone. Back then I was 112lbs, cute or pretty depending on who you talked to, very fit, And VERY horny. I read all sorts of books on marraige and they all (even the christian ones) said "men LOVE sex, it's how you can show them you love them, initiate it, he'll LOVE it" So I did. He enjoyed it when we did it, but rarely initiated it himself. One night in the first year of marriage I came out of the bedroom wearing a sexy neglige and he yelled and said "can't you just leave me alone?" ( he was going to college at the time and was studying) That night I decided OK, I'll leave you alone. I didn't initiate sex again till I just couldn't take it anymore....We went 3 MONTHS without sex. Every night I wept as I lay beside him in bed.(he never even noticed). We didn't have sex again untill I came to him crying my heart out and told him it's been 3 months, don't you love me anymore? He hadn't even noticed how long it had been. I felt and still feel utterly rejected as a woman, wife and lover. I mean men are supposed to be horny, right? He's supposed to desire me. We have gone years at a time without sex. The ONLY time he couldn't keep his hands off me was when I was nursing our son. You all know what happens when a woman nurses right? I finally had boobs. The sex was GREAT!!!!!! He actually wanted me!!! However, once our son was weaned and the boobs shrank he stopped wanting me. I offered to get implants but he said "you're just fine the way you are". Good answer, nice answer, but I believe it was a lie. I'm so sad. I 've given up on looking nice, makup, keeping the weight off. It never made any difference when I was young and pretty, why should it make any difference now? I've been diagnosed with depression and am on medication. I gave up on happiness long ago. But now I REAlIZE, I'M MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Dr. says that this is good, that I'm coming out of the fog I've been in for so many years. He says that careing again instead of just being dead inside is a good thing. But I resent so many things, and this is one of the biggest. I've been faithful to my husband, but I feel like he's starved me of sex, and I'm not about to go outside of my marraige for it. I took vows and have kept them. But darn it, I'm so lonely and feel so ugly and unwanted. I'm crying now as I type this. Fixing myself up doesn't work. (tried that). Losing weight and getting fit doesn't work (tried that) Makeup doesn't work, (tried that) Is there ANYTHING I can do? I see women who don't want to have sex with their husbands.or feel used by their husbands. That would be bad, but try being invisable unless his laundry isn't done, or I don't fix dinner (did that once, THAT got a reaction!!). I feel like I'm his mommy, not his wife. He's had his hormone levels tested. Our Dr. thought maybe he was abused, but he's been to a counselor about 5 times and the counselor doesn't think he was abused. I don't know what else to do. And I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. HELP ME DR. PHIL!!!!!!! I too am going through the exact same thing. I could have wrote your note. WHY????WHY????WHY???? Same story exactly...we waited for the most part until marriage, etc. etc. etc. If anyone has answers PLEEEEASE tell usl. |
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March 10, 2006, 9:46 pm PST
Quote From: eredluin Hi, My husband is a good guy, never abusive or mean, not bossy either. Not like the awful mean husbands on the show. So, what do I have to complain about? He rarely wants sex. We didn't have sex until our wedding night, but I thought once we were married the fun would never stop. Even on our honeymoon (25 years ago) he was dissapointed and really would rather I left him alone. Back then I was 112lbs, cute or pretty depending on who you talked to, very fit, And VERY horny. I read all sorts of books on marraige and they all (even the christian ones) said "men LOVE sex, it's how you can show them you love them, initiate it, he'll LOVE it" So I did. He enjoyed it when we did it, but rarely initiated it himself. One night in the first year of marriage I came out of the bedroom wearing a sexy neglige and he yelled and said "can't you just leave me alone?" ( he was going to college at the time and was studying) That night I decided OK, I'll leave you alone. I didn't initiate sex again till I just couldn't take it anymore....We went 3 MONTHS without sex. Every night I wept as I lay beside him in bed.(he never even noticed). We didn't have sex again untill I came to him crying my heart out and told him it's been 3 months, don't you love me anymore? He hadn't even noticed how long it had been. I felt and still feel utterly rejected as a woman, wife and lover. I mean men are supposed to be horny, right? He's supposed to desire me. We have gone years at a time without sex. The ONLY time he couldn't keep his hands off me was when I was nursing our son. You all know what happens when a woman nurses right? I finally had boobs. The sex was GREAT!!!!!! He actually wanted me!!! However, once our son was weaned and the boobs shrank he stopped wanting me. I offered to get implants but he said "you're just fine the way you are". Good answer, nice answer, but I believe it was a lie. I'm so sad. I 've given up on looking nice, makup, keeping the weight off. It never made any difference when I was young and pretty, why should it make any difference now? I've been diagnosed with depression and am on medication. I gave up on happiness long ago. But now I REAlIZE, I'M MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Dr. says that this is good, that I'm coming out of the fog I've been in for so many years. He says that careing again instead of just being dead inside is a good thing. But I resent so many things, and this is one of the biggest. I've been faithful to my husband, but I feel like he's starved me of sex, and I'm not about to go outside of my marraige for it. I took vows and have kept them. But darn it, I'm so lonely and feel so ugly and unwanted. I'm crying now as I type this. Fixing myself up doesn't work. (tried that). Losing weight and getting fit doesn't work (tried that) Makeup doesn't work, (tried that) Is there ANYTHING I can do? I see women who don't want to have sex with their husbands.or feel used by their husbands. That would be bad, but try being invisable unless his laundry isn't done, or I don't fix dinner (did that once, THAT got a reaction!!). I feel like I'm his mommy, not his wife. He's had his hormone levels tested. Our Dr. thought maybe he was abused, but he's been to a counselor about 5 times and the counselor doesn't think he was abused. I don't know what else to do. And I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. HELP ME DR. PHIL!!!!!!! Your story is my story. That's why I'm here on the message board at ten to one in the morning instead of in bed where my loving but no-sex husband is waiting.
The anger, the depression, the "I've tried everything - nothing works," I've been through it all. Does anyone have any answers? Life is short, and I'd hate to look back and regret all the years that were wasted. |
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March 10, 2006, 10:03 pm PST
Quote From: hkshot Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. He is 27 and I am 24 and we live together. The bottom line is that he never..and when I say never...I mean never, wants to have sex with me. We have gone almost 3 months without it. I try to talk to him about it and he says that "our relationship isn't based on sex", well no duh, but at least a little will help. I have went through all of the emotions of being mad, sad, confused, feeling fat and ugly...when I know I am not. Any other boyfriend of mine use to want to have sex as much as I did. I have tried talking to him to not saying anything and just letting him initiate it. And the nights that I do try to have sex with him, he's too tired. I am tired of being rejected!!! This seriously hurts my heart, I don't know what to do. He's a wonderful person, and I know and believe in my heart that he's not cheating. But I don't want to end up resenting him more than I do now. Any advice????? Do not, repeat do not, under any conditions marry this man until and unless you get this situation worked out. Trust me, it will only get worse. I've been married 25 years, and the sex differences started on the honeymoon. Now sex is almost non-existent. I feel anger, resentment, depression, frustration, you name it. He is otherwise a wonderful man.
If you can get this straightened out now, great. If not, find someone whose sex drive matches your own. It's just not worth it. And, for heaven's sake, do not get pregnant. |
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March 10, 2006, 10:03 pm PST
Quote From: eredluin Hi, My husband is a good guy, never abusive or mean, not bossy either. Not like the awful mean husbands on the show. So, what do I have to complain about? He rarely wants sex. We didn't have sex until our wedding night, but I thought once we were married the fun would never stop. Even on our honeymoon (25 years ago) he was dissapointed and really would rather I left him alone. Back then I was 112lbs, cute or pretty depending on who you talked to, very fit, And VERY horny. I read all sorts of books on marraige and they all (even the christian ones) said "men LOVE sex, it's how you can show them you love them, initiate it, he'll LOVE it" So I did. He enjoyed it when we did it, but rarely initiated it himself. One night in the first year of marriage I came out of the bedroom wearing a sexy neglige and he yelled and said "can't you just leave me alone?" ( he was going to college at the time and was studying) That night I decided OK, I'll leave you alone. I didn't initiate sex again till I just couldn't take it anymore....We went 3 MONTHS without sex. Every night I wept as I lay beside him in bed.(he never even noticed). We didn't have sex again untill I came to him crying my heart out and told him it's been 3 months, don't you love me anymore? He hadn't even noticed how long it had been. I felt and still feel utterly rejected as a woman, wife and lover. I mean men are supposed to be horny, right? He's supposed to desire me. We have gone years at a time without sex. The ONLY time he couldn't keep his hands off me was when I was nursing our son. You all know what happens when a woman nurses right? I finally had boobs. The sex was GREAT!!!!!! He actually wanted me!!! However, once our son was weaned and the boobs shrank he stopped wanting me. I offered to get implants but he said "you're just fine the way you are". Good answer, nice answer, but I believe it was a lie. I'm so sad. I 've given up on looking nice, makup, keeping the weight off. It never made any difference when I was young and pretty, why should it make any difference now? I've been diagnosed with depression and am on medication. I gave up on happiness long ago. But now I REAlIZE, I'M MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Dr. says that this is good, that I'm coming out of the fog I've been in for so many years. He says that careing again instead of just being dead inside is a good thing. But I resent so many things, and this is one of the biggest. I've been faithful to my husband, but I feel like he's starved me of sex, and I'm not about to go outside of my marraige for it. I took vows and have kept them. But darn it, I'm so lonely and feel so ugly and unwanted. I'm crying now as I type this. Fixing myself up doesn't work. (tried that). Losing weight and getting fit doesn't work (tried that) Makeup doesn't work, (tried that) Is there ANYTHING I can do? I see women who don't want to have sex with their husbands.or feel used by their husbands. That would be bad, but try being invisable unless his laundry isn't done, or I don't fix dinner (did that once, THAT got a reaction!!). I feel like I'm his mommy, not his wife. He's had his hormone levels tested. Our Dr. thought maybe he was abused, but he's been to a counselor about 5 times and the counselor doesn't think he was abused. I don't know what else to do. And I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. HELP ME DR. PHIL!!!!!!! WOW, this looks like exactly what I would have written except it's my wife is the one who doesn't want the sex. She thinks the problem is mine. Whenever I try to initiate she rejects me and has for years. We have had, I call it sex because there doesn't feel like there's love in the relationship anymore, it only twice in the last 7 years. I've always thought the level of intimacy is a gauge of how strong the relationship is, am I wrong? I would have probably have left by now except we can't afford a divorce due to credit card debt. I've been working on the for the last year, haven't used one and been paying as much as I can along with transferring the mid to high rate cards to lower rates. I've told her a few times in the last year that if things don't get better between us when our youngest (he's 16) graduates and the debt is down we'll sell the house and go our separate ways, that it's over. We only started buying the house 3 years ago and don't have much equity built up and she announced about 9 months ago she wants to sell and move. What she doesn't realize is it would cost us more to move into another house than to stay here. In another 2 1/2 years there will be more equity built up and the debt should be down. Like you I've also given up, did years ago. I've tried praying but gotten no answer, unless that is the answer, this marriage should never have happened and to end it.
She was abused as a young girl, went through about 2 1/2-3 years of counselling (turned out the counsellor wasn't qualified). She thinks that she has worked through that, but there are things about her life before I met her she never discussed with the counselor. I think they are still eating at her and she refusses to see it.
I don't what more to do except to continue walking on egg shells. eredluin, don't feel like your alone because you're not. |
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March 11, 2006, 8:08 am PST
Hi everyone,
I'm new to this board but I have been searching for somewhere to vent out what I'm feeling and see if anyone has any advice for me. My husband has this fantasy of wanting to see me have sex with another man while he watches and then joins in. This I am TOTALLY uncomfortable with and will not do for him. My values on marriage and the marriage bed are very different from his. I feel that when you marry that is the person you share your whole being with, no one else. He doesn't feel that way and actually would like me to become part of the swinger lifestyle he once was a part of. He has been at me for a couple of years now over this and I feel it has come to a point where we may end up splitting because he just won't let it go. I have tried asking what else we can do to try and satisfy this "urge" he says will never go away. He tells me nothing will satisfy it but that. Just to clarify, I knew of his past when we met however, he has not done that since we met. I told him then that it was not something I would do and that he needed to understand a decide if he could live with that. At the time he told me he was over that lifestyle and that it was a "young" thing. About a year after we married he started to bring it up slowly and casually. Then about a year and a half ago it became like this constant thing for him. I can't take it and I feel so hurt by him not excepting how I feel and leaving it be. Now I deal with whether he will cheat for this reason, can I trust him? The hurt in my heart is becoming unbarable and I'm angry, very angry. I have so much more to say but I will leave it for another time. If anyone has every been in this situation or has any kind of advice or just kind words, I would love to hear it.
Thanks, R* |
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March 11, 2006, 8:58 am PST
I am new to Dr. Phil 's message boards, I have not posted before but I feel I have no other place to go. My husband and I have been married for 10.5 years and we lived together for 10 years before that, so in all we have been together for 20.5 years. He is 54 I am 44. We have a good life, we own our own business. We have 3 happy children, 2 grandsons and a dog. My problem and funny I say "my problem", is that we don't have sex. This has happened over the last 3-4 years from what I can remember. I can't say I have always wanted to have sex when he initaited over the years but, who does? It has begun to be a huge problem. Last year (March 05) he went to the Dr. without me for a check up and came back and handed me a bag. Said here I got something for you. I looked in the bag and it was Livitra, I was happy. I was very happy. There was 4 pill samples and a prescription for 10 more. I filled it at his request. We still have 11 pills! I have tried the sexy nightgowns, candles. I have been so blunt to say " I want to have sex tonight at 9, please take a pill or do what you have to do to get in the mood". I did this because i have been told several times " You have to warn me, let me know, tell me to take a pill". So I did. 9 o'clock would come and go. I would say let's go... He would say, "oops I forgot to take the pill". The last time we had sex 2 weeks ago, was the 1st time for 4 months. And it was quite the production, I did put on a sexy nightgown and lit the candles. He did take a pill and we had sex. It was very unsatisfying. But I was feeling like it was such a production, I deserve more than this. I have mentioned several times, we need a date night, we need to make a "fool around date"...He smiles and says yeah. Our children our out of the house. We can't use that as an excuse. Our sex life was good, it was very good. We are adveturous, we have toys, movies and open minds. But the only thing he wants at all anymore is oral sex and that has to be timed very well. I am sad, lonley and afraid. I know we love eachother, but I lack effection. I need to be kissed. I need to be made love to. I dont' need a production everytime, nothing wrong with a quickie, they are fun. So I am open. I do think my husband finds his relief online. When I go to meetings or am gone for longer than 1 hour, he is on the computer looking at smut. I feel sad at this, because I feel he has to look at 24 year olds, with fake boobs, 22" waists and rear-ends the size of a catalope. I am none of these things. I do think I am somewhat attractive, I put make up on everyday, dress everyday and have all my teeth. But by breasts don't stand by themselves, my waist is there somewhere and my butt is a large catalope. But I can't compete with those on line, I can't be compaired to them. They are 20 years younger than me. So there ya have it. Somewhere out there, there must be another me...another women who is thinking the same things. I simply can't be the only one. |
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March 11, 2006, 7:18 pm PST
i have a theory- guys in general dont want it all the time that the media makes us think they do- what is it that they think about it every 5 seconds or something? i dont believe it i and every single girlfriend of mine is the one begging for it- as speaking of which - men- begging is humiliating especially when you are still turned down afterwards ive been married for almost 5 years- i am in my early to mid twenties and hubby is in his very early thirties- when we first got together it was every day 4- 5 - 6 times a day- and i loved it- i wasnt really sexual before that- after a few months it started to drop off- and then more- and now im lucky if i get it twice a month- this is drives me crazy - at first i had major issues with it- was really hurt but basically ive dealt with it- take care of myself basically and dont let it bother me because i know he has a stressful job and just isnt that sexual of a person but i would love being chased by hubby |
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March 11, 2006, 7:29 pm PST
Quote From: rmt081207 Hi everyone,
I'm new to this board but I have been searching for somewhere to vent out what I'm feeling and see if anyone has any advice for me. My husband has this fantasy of wanting to see me have sex with another man while he watches and then joins in. This I am TOTALLY uncomfortable with and will not do for him. My values on marriage and the marriage bed are very different from his. I feel that when you marry that is the person you share your whole being with, no one else. He doesn't feel that way and actually would like me to become part of the swinger lifestyle he once was a part of. He has been at me for a couple of years now over this and I feel it has come to a point where we may end up splitting because he just won't let it go. I have tried asking what else we can do to try and satisfy this "urge" he says will never go away. He tells me nothing will satisfy it but that. Just to clarify, I knew of his past when we met however, he has not done that since we met. I told him then that it was not something I would do and that he needed to understand a decide if he could live with that. At the time he told me he was over that lifestyle and that it was a "young" thing. About a year after we married he started to bring it up slowly and casually. Then about a year and a half ago it became like this constant thing for him. I can't take it and I feel so hurt by him not excepting how I feel and leaving it be. Now I deal with whether he will cheat for this reason, can I trust him? The hurt in my heart is becoming unbarable and I'm angry, very angry. I have so much more to say but I will leave it for another time. If anyone has every been in this situation or has any kind of advice or just kind words, I would love to hear it.
Thanks, R* R - i am so sad you are going thru this- if your husband has been into the lifestyle before he should know that choice is huge in it- and you arent comfortable with it and dont want to do it- he needs to get over it- he chose you and im sure he loves you - tell him to stop that you dont want to do it and is he willing to risk your marriage? have you talked to him about counseling? |
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March 11, 2006, 9:54 pm PST
Quote From: eredluin Hi, My husband is a good guy, never abusive or mean, not bossy either. Not like the awful mean husbands on the show. So, what do I have to complain about? He rarely wants sex. We didn't have sex until our wedding night, but I thought once we were married the fun would never stop. Even on our honeymoon (25 years ago) he was dissapointed and really would rather I left him alone. Back then I was 112lbs, cute or pretty depending on who you talked to, very fit, And VERY horny. I read all sorts of books on marraige and they all (even the christian ones) said "men LOVE sex, it's how you can show them you love them, initiate it, he'll LOVE it" So I did. He enjoyed it when we did it, but rarely initiated it himself. One night in the first year of marriage I came out of the bedroom wearing a sexy neglige and he yelled and said "can't you just leave me alone?" ( he was going to college at the time and was studying) That night I decided OK, I'll leave you alone. I didn't initiate sex again till I just couldn't take it anymore....We went 3 MONTHS without sex. Every night I wept as I lay beside him in bed.(he never even noticed). We didn't have sex again untill I came to him crying my heart out and told him it's been 3 months, don't you love me anymore? He hadn't even noticed how long it had been. I felt and still feel utterly rejected as a woman, wife and lover. I mean men are supposed to be horny, right? He's supposed to desire me. We have gone years at a time without sex. The ONLY time he couldn't keep his hands off me was when I was nursing our son. You all know what happens when a woman nurses right? I finally had boobs. The sex was GREAT!!!!!! He actually wanted me!!! However, once our son was weaned and the boobs shrank he stopped wanting me. I offered to get implants but he said "you're just fine the way you are". Good answer, nice answer, but I believe it was a lie. I'm so sad. I 've given up on looking nice, makup, keeping the weight off. It never made any difference when I was young and pretty, why should it make any difference now? I've been diagnosed with depression and am on medication. I gave up on happiness long ago. But now I REAlIZE, I'M MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Dr. says that this is good, that I'm coming out of the fog I've been in for so many years. He says that careing again instead of just being dead inside is a good thing. But I resent so many things, and this is one of the biggest. I've been faithful to my husband, but I feel like he's starved me of sex, and I'm not about to go outside of my marraige for it. I took vows and have kept them. But darn it, I'm so lonely and feel so ugly and unwanted. I'm crying now as I type this. Fixing myself up doesn't work. (tried that). Losing weight and getting fit doesn't work (tried that) Makeup doesn't work, (tried that) Is there ANYTHING I can do? I see women who don't want to have sex with their husbands.or feel used by their husbands. That would be bad, but try being invisable unless his laundry isn't done, or I don't fix dinner (did that once, THAT got a reaction!!). I feel like I'm his mommy, not his wife. He's had his hormone levels tested. Our Dr. thought maybe he was abused, but he's been to a counselor about 5 times and the counselor doesn't think he was abused. I don't know what else to do. And I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. HELP ME DR. PHIL!!!!!!! Unfortunitley, I know your story too well. Only difference is we've only been married for 7 weeks. I was hoping things would get better, but they have only gotten worse. We also waited until after marriage to have sex. And he was soooo ready until we said our do's. Starting with our wedding night, I had to beg and plead and eventually to tears before he would give in. He says the sex is great, he's just not attracted to me because of my weight gain. About 3 years I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Because of the surgery, bed rest, a lot of meds including steriods, I have put on 60 pounds. I'm still on quite a few meds. So it's so hard to loose the weight right now. But instead of being thankful I made it through the surgery, he's unattracted to me because of the pounds I had no control of putting on??? The greatest fear in life has always been rejection. And if your own husband not wanting to make love to you, touch you or even look at you unless you're fully clothed isn't rejection enough, I'd surely like to know what is? And is this what I have to look forward to? 50 years of rejection???? |
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March 12, 2006, 8:00 am PST
Quote From: rmt081207 Hi everyone,
I'm new to this board but I have been searching for somewhere to vent out what I'm feeling and see if anyone has any advice for me. My husband has this fantasy of wanting to see me have sex with another man while he watches and then joins in. This I am TOTALLY uncomfortable with and will not do for him. My values on marriage and the marriage bed are very different from his. I feel that when you marry that is the person you share your whole being with, no one else. He doesn't feel that way and actually would like me to become part of the swinger lifestyle he once was a part of. He has been at me for a couple of years now over this and I feel it has come to a point where we may end up splitting because he just won't let it go. I have tried asking what else we can do to try and satisfy this "urge" he says will never go away. He tells me nothing will satisfy it but that. Just to clarify, I knew of his past when we met however, he has not done that since we met. I told him then that it was not something I would do and that he needed to understand a decide if he could live with that. At the time he told me he was over that lifestyle and that it was a "young" thing. About a year after we married he started to bring it up slowly and casually. Then about a year and a half ago it became like this constant thing for him. I can't take it and I feel so hurt by him not excepting how I feel and leaving it be. Now I deal with whether he will cheat for this reason, can I trust him? The hurt in my heart is becoming unbarable and I'm angry, very angry. I have so much more to say but I will leave it for another time. If anyone has every been in this situation or has any kind of advice or just kind words, I would love to hear it.
Thanks, R* It's some how comforting to see that there are others out there who are feeling the same way that I am. My partner does not want sex, ever, not with me anyways. I do feel all of the things that previous posters have confided. I, too, am lonely and most of all I feel horribly rejected. We have not had sex for months now and this is so common that I don't even consider taking note of the last time we had it. On the rare occassion that it does happen it is horrible, mechanical and it seems that he just wants to get off. He, too, has mentioned threesomes which I am not willing to engage in. As a result I am no longer attracted to him and the lack of sex has become an underlying problem that effects our entire relationship. I often get angry and feel so terribly alone that my moods swing more than I care to admit. We have discussed this ad nauseum and neither one of us is willing to talk about it any more, talking gets us nowhere and so what isn't resolved gets worse. I am attractive and men do approach me quite often so there is a great temptation for me to step out but I refuse to do so knowing that it won't solve anything. So, I remain in an empty relationship and it's effecting every area of my life. Last week I asked my partner to bring something to the bathroom for me and I answered the door naked. He simply handed me what I requested and looked at my feet. I felt so rejected and now I vacillate between feeling rejected and being really angry. Of course no one else knows this most personal pain and because it's effecting my moods and my partner is such a nice guy people do not understand my sadness. Previously, I was married to a man who could not get enough of me, in that manner, and I miss him terribly because of my unfulfilled needs. This just makes things even worse. My partner has little to no emotion regarding anything. He is very stoic and his moods are almost non-existent. I believe that he has a problem and that the problem isn't about me at all but living with it is obviously going to effect me. |
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