Topic : Differing Sex Drives

You say you are so comfortable with him; you also said he's asking you to do things that compromise your integrity, so he is making you uncomfortable. Right? 

 Never ever take a picture you wouldn't want your grandma to see. If he decides to be your ex-boyfriend, you might find yourself on the Internet in an unflattering way. 

 You are not being a prude by protecting yourself from potential harm be it physical or psychological. Losing your self-respect is one way an abuser gets a hold on a person. It's a slippery slope. Don't start sliding. 

Be true to yourself and your values. If he really loves you he'll stay with you. If he doesn't love you he is likely to leave no matter what you do. 

I can understand your predicament and it was the one thing that I tried very hard to avoid but didn't.  Funny thing is that we've talked and talked and talked about what to do, what not to do, who's gonna do what, when, where, etc, etc ... we leave the talks feeling good but NOTHING has changed. 

So, if I do what was asked for me, she assumes that it's all about sex ... well, somewhat, yeah ... "you told me that you wanted me to do more of this or that".  Now, the very things that she wanted me to try won't work because they are now associated to sex, which is not of any interest to her.  So, I'm frustrated ... sexually, mentally, physically, emotionally ... heck, I'm stressed about it all. 

So, it's almost easier to not even bother, right?  Hmmm ... nope, then the guilt talks come out, "why this? why not that?  you never do this?" ... what can you do? 

sometimes it seems like you just can't win.  sorry, this message doesn't come with any helpful advice but, at least, you know that you're not alone! 

    I  thought   I  was    Alone  !!! 

•    first of all,  she  likes  to  worked  17  or  more  hours  a day...
•    then,  she takes  a few  naps  in  between  and  we  she  gets  home,  she is ...
•    I  will  bring  nice  RoseS  and then  nothing,
•    Last  night,  she noticed  the  Flowers  i  brought  home... but to no avail,  any clues ???        Why? 

1.      From  Quote 
2.      If  he  really  cares  for you,  he will NOT do  this  ... for your  love,   i will  find  someone NeW

There is a difference between self-respect and just a hankerin' to go in the back door. If her self worth is less important to you.....Good riddance to you. 

Hi everyone! I have a situation that I do not feel in control of, and am curious as to anyone else's opinion on it. I am 33 years old, married for 14 years with a 11 yr. old daughter. I met my husband when I was 15, been with him ever since. My husband 'rescued' me from a bad home, a place where they still call me 'crazy' and 'stupid'. As recent as last year, I could not get my mother to admit I was not crazy, or that she loved me. I have both parents living in the same town, as well as 3 brothers. I do still see them, however have really cut my contact with them over the years. I have it down to holidays only, pretty much.  

Anyhow, my sex drive is almost non-exisistent. I mean, sometimes I'm really ready to go, but much more often, I am not. I was molested as a child by my father and one of my brothers, something I let my husband know not long after we met. It never occured to either one of us that my sex drive lack of, may be due to my childhood. I started to read a book about healing from this, and it brought me more memories that were shocking! My husband was behind me on the journey, however he has issues with not 'getting any' and I think he thought this would take only a few days to accomplish. It didn't, and after a big fight I quit with any of it. I am considering pulling the book out again and really trying to heal and move on in my life, and I also have my husband agreeing to read a book on a functional family. My question is this, is it possible that this is the cause for my lack of desire? Is it plausible that I will be able to move on and heal from something that happened so long ago? I was truly shocked at the memories I discovered while trying this the first time, won't it do more damage than good to dig up the real truth that I'm hiding in my brain somewhere? Why can't I simply say to myself 'get over it' and have that happen with something like this?  

Sorry to go on and on, I appreciate everyone's time who reads this. Any suggestions, comments or advice on this topic?   

Jenn