Topic : Differing Sex Drives

There are lots of reasons his appetite could have changed, and some of them may have absolutely nothing to do with you. There are certain medications that can cause a man lose his sexual desires. Acid reflux, cholesterol, anti depressants, can all cause a man's libido to drop drastically. Another thing could be he may be experiencing ED (erectile dysfunction) and he could be embarrassed to even talk about it. We (men) are socially taught it is our "manhood" so if our manhood is not working, we may look at ourselves as no longer a man, and how embarrassing would that be? The other thing that I am uneasy to even mention would be an affair.

 

Communications is the cornerstone of any relationship, and if you are not able to communicate with each other about this, then you need to find a way to do so. Do some research and print some information about the things I have mentioned that may fit him, and then sit him down and see if he would be willing to talk about it.

 

You have already mentioned he is still fit, and you are no longer a fit person. Well be prepared to hear that that could be the problem. Some men, especially ones vain with their own body, have an exaggerated propensity to not be attracted to one that is not as fit as they are.

 

I'm sure I am not giving you the answer you are looking for, but I hope it is at least a starting point for you. Good luck, and keep us posted, as it could help someone else

I am 39 yrs old and my wife is 26. We married in August of 07 and we had the best relationship you could ask for. I got an injury to my back in Nov. Ever since then my ability to function fully has dropped and my wife has become very distant in our physical relationship. I feel like I am hurting her because I am on meds that just don't let me go for a long period of time sexually. It doesn't help that she will wait 3 weeks now to be in the mood because she is afraid of the let down. I have tried Viagra and no help at all from it. I even asked her lastnight if she wanted out of the marriage without default of her own but by me because I don't feel I am taking care of my wife very well anymore due to my injury. It is very painful in my heart to feel like this I love her so very much. She has taken on the role of bread winner and I know she is stessed but this don't help if I can't give her any release physically either. I am scared she will give up and look else where. Is there anything I can do or ideas to help her? I am tired of crying myself to sleep because she is unhappy. HELP!

I have been married for 25 years in October. My husband is one of the controlling kind. Always his way and when, no matter what the subject.  I am the one who takes care of everything around house and all bills. Basically I do everything.  My husband could never get enough sex when we were younger.  Now I am in my early 40's and I can't seem to get enough.  When we do he takes me places I have never been before.  Sex has never been better.  We will have 2 hour love making sessions.  I guess I shouldn't complain.  We do it about 2-3 times a week if not more.  I have just recently gotten these feelings that he is not as interested in me and maybe someone else.  And that I am not as attractive as I once was. I find my self picking apart everything about me.  I look at him and touch him then I want him trying to make him only desire me.  Also, I have no idea if he is interested in someone else. iI am 5ft 3in 108 lbs and exercise almost daily.  I am driving myself crazy.  He says its all in my head  and that he is just tired or stressed. He will talk about how beautiful other women are to me.  What the heck.  It hurts me, he says he is just being honest and thought I could handle it.  Is it ME, am I making more out of this.  Just because he doesn't jump at the chance everytime.  Advice please

My drive is almost not there. My husband doesn't know how to please me. He worries about him self, then when he is almost finished, then he try's to make me happy. Uhg. I do not look forward to bed time.

My heart hurts for you. I don;t want to cause more conflicked for your marrige. But maybe if you told him what you liked about other men, he could see how it feels. I understand about you not liking your body image. I struggle with the same thing. It is hard to think I am pretty. Or wanted.   Why do you think he is not interested? Is it because he does not want to have sex?

Can anyone please tell me does Sex Therapy really work? Does it help you get to the root of the problem and help you get through it so you can experience intimacy again. My marriage has come to this and my husband has been reffered to a sex therapist. by his family doctor ?? I just want to know ...can all the feelings and passion come back again with a therapists help and advice?

 

 

I don't know about sex therapy, but I can say that regular therapy is really amazing IF the client is willing to WORK at it.

I would assume that sex therapy is in many ways the same, I could be wrong...but I wanted to put that out there anyway.

Really? I assume you're speaking from experience. Did all the feelings and passion come back to the point where both parties were happy / satisfied again?

 

 

Well, as I said in my post, I am talking about regular therapy...I would assume sex therapy is similar.