Topic : Homosexuality

I remember when I was 13 years old, in biology class, we where supposed to pretend we had a friend called Sara who had told us that she was gay. Then we had to write a letter to her. That's all I ever heard about homosexuality in school. Isn't that strange? Noone ever said anything about what to do if it was you who were gay and not your friend.  

Well, perhaps strange is not the right word, wrong would be a better word. 

I think it's so great when you hear about young people who are out! Okey, I'm not so old myself (21), but still, I didn't even realise that I was lesbian until I was 17. 

Now that I think about it, there are so many situations where I can't help thinking "What where you thinking?" I've always been so lesbian, haha!! :) 

I've always been GLBT friendly.  People are people.  Period.  I don't need to know what goes on with everyone's sex life.  That is personal.  And those who protest loudest have the fullest closets.   

I'm sexual.  Period.  And that is all MY business. 

Who I love is an extension of who I am.  And those not well with it can get over it. 

Chrys* 

I am a married woman, and had an affair with another married woman.  She told her husband about us....everything.  She said she wanted to be with me, then changed her mind.  Her husband did extensive "surveillance" to see where she was going, when she was seeing me....and going so far as taping our conversations.  She has since told me that she has decided to be with him...but remain friends with me.  However, we don't have a healthy friend relationship.  She will not see me, she does call me weekly, tells me her heart belongs to me, but is vague with me now about everyday affairs.  Some days, she says she will call me and does not, and is vague about why she didn't call.  I have asked her to consider that it is hurting her husband to keep me, and hurting me to see her slip away, and us not even be able to see each other.  I feel that we cannot have a healthy friendship, even though she wants to remain "friends".    

My question is....should I end things?  I am hurting deeply.  I am still in love with her, but I feel like I am growing bitter towards her as I feel her keep me at arm's length, but still try to hang on to me for the good things I say and do for her.  What should I do?  

My advice would be to get out. ASAP! 

It sounds like this woman is very insecure about what she wants, and I think she needs to figure that out by herself. 

And what about you? What do you want? 

You write that you're married, do you want to stay in your marriage? 

  

I would have gotten out for her.  But now.....I don't know what to do.  I feel like if I get out....I will hurt my husband...and my child. 

Thank you for your advice. 

I need to hear it. 

hi, i am 27 years old and need a little advice.  I have been married for 6 years and have been completely happy.  But one day at work as I was looking through boxes on the floor, my supervisor knealt down and showed which paper I needed.  As she handed my last paper, and I took it from her hand and our eyes just locked.  My stomach turned and I sayed nauseated all day.  It is strange to have this feeling for another women.  I cant stop thinking about her and about that brief moment.  My questions are do you think she felt the same. She kind of was pushing me around after that moment(like a soft push, a tease, a flirt). I have never felt or even thought about another women like this before.  By the way she is also married.  Please help need some advice!

I'm sorry, I ment get out of the relationsship with this woman. 

But if you do come out as a lesbian, you probably will hurt your husband. But I don't think that you can base your decision on wether or not to come out on the feelings of others.  

It probably sounds like I think you should be a real ego, but that's not what I mean. I just mean that you have to think about your own feelings too, no one else will.  

I'm really not the one to give advice about marriage, because I'm not married myself, so I'll just leave that to the ones who know about "that stuff"!! :) 

But what I can advice you to do is think really hard about what it is that YOU want! 

      Wow!!!! I never thought i would ever do something like this but...here i am!!!! Well...how do i start???I'm 18 years old and like i said in my profile im very open minded about things but... i've found myself in a situation i would NEVER have though of finding my self in. First off "Cuteboi21" and "Toshinishi"...im really hoping to hear from you:) . i'm in love with THE MOST WONDERFUL guy i've ever met. We connect in EVERY way possible and i trust him with everything in me!!! But...i knew from the beginning of the relationship that he wasn't completely straight. WHICH IS THE SAME FOR ME!!!! There's a mutual understanding between us that we BOTH are attracted to the same sex and both of us have been in same sex relationships befor we were together( im a girl)we both agred that it wasn't what we wanted for ourselves in the end( we dated some God awful people). He fell for me in the 9th grade, i fell for him in the 11th grade and we fell in love during the summer. Sounds great right?  Well it is but...you see...im ...sorta'...saving myself. *blush* so...i've never been touched. It's a big deal to me you know?? But my fiancee'( yes he propossed to me:) is more experienced then i am. I know the history with the two guy's he dated and i know my fiancee's resons for what he did( long story!! school drama...)he didn't do  much: just young kids experimenting, you know?? But ...here's why i felt such a need to post this little chunk of my life for you guys to see: i can't move on.i can't seem to get past what he did!!!IT'S REDICULOUS !!!...i know...i feel like such a terrible person because of it. i WANT to forgive and forget!!! it feels almost like he did these things while he was with me!!!! He's been completely faithful to me , he's given me absolutely no reason to dought him!!!!Why do i feel this way??!!Why can't i get over his past???He was young and alone!!!It was soooo long ago!!! I guess it bothers me more because... he didn't love them and was still able to do what he did with them( although he did very little)I just can't fully understand his reasoning. I know what it feel's like to be friendless and teased because you're different( the way he was)I was teased for years!!!I understand he had alot to gain by being with this person. But... ive never done things just to keep someones company around me. Have any of you done things to keep someones company?? Do you think i should just let the past be the past and move on???Help me!!!This situaton is putting such a strain on our relationship!!I need to hear what you think about it!!! Please help me get over things from the past!! i'm sure some one has something to tell that will help me!!! Thank you for reading my post!!!  :)

             i know it has to be tough for you but you have to understand that she's married!!!! There's NO WAY you should come between her and her husband no matter WHAT you feel 4 her!! It would just be wrong...even if she did or didn't feel the same for you.The Lord will not judge ANYONE for being gay or wanting to experiment...but...for someone to cheat on their husband!!To come between 2 married people!!!...now THAT goes aggainst  a commandment !!!! 

                       

              now...if she were single....id'e say "GO FOR IT!!! GO WERE YOUR HEART TAKES YOU!!" But have respect for her marriage and YOUR OWN FUTURE !! How far could an affair  really go? You need some one who could be there for you 100% ( someone you wouldn't have to share with someone else) ,someone who's yours and yours alone!! And one last thing : Think about it...let's pretend she was willing to leave her husband for you...who's to say she wouldn't  leave YOU for someone else too??? i feel you should look for love in someone else.If you still feel confused about your sexuallity maybe you should look deeper into that. Just be careful:) 

              your daughter's sooo fortunate to have such an accepting mother. Honestly...i've never met ANYONE that lucky befor. My mother had suspected me of being attracted to women for years. And in my junior year of High School (after countless mounths of argueing / all spawned from the tention caused by her suspitions) i finally told her that i was bisexual.That ...probably wasn't the smartest thing to do at the time though.She was VERY upset and reacted TERRIBLY!! She even went as far as to forbid me to go to her funeral!!!! Well over a year's past by and with hours of discucions and phylisophical talks about what God would want for me ,my mother is slowly coming to terms with it. Please, continue to love and support your daughter and good luck :)