Topic : Homosexuality

Ok. Well, that's a very difficult age in many ways, I am sure that you know that...LOL

Firstly, don't rush into anything, don't label yourself, just be honest with yourself. Think about what you feel. Don't rush into sex, trust me, you have your whole life for it. If you do do it, be safe of course.

Just pay attention to how you feel, things might change or evolve, this might be something you are just curious about.

And despite what many people might say to you, there is nothing wrong with homosexuality.

oh yeah, 14 is just a blast lol.
im not rusing into anything until i know something FOR SURE. but i have a bit of situation.
well my sister dated this guy for a year and it ended badly but im friends with him, hes 2 years older then me. and im friends with his sister who is my age and gorgeous and pretty and realllly cool.
the problem is, that my best friend went to school with her and he dated her for a bit and they have a history which is really detailed but right now we're both falling for her but her brother who is also my friend DOES NOT want me dating her but doesnt care if my other friend does. she doesnt like either of us but i sort of like him too. right now its sort of like we're both in a fight for her but i still like him and we're still really good friends. i dont know if much of that made sense but its a long story and i could use some advice. thanks

If she isn't showing interest in either of you then I wouldn't think twice about it, don't get in any arguments, or have bad feelings with any friends because of a girl who isn't even interested. If she DOES show interest in you, then maybe that would be one thing, but as it stands now, it's moot.

When you say you "sort of like him too" do you mean you have a crush on him as well? Is it possible he doesn't want you to date her because he has a crush on you?

well we have been fighting ALOT lately about her but we're okay right now.

another part to the story is that around christmas time he ignored me for 3 monthes. then i started hanging out with that girl (we can call her mrs x and him mr x). right when i started hanging out with mrs x and started liking her, she and mr x got in a monster fight about other problems. so then mr x apologized and came crawling back to me and i helped him out and invited him to hang out with me and mrs x and i got her to hear his apology and everything so i saved their friendship. within the past few weeks they became better friends and i expected to be invited with them but he doesnt want to recipricate what i did to him so he's been making me mad and he doesnt understand what loyalty is. its quite a mess.

i wont get my hopes up on him having a crush on me, he's made it clear that he's straight. he's done stuff with girls so its clear he's straight.

Well, people your age are learning a lot about human interaction. That's why it's so rocky. If these people don't seem to want to hang around a lot they have their reasons, good or bad.

I am sorry, I do remember what it's like to be 14 and have crushes. I had crushes on boys and on girls...and I too was very confused. I don't envy you, but at the same time, I have a lot of good memories of being a teen.

Just have a good time, just have fun. If someone is being too much of a jerk just give them their space...as years go by you and your peers will have more and more stable relationships. Just make sure you learn from all of this. There are many people, just look around these boards, who never learned from their teen aged relationships...if you keep the lessons you learn about people close to you things will get smoother as time goes on...they won't be perfect, but you'll gain wisdom.

I hope you know that I am NOT talking down to you, I remember very clearly what it's like to be 14...and I wish only one thing, I had taken a deep breath and just enjoyed it more.

:o)

thanks alot for your advice, i guess the best thing to do IS just to enjoy whats happening good or abd and try and learn from the bad. ill see how it all plays out, thanks :)

You can always talk to me. I mean that. About anything, not just homosexuality. I promise I will never be condescending. I really hope the best for you. And if you do want to talk about homosexuality I am there too...because I know how rough it is to be a teen with bisexual feelings.  I'm sure it's even rougher to be a male who is struggling to understand those feelings. Just make sure you always have someone to turn to...someone who won't make you feel evil or disgusting...many young homosexual/bisexual men suffer from depression as a result of people treating them like that.

Email me anytime, I mean that.

pretty.penny.lane@gmail.com

im having a hard time living with my husband. i have suspected him as a latent homosexual. I need to reinforce my way of dealing with him so we will not separatebecause I love him. I want to know more about a better way of dealing with him.

What do you mean "dealing with him"?

Have you asked him if he's gay?

If it turns out he is gay do you want to stay married to him?