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December 28, 2005, 10:53 am PST
Suppression of Internal Conflict ?
Quote From: lonalea200 It is so good to hear I am not the only one with the same feelings and situations. I finally told a friend about being a lesbian and she was understanding, but said I shouldn't go around telling everyone till I know for sure I am one. I hate to break this to her but if I didn't feel like I was a lesbian why would I say I felt this way. Thank you for your message it really helped me and it is good to hear from someone else. It seems like no one likes to post on this site. Please...if you feel like chatting....let me know. Lona I find it sad when I read about how those who confide their confused state of sexuality (same-sex attraction) to friends and family, are met with disapproval or disdain. If ANYONE should be unconditionally supportive, it should be those in someone's inner circle. I know my reference to homosexuality as a "confused state" is going to anger some, but this is not my intent. I have a cousin (male) who has been struggling with his sexual identity for years now. A long time ago, I told him that it would not change my feelings for him no matter what he "was," but that he may want to speak with both a priest (spiritual counselor) and psychiatrist trained in dealing with dysfunctional sexuality. When an individual finds themselves sexually attracted to members of the same sex, there has to be conflict based upon the basic and primative knowledge that this is just not right. While it is true that God made everyone, this is not to say that God "made" someone homosexual any more than God "made" someone afflicted with any other genetic malformation. Since men cannot give birth from their posterior and women cannot impregnate themselves with sexual implements, it can never be said that God "intended" that there be sexual relations between individuals of the same sex. Accordingly, I would strongly advise anyone who calls themselves "gay" or "bi-sexual" to at least attempt to seek counseling with an open mind. This way, when they speak to family and friends about the matter, they can also state that they are seeking counseling to deal with it themselves. I wish you all luck.
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