Topic : Homosexuality

maybe shes excited about feeling so much for another human being and wanted to share this with her mother? big mistake that was indeed on her part. 

  

You say sexual preference should be kept in the bedroom and im sure your daughter does not want to share her sexual antics with you but shes in a relationship with this woman, shes not just having sex. And until you see the difference between the two i truely feel sorry for your daughter. 

  Your saying this like its a fad that will go away.
 I understand where your comming from, and agree to a certain level. I do feel that your sex-life should stay in the bedroom, and any display of affection beyond hugging should stay on your property (car, house, yard,...), but what your saying goes a little far.
 It's quite obvious that your in denial of your daughter being a lesbian. I don't think shes trying to throw her sexuality on you as a "Its 2005!" thing. She probably just wants you to understand what she is and be tolerant, if not fully supportave.
You also say  " [I never told] anyone about my sexual desires or actions with my husband." But, in truth, you have. Anyone who sees you in public with him can see that your married (if you wear your ring),and that you are both heterosexual and sexually active by the fact that you have children. In the same way, now that your daughter has a girlfriend they're going to go out together. People will notice and see that they are gay.
I'm sure that if the two of you sat down and had a talk about this, you could come to an agreement. I of course realize that thats not as easy as it sounds,but try.

Maybe I did not make it clear, it's not only me as her mother affected by this, it's a little innocent 9 yr old girl (her daughter) that she should be concerned about that this hole situation is affecting.  She should be as excited about feelings tor her daughter to understand that her daughter doesn't even know about sex MUCH LESS putting this right in the open in front of her.  Even my daugher's PSY said this should have been kept at just a friend level as a 9 yr old in no way understands her mothers complete change in dress..(she totally looks like a young boy now) and she even to the point of when she mets her  21 yr old lover.......my daughter is 34......gets motel and sleeps with her lover with my granddaughter in the other bed in the room.  Do you feel sorry for my daughter now or my granddaughter?  

The fact that the woman is affectionate around her daughter is perfectly fine in my opinion. My parents were loving towards each other and i grew up knowing they loved each other which made me feel really safe and at home. It doesnt matter that they are of the same sex, they should be loving to a certain extent towards each other, openly. 

  

As for sleeping with her lover with your granddaughter in the room.....are you sure this happens? dont mean that offensively...but how do you know? And by sleep with....im assuming that you mean theyre having sex whilst she is in the room..otherwise i dont see the problem... 

  

if she is having sex with her daughter in the room and you know this for sure, altho i dont know how u would know this.....then you should perhaps mention it to your daughter....as its not appropriate regardless of gender...i just hope ure upset because of the 'sex' issue and not because they are two women... 

  

As for the clothes....she has a right to dress how she pleases, if she were straight and wearing those clothes would you have a problem with that and if so.....whyyyy? 

Gem 

 I think your being too dramatic.
 Trust me, 9year olds are not that innocent. I knew about gays in kindergarden, by 9 I was quite aware of sex. I believe I was 13 when I saw my first piece gay porn. What I'm getting at is that I don't believe that this is that truamatizing as you think.
 I do however agree with you that the child should not be around during sex. She should hire a sitter for those occasions, or you could offer.
As far as her apperance, I think your granddaughter is old enough to understand.
Once again, I HIGHLY RECOMEND that the two of you sit down and talk about all of this in a calm manner.
I guess thats it...

Hey,  

 i just read your post and if its alright i just wanted to say good luck and i hope things go well for you and your family. I think you and your daughter are lucky to have each other. :) Ive been through depression, though again im no expert and all i can say as u know is some days are tough and some easier, but i wish with all my heart happiness for you ahead because its an amazing place to get to when you do. 

you seem strong so i wish you luck 

G 

ewwwwww...i am not gay & just because i chose to be straight that means im really gay??..what the heck that makes no sence what-so-ever~ok gayis a stinkin choice..God did not intend for u to be gay if he is totally against..i think u guys should read this: 

Does Evil Exist?
>
>  Did God create everything that exists? Does evil exist? Did God create
>  evil?
>
>  The University professor challenged his students with this question. "Did
>  God
>  create everything that exists?" A student bravely replied, "Yes he did!"
>  "God
>  created everything?" The professor asked. "Yes sir", the student replied.
>
>  The professor answered, "If God created everything, then God created evil,
>  since
>  evil exists, and according to the principal that our works define who we
>  are,
>  then God is evil." The student became quiet before such an answer. The
>  professor, quite pleased with himself, boasted to the students that he had
>  proven once more that the Christian faith was a myth.
>
>  Another student raised his hand and said, "May I ask you a ! question,
>  professor?"
>  "Of course", replied the professor. The student stood up and asked,
>  "Professor,
>  does cold exist?" "What kind of question is this? Of course it exists.
>  Have you
>  never been cold?" The students snickered at the young man's question.
>
>  The young man replied, "In fact sir, cold does not exist. According to the
>  laws
>  of physics, what we consider cold is in reality the absence of heat. Every
>  body
>  or object is susceptible to study when it has or transmits energy, and
>  heat is
>  what makes a body or matter have or transmit energy. Absolute zero
>  (-460? F) is the total absence of heat; all matter becomes inert and
>  incapable
>  of reaction at that temperature. Cold does not exist. We have created this
>  word
>  to describe how we feel if we have no heat."
>
>  The student continued, "Professor, does darkness exist?" The professor
>  responded, "Of course it does." The student replied, "Once again you are
>  wrong
>  sir, darkness does not exist either. Da! rkness is in reality the absence
>  of
>  light. Light we can study, but not darkness. In fact, we can use Newton's
>  prism
>  to break white light into many colors and study the various wavelengths of
>  each
>  color. You cannot measure darkness. A simple ray of light can break into a
>  world
>  of darkness and illuminate it. How can you know how dark a certain space
>  is? You
>  measure the amount of light present. Isn't this correct? Darkness is a
>  term used
>  by man to describe what happens when there is no light present."
>
>  Finally the young man asked the professor, "Sir, does evil exist?" Now
>  uncertain, the professor responded, "Of course, as I have already said. We
>  see
>  it everyday. It is in the daily examples of man's inhumanity to man. It is
>  in
>  the multitude of crime and violence everywhere in the world. These
>  manifestations are nothing else but evil.
>
>  To this the student replied, "Evil does not exist, sir, or at least it
>  does not
>  exist unto itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It is just like
>  darkness
>  and cold, a word that man has created to describe the absence of God. God
>  did
>  not create evil. Evil is the result of what happens when man does not have
>  God's
>  love present in his heart. It's like the cold that comes when there is no
>  heat,
>  or the darkness that comes when there is no light."
>
>  The professor sat down.
>
>  The young man's name -- Albert Einstein 

 I think hurtinggirl needs to be a little more respectful...saying EWWWW I'm not gay is quite immature.
Guess it shows her age.  We don't have to agree if being gay is a choice or we are born with it.  But at least be nice!
I'm 27 and dealing with the issue if I'm gay or not.  It's very hard.  Tried to be with guys but wasn't happy.  I'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy now, but it doesn't feel right.  I'm not sure what'll happen.  Makes me very depressed and I wish with all my being I could just be straight and marry a man.  So is this my choice as some of you say it is?  No I choose to be straight!  But I'm not happy in straight relationships.  So do I stay in a straight relationship and just "learn" to be happy the rest of my life?  What do those people that think gay is a choice suggest I do????