Topic : Homosexuality

Trevor,

The first thing you need to do, is get REAL, and get treatment (detox) off the drugs!  Find someone you trust, that is drug free!  Drugs are a very destructive path.  I struggled for years over my sexuality, with depression, and anxiety.  I covered my sarrow with alcohol (a depressant), just to wake up to face the same problems with now a hang-over.  Once you get drug free, then work on coping on the self-esteem and sexuality issues, I did it I know you can!  Let me know if you need to talk! -Bryan (internalmed69@yahoo.com)

Thank you so much for the advice.

I'm still struggling talking to my parents. They perfer to ignore it and most of the descussions end up with us fighting and my parents telling me that what i'm doing is wrong. Thankfully, though, they are starting to be improve in the sense of not ignoring me as much as they were trying to ignore me liking girls. I think that's what hurt the most.

As for my friend, i did end up telling her that i can't go out with her again and she was the one that didn't want anything to do with me anymore. So i guess that was "fixed" on it's own with out my cutting the ties.

Thanks. they started telling me they love me no matter what i choose; and then after a while told me i had to change; now i they are back to telling me they love me no matter what. But that was after i told them i broke up with her. I'm afraid if i go out with another girl they'll go back to what they were saying. But for now i've been able to talk to my dad about things ... i just have to be careful about how i word everything so i don't put him on edge.

With the relationship; i understand what you mean. This isn't the first controlling relationship i've found myself in. I realized i had to get out of this one, though, when i started getting threats from her friends along with her. Some telling me to stay away from her and others telling me to get back with her and listen to what she was telling me. 

i learned not to long ago of my bisexuality. ive always known it i guess, just never chose to pay attention to it. well, my friends know, most of them, but my parents dont. the reason why is because my mother sais not too long ago that if any of her children were,"Like that," she would kick them out. She really does not like homosexual or bisexual people. Or black people. I cant have any black friends in the house. Anyway, I was wondering of you thought i should take the chance anyway and tell her.

Thanks for all you help,

Me<333

i learned not to long ago of my bisexuality. ive always known it i guess, just never chose to pay attention to it. well, my friends know, most of them, but my parents dont. the reason why is because my mother sais not too long ago that if any of her children were,"Like that," she would kick them out. She really does not like homosexual or bisexual people. Or black people. I cant have any black friends in the house. Anyway, I was wondering of you thought i should take the chance anyway and tell her.

Thanks for all you help,

Me<333

My parents have always talked about how they would be beyond angry if they ever found out I were "like that" as well. I've always gotten girls asking me out and my parents have known about it. So i always declined and none of my friends even knew i wasn't straight up until this year. When my parents found out they started treating me differently and my mom even told me i'm going to hell. But they didn't kick me out. Seeing that you can't have black friends in the house, though. Your mom may be serious in kicking you out. I know one my friend's dad is pretty serious about it for her ... personally, my plan had been to wait untill i had graduated from highschool to tell them. That way they didn't have me all in their face and they had time to cool down.  Obviously that didn't work since i'm a senior and my parents already know ... And as of now i can hardly hang out with anyone that they aren't sure are straight ... so unless you are sure you can support yourself or that your mom won't kick you out. i, personally, wouldn't risk it. But once one of those two are certian deffinately and try to talk to her about it. Hiding it for too long will tear you apart in side. At least it did to me; when i had a g/f. Another thing is: how good of a relationship do you have with your mother?

I'm sorry if i'm not much help. I was in the same positition for a while and didn't know what to do and i still don't know what would have been best. I'm only where i am now because my brother outed me to my parents.

~Justine