Quote From: gebhamHi, My first post on this board. I've been reading through some of the posts on the board and thought i'd write a little note. Im 22, im bisexual though at this stage in my life i would say i'm most interested in dating people on the same sex (women). A lot of people seem to be struggling with a sense of confusion in their messages as to whether they are gay or not and a lot of the replies seem to say 'hey dont worry you are who u r, u shouldnt be ashamed etc' (which is fair enough!). I just wanted to offer a different view, hope noone takes offence. Of course you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are if you do have feelings for the same sex, but its not as easy as that, i know. Ive been out for about 2 years now, and am in a year long relationship with a woman. I still however feel bad for my family, who r 'dealing with' it, and don't always tell everyone that asks. Having feelings for someone of the same sex isnt something u have to deal with straight away. no pun intended. I would say take it slowly. theres no way if ure just coming to terms with feelings that your going to be ready to go to a gayclub, kiss someone and get the membership badge to gayville. Spend some time talking to people about it. Its not easy and even 2/3 years on being out, its still not easy but at the same time its one of the best things i ever did. Don't get yourself down with what it could mean for other people. Your life isnt going to take a dramatic turn all of a sudden if u realise u feel somethng for the same sex. Take your time. Explore your feelings in your head, maybe talk to other people who feel the same. And take as long as you want deciding for yourself how you feel.
Anyway....thats my little bit of advice...heh. If anyone wants to contact me please feel free, and if you just want to talk about anything give me a shout.
Good luck with everything.
Lifes short! sexuality really isnt a huge deal!
G x
This is my first post - I am a 58 year old Gay Male with a Domestic Partner of 9 years. Before that I had a lover - Domestic Partner option not available at the time. I just want to say it is easier now for people to come to terms with their sexuality that ever before in the US. I knew I was gay at 12, hid it until I excaped high school. As soon as I graduated from HS I told my mother who was very relilgious and couldn't handle it. We came to an agreement "she didn't bring up religion and I didn't talk about my sex life". As time went by and I matured and found a partner she accepted the fact. My father on the other hand was an alcoholic and we never got along.
My sisters (3) and my brother (1) were told by me that I was gay. I also told them if they couldn't understand, or hated me for it - it was their problem. 1 sister (the religious one of course) couldn't handle it, and we didn't speak for 20 years. We are now very close and she even sends my partner receipes (sp) of foods she know I like. When I visit we sleep in the same bed.
I just want to say, be proud of who you are. If your gay enjoy your life. Most of my friends are straight and they are not afraid of me babysitting their children. I am not flamboyant, but if I were - no big deal.
If you want to talk just drop a line to patchesken@comcast.net. We can discuss anything you want.
