Topic : Homosexuality

This msg is from a parent of a son who came out about his gay choice in life. Two years ago when my son was 17 he told me he wanted to see a therapist so I made arrangements and he went into therapy -about 3 months into therapy he asked me to join him for a session -I aggreed .In therapy he told me I wanted you here because I wanted to tell you that" I am homosexual" If  I said I  was surprised I would be a lying -Most parents deep down inside know their kids orrientation-a person doesn't wake up one day and say Gee I think I want to be differnt I'll be gay..Lets just say he had the typical characteristics of someone who had the potential that maybe he might grow up and decide to be gay  so parents who are distraught and shocked I say Pleeeese do you not know your child have you not observed his/her behaviors choices,mannerisims,personality etc...So I guess when they say Never underestimate the power of denial its never more true in these such cases.  You know I'm not jumping for joy and so happy that my only son decided to choose a gay lifestyle opposed to a heterosexual one..but that was HIS life choice he made and I love him and would never put that choice in between our relationship. The only problem I had with this whole thing is--- how hard and cold this world is and how cruel predjudiced and ignorant people can be and it breaks my heart if someone hurts him because of his choice--by snickering, making fun of or losing on opportunities because of his sexual orientation--thats my only concern. This message is mostly for parents of Gay Children If I had a choice betwwen my son/daughter being  Gay or mentally challanged or ill I 'd pick Gay If I had a choice watching my child be on Chemo  dying of cancer or be Gay, or if I had to put my chid in and out of drug rehabs you know gay don't sound so bad.  He or she is the same person he was when he was little being gay doesn't change who you are If you loved your child before its a tragedy if you throw them out of your life because their sexual choices differ from yours and those of you who throw Christian values in the mix remember "he who is without sin cast the first stone"

The truth will set you free...  Life is not a dress rehersal we come around one time this is the time to make the best of your life.  We make choices in our lives to be happy or misrable. If you are happy and fullfilled in your marriage then so be it. But to go through life as a robot living it for everyone else but yourself is a travisty.  Be yourself-be who you are- the people who truly love you will accpt your decisions and be there for you those who don't don't deserve to be in your life in the first place. Who cares if you are an atheist?? And who cares if people can't handle what you are There not any better then you are  remember something ...everybody has a cross to bear...Do the people you know have nothing better in their lives to worry about then your religious or lack of religious beliefs you have? You are entitled to your choices to beleive in God or not to believe in A God that is your right to decide. I beleieve we respect peoples beleifs and not judge them .  If you family, friends, husband etc are devout Christians or whatever you respect their belifs and in return they should respect your views end of story that is nothing you should be in the closet about.  AS you said "the world is more accepting'  what is the worst thing your husband would do if you told hom you were bisexual kill you??  I have a married friend who is bisexual and her husband is completly aware of it and accepts it because he Loves her. Get out of the closet and live your life the way you want to live it and not the way other people Expect you to live!  The most inportant thing is to be whatever you are without shame!  Good luck in your life and remember BE HAPPY!!!!!

This msg is from a parent of a son who came out about his gay choice in life. Two years ago when my son was 17 he told me he wanted to see a therapist so I made arrangements and he went into therapy -about 3 months into therapy he asked me to join him for a session -I aggreed .In therapy he told me I wanted you here because I wanted to tell you that" I am homosexual" If  I said I  was surprised I would be a lying -Most parents deep down inside know their kids orrientation-a person doesn't wake up one day and say Gee I think I want to be differnt I'll be gay..Lets just say he had the typical characteristics of someone who had the potential that maybe he might grow up and decide to be gay  so parents who are distraught and shocked I say Pleeeese do you not know your child have you not observed his/her behaviors choices,mannerisims,personality etc...So I guess when they say Never underestimate the power of denial its never more true in these such cases.  You know I'm not jumping for joy and so happy that my only son decided to choose a gay lifestyle opposed to a heterosexual one..but that was HIS life choice he made and I love him and would never put that choice in between our relationship. The only problem I had with this whole thing is--- how hard and cold this world is and how cruel predjudiced and ignorant people can be and it breaks my heart if someone hurts him because of his choice--by snickering, making fun of or losing on opportunities because of his sexual orientation--thats my only concern. This message is mostly for parents of Gay Children If I had a choice betwwen my son/daughter being  Gay or mentally challanged or ill I 'd pick Gay If I had a choice watching my child be on Chemo  dying of cancer or be Gay, or if I had to put my chid in and out of drug rehabs you know gay don't sound so bad.  He or she is the same person he was when he was little being gay doesn't change who you are If you loved your child before its a tragedy if you throw them out of your life because their sexual choices differ from yours and those of you who throw Christian values in the mix remember "he who is without sin cast the first stone"