Topic : 11/20 The Dr. Phil House: Heroin Twins, The Intervention

Dear Dr. Phil;

 Please stop all the commercials. Its driving me crazy. The intro's to all the guess over, and over again. There is very little show anymore. It's getting very annoyinh.  Kate from SC

I was upset to read that you wonder why the Mother let this happen to her daughters.  Please don't even try to blame her.  My daughter too was an addict her drug of choice was Meth.  She also has Epilepsy.  I chose to do tough love and it eventually worked.  She had two small children at the time.  She gave them to their Father.  She was not allowed at my house and tried to lie about her problem.  One day I got a phone call about her having seizures and was taken to the hospital.  I went and she was unconscious.  I told them to check for drugs and about her problem with Epilepsy.  Of course she had meth in her system.  About 8-10 hours later after knowing how to treat her she came to and they wanted to send her home.  I left and told her boyfriend she was not welcome at my house.  He claimed he didn't know of her problem.  He then told her she had to make a choice.  Either the drugs or him.  She has been drug free for over 5 years now and is married to him.  I thank the Lord daily for him and her strong will.  She has her children back and we are a family again.  I never felt as though it was my fault.  I will pray for Cindy and her girls.  I appreciate your intervention with them.  Again, please don't blame the Mother.  My heart goes out to her and her family.

Dr. Phil, you hit the nail on the head when you asked their mother, "Where were you?"  That is exactly why I (as a single parent of three) was on the backs of my children.  Of course, they were not "always" aware that I was checking their draws, reading notes that were out in the open, and listening to their conversations on the phone.  At least, I knew to be aware of any signs that they were heading down the wrong roads.  Then when they did I was there to haul their skinny behinds back to be placed on the right road again.  They didn't like it at all, but they do appreciate it now that they are grown with children of their own.  The point is, when these two precious "gifts" from God were on the wrong roads, mama did not put forth any and I mean any effort to pull them back onto the right roads.  Now look who is paying the price, the girls are.  Their mother isn't dealing with it because she doesn't see that it is her problem.  If she had been there for her girls they just might not be in the condition they are now.  The girls have the chance to change their behaviors for the better and should take advantage of it, while they still can.  In my opinion, the girls need a reason to live other than for themselves.  They need someone to focus on besides themselves.  Let them work in an ER and prayfully they can really learn "empathy" and from this they can learn to love themselves. 

Thanks

     I hid in my pain for over 20 yrs first snorting Cocaine for 10 yrs until I burnt a hole in my nose. Then moved on to Crack for the next 10...losing everything.  My career, my kids, family, my SELF....to the street 's, I went at the age of 30.    Drugs are a Equal opputunity dealer!!!!  In & out of Rehab, jail, sobreity, and around and around it went. I now have 4 yrs CLEAN...By the Grace of God. My children all grown up, of course I missed every first you can think of, are now just starting to trust that I may be around for them. I still can't blame them for being scared that tomorrow I may be gone again...Drugs are patient...it is a daily thing even this far along.