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September 24, 2008, 7:20 pm PDT

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Is that perhaps you consider these things sacrifices, others may not, they might call them being in life, being married, having families.   It's not a play on words.  It's a simple comparison of what you or I, or others might consider sacrifice.   It's that simple.

 

You call me hostile, when you are extremely rude for no reason at all.  I think you have some bigger issues that you are obviously not permitted to direct where they actually belong, therefore you come here to bully others. 

 

The whole discussion ends up being about "being more selfish", hinted by the user name you present.  That say volumns about your thinking. 


Splitting hairs. Perhaps because you cant understand or acknowledge the relevance, the reality is, its called responsibility and sacrifice is just one word to describe it.

Where was the discussion about my user name?, there was none lol. You should get out of the habit of making accusations based on nothing.


 
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September 24, 2008, 8:04 pm PDT

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We would like to ask the following questions (To anyone willing to answer; just out of curiosity.):

 

1.) Age?

 

2.) Are you married?

 

3.) Are you a feminist?

 

4.) Have you or  your husband/ significant other cheated on the other (that you know of)?

 

5.) If your married and have kids, how do you personally keep your relationship WITH YOUR HUSBAND work without any of the things that Passion and I have tried to say worked (s) for us?

 

6.) Did you get married just to have kids and cater to them? And to just forget the need(s) of your husband? And what it is to be a wife ALONG with being a mother? (And I am not just talking sex, but also other needs. If you don't know what I am talking about here, ask.)

 

I'm sorry but my husband ,Passion, and I  are on a totally different wavelength then most of you here. And after a while of reading some of these posts I just get curious. My husband has just been shaking his head about all of this.

 

His view, as a 27yr old married guy, about the lubrication conversation, he also said to maybe go see your gyno, and see if they can give you a pill or something of that nature to help that, or even some information at the least. A professional is a better source of help for something more serious to you then posting it online with people who may just tell you what you want to hear and not necessarily what you need. Lubrication may help but only for a moment but what if it continues?

 

His view on circumcision, is the same as mine. He doesn't believe in the stuff about masterbations, or sensitivity however he is circumcised so he really can't actually say but he said he doesn't regret it. He also wants are son circumcised for health purposes as well. And even if he did regret his circumcision, he can get the surgry done.

 

He/I know when it comes to him and his "manhood" as an almost 30yr old, he can still get it as straight up just as he was when he was 9!! ( I'm a lucky woman. lol) He said usually around his age, they can sometimes start to not be so straight.

 

My husband is willing to give his opinion on anything else that you are willing to throw at him if you are truely interested in a male's true perspective.

About the lubrication...

Angel, maybe her partner is circumcised...tee hee! ;D

[.... Without the foreskin to provide a movable sleeve of skin, intercourse with a circumcised penis resulted in female discomfort from increased friction, abrasion, and loss of natural secretions. Respondents overwhelmingly concurred that the mechanics of coitus were different for the two groups of men. Unaltered men tended to thrust more gently with shorter strokes.

O’Hara, K. and O’Hara, J., "The Effect of Male Circumcision on the Sexual Enjoyment of the Female Partner," BJU 83 (1999): suppl. 1: 79–84]
 
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September 25, 2008, 1:28 pm PDT

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About the lubrication...

Angel, maybe her partner is circumcised...tee hee! ;D

[.... Without the foreskin to provide a movable sleeve of skin, intercourse with a circumcised penis resulted in female discomfort from increased friction, abrasion, and loss of natural secretions. Respondents overwhelmingly concurred that the mechanics of coitus were different for the two groups of men. Unaltered men tended to thrust more gently with shorter strokes.

OHara, K. and OHara, J., "The Effect of Male Circumcision on the Sexual Enjoyment of the Female Partner," BJU 83 (1999): suppl. 1: 7984
Thank you for the interesting information/quote.
 
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September 25, 2008, 4:17 pm PDT

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Quote From: angel73681

We would like to ask the following questions (To anyone willing to answer; just out of curiosity.):

 

1.) Age?

 

2.) Are you married?

 

3.) Are you a feminist?

 

4.) Have you or  your husband/ significant other cheated on the other (that you know of)?

 

5.) If your married and have kids, how do you personally keep your relationship WITH YOUR HUSBAND work without any of the things that Passion and I have tried to say worked (s) for us?

 

6.) Did you get married just to have kids and cater to them? And to just forget the need(s) of your husband? And what it is to be a wife ALONG with being a mother? (And I am not just talking sex, but also other needs. If you don't know what I am talking about here, ask.)

 

I'm sorry but my husband ,Passion, and I  are on a totally different wavelength then most of you here. And after a while of reading some of these posts I just get curious. My husband has just been shaking his head about all of this.

 

His view, as a 27yr old married guy, about the lubrication conversation, he also said to maybe go see your gyno, and see if they can give you a pill or something of that nature to help that, or even some information at the least. A professional is a better source of help for something more serious to you then posting it online with people who may just tell you what you want to hear and not necessarily what you need. Lubrication may help but only for a moment but what if it continues?

 

His view on circumcision, is the same as mine. He doesn't believe in the stuff about masterbations, or sensitivity however he is circumcised so he really can't actually say but he said he doesn't regret it. He also wants are son circumcised for health purposes as well. And even if he did regret his circumcision, he can get the surgry done.

 

He/I know when it comes to him and his "manhood" as an almost 30yr old, he can still get it as straight up just as he was when he was 9!! ( I'm a lucky woman. lol) He said usually around his age, they can sometimes start to not be so straight.

 

My husband is willing to give his opinion on anything else that you are willing to throw at him if you are truely interested in a male's true perspective.

1) I am about to turn 21.

 

2) No, not married yet, but my boyfriend told me that if we are still together after 3-4 years, he will ask me to marry him. 2 years so far, crossin' mah fingahs!

 

3) I consider myself a feminist, however, I think there is a difference between a "feminist" and a "man-hater." I believe that women should be allowed the same rights as human beings as men are allowed. I believe that women should be allowed to make their own decisions about their bodies, their relationships, their jobs and careers, and how to raise their children. I also agree that there are waaay to many gender stereotypes and double-standards in our society. The biggest one being if a man sleeps with a bunch of women, he's a manly man. He's hot, he's the guy all the other guys wanna be like, but if a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, she's a whore. Hate that. Hate it, hate it, hate it.

 

4) No. No cheating involved here. Loyalty is big with me.

 

5) Being that I'm not married and don't have kids, I can't really answer this question. 

 

6) I don't want kids until I'm good and ready. And right now, I'm not. Not financially ready, nor emotionally ready to have children. Birth control and condoms are my friends!

 

And yes, my boyfriend is circumcised.  

 
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September 25, 2008, 5:52 pm PDT

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Quote From: angel73681

We would like to ask the following questions (To anyone willing to answer; just out of curiosity.):

 

1.) Age?

 

2.) Are you married?

 

3.) Are you a feminist?

 

4.) Have you or  your husband/ significant other cheated on the other (that you know of)?

 

5.) If your married and have kids, how do you personally keep your relationship WITH YOUR HUSBAND work without any of the things that Passion and I have tried to say worked (s) for us?

 

6.) Did you get married just to have kids and cater to them? And to just forget the need(s) of your husband? And what it is to be a wife ALONG with being a mother? (And I am not just talking sex, but also other needs. If you don't know what I am talking about here, ask.)

 

I'm sorry but my husband ,Passion, and I  are on a totally different wavelength then most of you here. And after a while of reading some of these posts I just get curious. My husband has just been shaking his head about all of this.

 

His view, as a 27yr old married guy, about the lubrication conversation, he also said to maybe go see your gyno, and see if they can give you a pill or something of that nature to help that, or even some information at the least. A professional is a better source of help for something more serious to you then posting it online with people who may just tell you what you want to hear and not necessarily what you need. Lubrication may help but only for a moment but what if it continues?

 

His view on circumcision, is the same as mine. He doesn't believe in the stuff about masterbations, or sensitivity however he is circumcised so he really can't actually say but he said he doesn't regret it. He also wants are son circumcised for health purposes as well. And even if he did regret his circumcision, he can get the surgry done.

 

He/I know when it comes to him and his "manhood" as an almost 30yr old, he can still get it as straight up just as he was when he was 9!! ( I'm a lucky woman. lol) He said usually around his age, they can sometimes start to not be so straight.

 

My husband is willing to give his opinion on anything else that you are willing to throw at him if you are truely interested in a male's true perspective.

I get my male perspective from my husband, since it is his perspective that really matters to me... lol =)

amd as far as your hubbys penis not getting as straight as it used to, it may or may not go this way, my hubby is 63 years old and he does not seem to have a problem with it not being straight lol =).

So, i guess i wouldn't worry about it unless it starts to go crooked, and who knows it may be even better crooked, i don't know heh.

As for the young lady that is finding lubrication not up to were she is comfortable, there was good advice given on a lot of posts, personaly, for me if it became a major issue for me and dryness was really prevelant i definatley would go to the doc, and check for hormonal imbalances, infection, what ever, and if i got a clean bill of health, i would ask my doc for a brand of lubricant that is safe for me.

Just another thought, hormonal imbalances can happen at any age hun, young or just young at heart, it can happen to any one of us at any time.

As for lubrication only helping for the moment, there are a lot of products out there that are safe and natural to the woman's vagina. Just a thought that came to me, hun if you are douching, stop, it is not healthy contrary to belief. That would apply to any woman. Unless a doctor perscribes douching don't do it, if you are this may be a reason why lubrication is not as good as you would like it to be.

wish you much success in finding support and help for this.

Tammy

 

 
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September 25, 2008, 10:26 pm PDT

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I get my male perspective from my husband, since it is his perspective that really matters to me... lol =)

amd as far as your hubbys penis not getting as straight as it used to, it may or may not go this way, my hubby is 63 years old and he does not seem to have a problem with it not being straight lol =).

So, i guess i wouldn't worry about it unless it starts to go crooked, and who knows it may be even better crooked, i don't know heh.

As for the young lady that is finding lubrication not up to were she is comfortable, there was good advice given on a lot of posts, personaly, for me if it became a major issue for me and dryness was really prevelant i definatley would go to the doc, and check for hormonal imbalances, infection, what ever, and if i got a clean bill of health, i would ask my doc for a brand of lubricant that is safe for me.

Just another thought, hormonal imbalances can happen at any age hun, young or just young at heart, it can happen to any one of us at any time.

As for lubrication only helping for the moment, there are a lot of products out there that are safe and natural to the woman's vagina. Just a thought that came to me, hun if you are douching, stop, it is not healthy contrary to belief. That would apply to any woman. Unless a doctor perscribes douching don't do it, if you are this may be a reason why lubrication is not as good as you would like it to be.

wish you much success in finding support and help for this.

Tammy

 

UGH!!! FOR THE BAZILLIONTH TIME!!!! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MEEEE!!!!

 

I said it over and over and over and over and over and over again!

 

I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS!! I never said I had a problem with this! The only person who said I had a "problem" was Pass because I'm not the same as she was when she was 21!!!

 

And for crissakes I WORK AT A PORN SHOP! I KNOW about lubricants!

 

*pant pant pant*

 

Okay, sorry about that outburst, really....that kind of was on the angry side, I know you're just trying to be nice, but seriously, I NEVER said it was a concern, NEVER said it was a problem, NEVER said I wanted to fix ANYTHING about my body. MY VAGINA IS FINE. I did NOT say that I have a problem with dryness, I DID NOT. Pass insisted that there was something wrong with me ONLY because I was not like her at 21.

 

SERIOUSLY.

 
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September 26, 2008, 10:20 am PDT

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I get my male perspective from my husband, since it is his perspective that really matters to me... lol =)

amd as far as your hubbys penis not getting as straight as it used to, it may or may not go this way, my hubby is 63 years old and he does not seem to have a problem with it not being straight lol =).

So, i guess i wouldn't worry about it unless it starts to go crooked, and who knows it may be even better crooked, i don't know heh.

As for the young lady that is finding lubrication not up to were she is comfortable, there was good advice given on a lot of posts, personaly, for me if it became a major issue for me and dryness was really prevelant i definatley would go to the doc, and check for hormonal imbalances, infection, what ever, and if i got a clean bill of health, i would ask my doc for a brand of lubricant that is safe for me.

Just another thought, hormonal imbalances can happen at any age hun, young or just young at heart, it can happen to any one of us at any time.

As for lubrication only helping for the moment, there are a lot of products out there that are safe and natural to the woman's vagina. Just a thought that came to me, hun if you are douching, stop, it is not healthy contrary to belief. That would apply to any woman. Unless a doctor perscribes douching don't do it, if you are this may be a reason why lubrication is not as good as you would like it to be.

wish you much success in finding support and help for this.

Tammy

 

This brings up another topic I was never 100% in understandings with and personally never used.

What does douching actually do or even used for? I always thought that it was just to use it when you get that "not so fresh" feeling or smell. lol My husband has always tould me to never use it because it can actually ruin or even be damaging to your health??? Just curious.  

 
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September 26, 2008, 10:27 am PDT

I'm truely sorry.

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UGH!!! FOR THE BAZILLIONTH TIME!!!! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MEEEE!!!!

 

I said it over and over and over and over and over and over again!

 

I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS!! I never said I had a problem with this! The only person who said I had a "problem" was Pass because I'm not the same as she was when she was 21!!!

 

And for crissakes I WORK AT A PORN SHOP! I KNOW about lubricants!

 

*pant pant pant*

 

Okay, sorry about that outburst, really....that kind of was on the angry side, I know you're just trying to be nice, but seriously, I NEVER said it was a concern, NEVER said it was a problem, NEVER said I wanted to fix ANYTHING about my body. MY VAGINA IS FINE. I did NOT say that I have a problem with dryness, I DID NOT. Pass insisted that there was something wrong with me ONLY because I was not like her at 21.

 

SERIOUSLY.

I didn't mean to put more damage on the situation. I just thought it would be interesting to get from a guys perspectiveof the situation. And I didn't even mean to put the topic DIRECTLY at you. Just in general since there were so many different topics being said. Since this specific topic of lubrication came up, my husband and I had a conversation about it and WHAT IF this were to have/had happened to me, what he would consider? Would he be supportive? etc. Again I am sorry, for even considering of putting that up.
 
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September 26, 2008, 1:39 pm PDT

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This brings up another topic I was never 100% in understandings with and personally never used.

What does douching actually do or even used for? I always thought that it was just to use it when you get that "not so fresh" feeling or smell. lol My husband has always tould me to never use it because it can actually ruin or even be damaging to your health??? Just curious.  

It removes all the natural secretions that women produce that can fight infections, removes any natural lubrications we have that make sex more enjoyable, and it can even damage our tissues, it is not a good thing. I think the only time a doctor would prescribe a douche is if a woman has had an infecrtion and had to use medication that was inserted and the doctor felt that a douche would remove any excess medications, or would be helpful in ensuring that the womans vagina was medically cleaned.

For personal use, it is not a good thing at all, yes we like to feel clean and fresh, but if you watched Oprah, Dr.Oz alikened womens vaginas to self cleaning ovens lol , and douches really interfer with that process.

Most douches use a viniger base... that does not sound good to me that I would use a substance that I use to wash grime off my windows lol.

Some use artificial solutions made up in a lab, I guess my point is that it is not natural, and should only be done if your Doctor recomends it.

As for the female scent, If a woman has issues with strong odors, see your Doctor, you may have a yeast infection, which is very common amoung women, or some other type of infection.

Or it may be that you just have a very strong womanly scent hehe, if the latter is the case, speak with your gynocologist to see if they have any safe options or suggestions, perfumed scents are definatley not the way to go, but there is a lot of natural remedys that a woman can look into. However, remember your scent is you and most men find their mates scent very very attractive, even if it is not attractive to others, to our mates we smell wonderful lol =). However, to reiterate, douching is not the way to go to try to attain a fresh, clean smell, the price is way to high in the long run.

I am so happy that your hubby has encouraged you not to douche, he seems like he is really in touch with womens health, and to him, your health is very important to him, great hubby you have there =).

Tammy

 

 
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September 26, 2008, 2:24 pm PDT

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UGH!!! FOR THE BAZILLIONTH TIME!!!! THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MEEEE!!!!

 

I said it over and over and over and over and over and over again!

 

I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS!! I never said I had a problem with this! The only person who said I had a "problem" was Pass because I'm not the same as she was when she was 21!!!

 

And for crissakes I WORK AT A PORN SHOP! I KNOW about lubricants!

 

*pant pant pant*

 

Okay, sorry about that outburst, really....that kind of was on the angry side, I know you're just trying to be nice, but seriously, I NEVER said it was a concern, NEVER said it was a problem, NEVER said I wanted to fix ANYTHING about my body. MY VAGINA IS FINE. I did NOT say that I have a problem with dryness, I DID NOT. Pass insisted that there was something wrong with me ONLY because I was not like her at 21.

 

SERIOUSLY.

Sorry, if you took this the wrong way, all i was going by was what I read, and did not go back as far as it seems i should have. Honestly, when i was sharing my opionions and thoughts, for the most part I was not thinking specifically of your case, but more general of women who may have an issue with vaginal dryness.

I was not sure if you really did have an issue or not, but thinking of those women that may have issue, by sharing my opinions and thoughts, it was my hopes that they could take what is good from them from my posts and leave the rest.

Further more if Pass was making a judgement baseed on her own experiences, then that is all it is a very narrow veiw point, that is applied liberaly to all who do not fit into her experience. It is narow minded, but if that is all she has to go on then that is what she is going to use, lol.  However, since it does not apply to you, and I was under a false impression, I apologize for that, I was under the impression this was a legitimate conversation about the issues, surrounding vaginal dryness.. and was being honest about my points of view on the matter.

Any way maybe a woman who is sincerly dealing with this issue, will find something that she can use to her benifit, and if not, well it was simply entertaining and even had some educational qualitys to the posts lol. Have a nice day, and I must say I am happy to hear that this is not a issue for you, because in all honestly not only can it be a physically painful issue, the emotional repercusions can be devastating to some one who is dealing with it.

Any how, I am rambling again lol, have a great day =).

Tammy

 

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