Topic : Pornography

Yes, I do understand how you feel today.  It could be the exclamation points or the shouting, lol.  But it sure seems like some tinge of anger lurks amongst the words of praise for the peace you have recieved.  Although you have not been absolute about what has occurred within your marriage other than porn use....it can vary from marriage to marriage.  Obviously you see this damage as irreversable for you....you and your husband rejoining in this marriage is not the main goal here I would guess.  Please be aware that our hearts are only completely known by God....all of it...all of the intentions the motives behind what we do and say.  This is where I feel (reading your words) that there seems to be some vengeance is "sweet" kind of tone....so just be mindful and careful with that fine line.    He is the one who will now suffer as he has NEVER suffered before!!!   These are the words that sort of hinder what you might be trying to gain most of all for yourself in all this....I know it's real hard to NOT want this for his life....but too, you have to realize that to hear God real clearly, you have to release all of this and allow him to work on your and don't ever with the worst on anyone else...even if they have hurt you.  It's loving your "enemies", and praying for them that sometimes releases God's greatest power in our lives for us.  This will only hinder what you are asking of God.  So please consider that ok. 

This is a place where advice is given freely...because very often someone else opinion might be helpful to many others who read.....there are no perfect marriages, no one who is perfect enough to offer up the perfect solutions....we are just here hoping to gain some wisdom and offer some peace....perhaps that is what her words could mean for you too.   

Luv~ 

don't ever with the worst on anyone else. 

Should have said don't ever WISH the worst on anyone else. 

Luv~ 

is it really necessary? 

but that will subside with time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  It is perfectly natural to have residual anger from the torture one has gone through and it's not expected to vanish overnight!  When I say he will suffer as he never has before, I am not just saying that with a "sweet vengeful" heart........I am saying this because I really MEAN IT!!!  Because if he is to get through his sinful ways and make PEACE with himself and The Lord, he will HAVE TO SUFFER!!!!!!!!!  Just as I HAVE!!!!!!!!!!!  SUFFERING is what humbles us and makes us pliable for Him to work with!  The exclamation points and capital letters is me SHOUTING to The Lord in PURE JOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  You have NO IDEA how JOYOUS it is to be FREE of this man in spirit!!!!!  To now be in a constant state of relaxation, peace and contentment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Those who doubt this can happen do so because they have not yet experienced it themselves.  

"...you have to release all of this and allow him to work on your and don't ever with the worst on anyone else...even if they have hurt you.  It's loving your "enemies", and praying for them that sometimes releases God's greatest power in our lives for us."  

I HAVE RELEASED ALL OF THIS UNTO HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  PRAISE JESUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  and I have said in my last post that I DO wish him all the best in this life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I DO LOVE him as the father of my children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  and I DO PRAY for him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  But, I DO NOT CARE WHAT HE DOES ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   HALLELUJAH TO THE LAMB OF GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  AMEN.      

IT IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   Why?  Does it offend you?  Are you an athiest?  Agnostic?  A pagan?  Are you offended by my PURE HAPPINESS AND JOY?????????????  Anyway, it doesn't matter to me if you are or not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I AM HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I AM FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I AM FULL OF JOY AND PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

Footnote:  If you are offended by the word of God and other people's happiness, I BLESS YOU THRICE and you may ask the moderators to DELETE my posts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  AMEN. 

When I came into this board I kinda thought I would get some advice on if porno is working in other couples relationships, not church. No, I'm not an antichrist, but wow, so much for this board being on the subject. 

I was basically looking for some different ideas on "spiceing" up our relationship without all of the pornography. My boyfriend and I are 9 years apart and everything is great and all, but I would like to surprise him with something unique.  

i step away from the board for a few days, and i come back to find happiness everywhere lol!!  glory, i'm happy that your sooooo happy and in peace! thats what lifes all about. but, can you please spare all the hail marys and hallulejahs?? it makes you seem.........well, hysterical lol. almost as hysterical as some of these anti-porners in here. 

i want to say congrats to lovely on her marriage!!!! did you all go on your honeymoon yet?? and if so, where? i also want to tell you to not worry about what some say on here about YOUR marriage. if porn works for you guys and you have a good and loving sex life, then this is all that matters! just this past weekend, we took lil man to grandma's and we went to Club Paris (lovely, check it out! www.clubparis.net) in O-town and shook our butts and grinded eachother on the dance floor all night long lol. when we came back home, we attacked each other!  

normally at this time, one of us would either bring up 1 of our fave porn sites or put in a movie. but honestly though, none of us thought of that! i quickly went around the room lighting candles (i'm a candle fanatic lol and have LOTS of them) and then nothing else existed but me, and him. it was super awesome!!! he asked me to pose for him and then i took one of the fake flowers from the nightstand and put it between my teeth as i was posing. it cracked him up! he was laughing so hard i thought he might lose his umm, well never mind lol. it was the best night ever! 

the moral of this story lol is, is that not all people who like porn use it EVERY SINGLE time! sometimes, they hardly ever use it at all! but its nice to have that choice if they want to or not. thats called freedom! and kc.....where you been, girl? hope everything is good in the hood with ya!   

Have you got a better solution? 

Luv~ 

yip still here ! I know I'm one great fool  ! but I've decided to give him another chance. I call this the abusee syndrom! 

He got very jelouse as my one old school friend phoned me while he was at home and we spoke for about an hour. but in half of the conversation I left the room. that left him very curiouse. 

this friend was the first guy I ever had a realy crush on (hubby doesn't know this) we have been friends since grade 4.tall, dark & handsome with the sweetest brown puppy eyes! 

damn how I've missed him ! 

if H had to hear me now . . . 

mom3 is that a photo of you? if yes I can't see why any man would need porn with some one so gorgouse ! 

where is ALL today does some one know? 

how are you all? 

well I will ponder about what what all of you said and let you know. 

 I know I'm not from America but can any of  you PLEASE tell me what LOL means in your country? 

I've been meaning to ask since I first got here.