Quote From: im_jeffShe has to already be aware of it, unless of course, she's blind, which she isn't. I know that she knows how I feel about it, even though she hasn't come right out and said it. This is one of many things that women are supposed to be on top of and handle themselves. Its not up to me to say, Hey hon, your stomach and the way it looks really turns me off, why don't you go and get plastic surgery to correct it? That would hurt her a lot more than me not saying anything at all.
I'm not using porn to escape something I don't want to deal with in my marriage. How many times do I have to say this damnit? I'm using porn as a SUPPLEMENT to it, just like your husband is doing. Don't give me that crap that he's using it to see the act of sex! If that's the case, does this also mean that he's using porn to escape something HE doesn't want to deal with in his marriage? Since he apparently doesn't "see" the act of sex while he's actually having sex with you or doesn't like what he sees, so he has to seek it out in porn? No need to answer. I already know why he does it.
I understand (or trying very hard to) that you're just asking these questions out of either curiosity or trying to cut me down, I'm not sure which. Before you post your questions to me, maybe you should look within your own marriage and ask your husband these questions. You may be surprised at the answer you get (IF he tells you the truth).
Like I said I was not tryong to be rude. The fact is that I have asked these very same questions in my own marriage. That is what 2 people in a honest relationship do. Please don't assume you know anything about my marriage, just as I don't assume to know anything about yours. Thus is the point of asking questions. I noticed that you had said in pervious posts yesterday, that you don't want to hurt your wife so you just don't say anything about the problem you have with her stomahe, so I wondered if maybe you ever thought that being honest with her would be better for the both of you. Obivously you don't and that is fine as long as you are willing and happy to live like that. I am not your judge nor would I want to be. I just how you relieze that women are more perceptive then you give us credit for.
As far aa my own marriage trust me I would not be posting anything to you if I had not already tried it and it worked. The fact is that my husband and I do not struggle sexually or with each other appearances, but there have been other things that we have both struggled with and we had to learn to be honest about it, no matter how hard it was to do it.
Porn is not something that I believe that men use for all the same reasons unlike alot of people here. I believe that each person has their own reasons, and when you say you use it as a supplement, I think that is the same as saying you use it to help you cope with the problems you are having about your wives stomache.
I am triyng to be as nice to you as possible, trust me that is not easy for me. All I ask is that you don't assume that I am attacking you, because trust me that is the one thing I am trying not to do.
Lovinglady
