Topic : Pornography

I don't look at that as something that is missing, I look at that as a desire that was waiting to be discovered. I understand that there are alot of women who are going to disagree with me, but I don't believe that something is missing just because you haven't discovered it yet. Honestly that is what I mean by the difference between Need and Desire. They are 2 very different things. My husband doesn't look at porn because I am not fulfilling his needs, he looks at porn because he desires to see and watch the act of sex. That is not a reflection of our sex life. I honestly look at it the same as when a man masterbates without porn. Does that mean that you are not fulfilling him? No. It simply means that he is in the mood to have what I call selfish sex. Selfish sex is when he doesn't want to have intercourse, he just wants to get off and then go to sleep. There is nothing wrong with that. Women do that 2, just i different ways. I don't believe porn or masterbation are a reflection of me and our sex together...I believe that there are both forms of desires. A desire to have it be completely about you. And I don't think that is wrong. 

Lovinglady 

if that was the case...then you just had a streak of bad luck...because there are many wonderful women in this country...(I happen to be one....but happily married).....and I have found that many who believe money is everything, usually end up finding out differently. 

Have you considered maybe it's the area, region, that you live in?   

I get what you are saying....I have an older son (26) who feels exactly as you do about American women...and is now MARRYING (oh my gosh) A LATIN girl.  As a matter of fact, he just called and has pushed up the wedding...(because they can't wait) to the first of January.   

He's explained the entire thing to me at great length....so I understand you opinion about this...however, as with him, I don't think it's about American women so much as it's about the "TYPE" of Amercian women that has been in your focus. 

Luv 

you even said, that when you started doing certain things, his porn use decreased, since you, personally, started to fill the gap.  How is that not saying he wasnt missing something and that you filled that space? 

a chauvinist.  I like to think of myself as an equalist. 

Arent you packing your bags yet, times a ticking. 

you even said, that when you started doing certain things, his porn use decreased, since you, personally, started to fill the gap.  How is that not saying he wasnt missing something and that you filled that space? 

22 years of bad luck with American chicks.  They're not ladies anymore.  Generally, they curse worse than we do, cheat more and are attention freaks and material girls.  I told one chick that you need us as much as we need you.  When she said that you girls didn't need us, I responded: "Remember me when you're 45 and petting your six cats." 

American women, generally, are a waste of time.   

To be honest i nderstand how yu get that idea, but you would have to know my husband. It is not that he ever used alot of porn to begin with. He somply desired to sex the act. I didn't come in and fulfill his need. I simply took place of his desire. That is it. I fulfilled his desire. That doesn't mean that anything was missing before, it simply means that together we found that we had fun fulfilling that desire. Period. Honestly it is not always about something missing, like I said it can also simply be about a desire that has yet to have been discovered.  

Lovinglady 

P.S. I hope you are having a good day. 

His desire was to see the two of you and then you filled that desire, hence why his porn use decreased.  Whether you call it desire or you call it missing, it is the samething.  You filled whatever he wanted. 

I am doing grand, keep realizing that people are stupid, la sigh.