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turkalurk

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September 10, 2007, 2:55 pm PDT

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Actually what you said was and I quote

 

SERIOUSLY, who still thinks a person is only monogamous if they only marry once in their lifetime?  That is SO ancient! 

 

Not in so many words did you say that it doesnt exist but that is what you implied.

 

With the Catholic Church you have to get a marriage annulled, in some cases very easy and in others not so much.   If marriage is not annulled you can not get married in a Catholic Church because in the Churches eyes you are still married.  There are a number of other religions that believe this too.  I believe another one is Hindu.

 

So are we now picking and choosing when and where a definition is applied and to whom?  Got it.

 

um, no you are wrong again, the church has a problem with divorice, however, in the days when it was acceptable by society, they were allowed to marry as many times as they wanted to, but they still wetre to take care of they're previous wives.  Hehehehe, you're so silly, I bet you know yourself, that you are back stepping.  I don't need to discuss this any further, I am confident that very few people in this world today would use that definition of monagamous.  Furthermore, I was merely making an observation, it doesn't matter what definition you use, none of them imply that porn use qualifies a marriage as polygamous,  So, whine all you want, your definition is outdated whether you admit it or not.
 
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September 10, 2007, 3:00 pm PDT

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Just because YOU personally dont know anyone that believes this way doesnt mean that it doesnt exist. 

 

Heard of the Catholic Church, not being able to get married again in it if you get a divorce?

 

Dictionary.Com - The American Heritage

Actually I believe that is changing or a lot of catholics want it changed.  It's kind of like not eating meat on Friday.  It used to be a sin.......now it isn't.

 

Same could be said for getting married after you're divorced.  All it takes is for the pope to bless it.

 

I'm not sure but isn't there a rule that you can get married after divorce in the catholic religion if certain things take place?  Perhaps somebody knows something about this.
 
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September 10, 2007, 4:14 pm PDT

Wow - are our husbands related?

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Hi! I hope everyone is doing good. Me, well, my husband stopped doing himself infront of the computer after I tried to talk to him. (im sorry if im using inappropriate words, i don't mean to offend anyone) And now he seem to be back in the habit. And, he's about to be on duty at a whole other country for a year!(my husband is in the military) and he can only visit once after six months; and he seem to be excited that he can keep doing it there and I wouldn't be there with him to say anything. what do u guys think?

I just found porn pictures on our new computer - found them on our shared computer a couple weeks ago - but he put it on my older son (he is 22) who use to live with us.  I believed him.  But seeing that my son now lives in the states and we are in Japan- he couldn't have done it.  He is TDY (Temp Duty Station) and I was downloading pictuers into the new computer and up comes pictures of women in different postions.  Needless to say I was shocked, hurt and confused.  Like normal he is out of town when things hit the fan - so over the phone we have been trying to work this out.  He goes off to Iraq in a couple of months - and I am sure this will carry on there too. 

 

My issue with porn comes from a childhood that I have never talked about with any one but my husband.  And I think that is what hurts the most - he knew how I felt about it.  My father had Playboys all over the house and when I was in High School I caught him peeping at me in a hole he made in the door.  So I always felt that looking at magazines and such drove him to this practice.  Now that I am grown - I should realize that this was his issue and not mine - but hard to make that leap.  All those feelings are flooding back from those teenage years - and I am not sure how to forgive my husband for doing this to me all over again. 

 

Am I crazy???? 

 
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September 10, 2007, 4:32 pm PDT

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Why he uses porn every week?  And if you did what did he say?  What does him looking at porn every week have to do with him being faithful or not?  You don't actually believe because a man uses porn that he will eventually cheat on you, do you?  Becuase you have no way of verifying that to be a fact.  Thats just YOUR opinion.   A man can enjoy looking at porn every week or every day and STILL be completely faithful to his wife.  Do you know how I know this? 

 

 

Because I am married to such a man!  We have been married for almost two decades and enjoy using porn together and by ourselves.  He always treats me with love and respect!  Yes.  He enjoys checking out beautiful sexy women.  I also enjoy checking out gorgoeus and sexy men.  Does this mean that we both cheat on each other or that we will some day? Of course not!  A person who has it in them to cheat will cheat on someone else wether or not they regularly use porn.

 

 

 

   

    
I also enjoy checking out gorgoeus and sexy men 

Thanks for the reply.

I have come to act as you do as well.....I used to have the mind set to sacrafice having experiences with guys that I like. But when I realise that my bf, doesnt work the same way.....I have decided against it.

Basically we are both young.....and later on down the track, I am sure he will want to sleep with someone else. I have decided that this is ok.....sometimes ego can be important. He can have that. I dont care what he says between then and now. I have been told polar opposities on a few occasions.

I know he loves me.....but there is the other small head that I know may not always act in my best interests.

Infact....it would really take me some convincing and promising from the bf I am with now, or any other for that matter....to get me to forgoe opportunities.

I know where I stand....I guess I am just expressing my experience so that other women can relax and consider this option.

These guys just dont think the same way about their definition of loving someone and how much you would devote to them and sacrafice for them.

My bf even thinks that if your married for 10 years its ok to have a fling, just to spice things up for something different.
 
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September 10, 2007, 4:39 pm PDT

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well, its too late, you're tactics have failed you, people have already starting forming opinions about you and what you're about, which creates an obvious bias.  You have seen this in sugarboog's response to your painting.  If she was asked by someone else, she probably would of had a different response.  
    
I agree Turk
 
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September 10, 2007, 5:26 pm PDT

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And how does Websters define the use of porn as cheating?

The question would be how does Websters define cheating.

 

Thank you also again for your correspondence.
 
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September 10, 2007, 5:29 pm PDT

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The posting that took place after my departure was most helpful. Thank you everyone for your imput. The question that still that exist to be answered is how one describes "mate."

 
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September 10, 2007, 5:35 pm PDT

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The question would be how does Websters define cheating.

 

Thank you also again for your correspondence.

I think it actually matters how each couple defines cheating.
 
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September 10, 2007, 5:39 pm PDT

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I think it actually matters how each couple defines cheating.
I would agree. It is not up to Websters to define pornography and cheating. Websters provides us with a guide line. But we must be very careful to not justify poor choices by creating our own narrow guide lines.
 
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September 10, 2007, 5:42 pm PDT

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The posting that took place after my departure was most helpful. Thank you everyone for your imput. The question that still that exist to be answered is how one describes "mate."

    
You think we are doing this for you!

Not likely

Although you will probably need all the help you can get anyway

I agree with Turk suggesting that you write up a survey....and post it instead.....and then list your email to get people to reply if they choose too.

Otherwise....just read what you can....and keep your intrusive questions to yourself.

The survey would actually be a very efficient way to get the answers you need for your thesis (i.e your own gain)
 
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