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Parents want the best for their children, but what’s the best way to educate them? Dr. Phil’s guests face off in a debate about whether to school, homeschool or unschool. Dana and her husband, Joe, call themselves radical unschoolers. They say education happens as a side effect of life, and they don’t believe in tests, curriculums or grades. Are their three kids learning what they need to know? Then, RaeAnn says public schools are death traps and wants to homeschool her children. Her husband, Steve, says their kids are safer at school than they are at home. Can this couple reach a compromise? Plus, Nicole feels like an outcast at 26. She says she hated being homeschooled, and couldn’t relate to other kids. Share your thoughts here.

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November 20, 2006, 3:29 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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I don't understand this attitude that just because the public school system isn't perfect that some how home schooling should be a free for all...

Fine, fix the tests, but I STILL think home school kids should be tested. I think all kids should be tested.

No one here thinks that home schooling is inherently inferior...it has the potential to be disastrously inferior though.

just because the public school system isn't perfect that some how home schooling should be a free for all...

 

I didn't say that at all. The jist is: why use a measurement tool that has been found to be faulty by the very institution that created it? Why model homeschooling (statistically a successful institution) after public schooling (statistically a flawed system)? The first generation of homeschoolers in over a century recently reached adulthood and surprise! they have done so well that colleges and Ivy League universities are now actively recruiting homeschoolers. That is what we call 'quanitifiable success'. It is the stuff of logic and impartial decision-making. I don't see what more involvement the public schools system can possibly add to the homeschooling experience. I only see a million ways that they could take it over and create yet another failure.

 

These are my kids we're talking about. Failure is not an option. I have the right to provide them with the quality education they deserve. No one else has the right to interfere. That's how I see it.

 
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November 20, 2006, 3:48 pm PST

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Quote From: purplepenny

I don't understand this attitude that just because the public school system isn't perfect that some how home schooling should be a free for all...

Fine, fix the tests, but I STILL think home school kids should be tested. I think all kids should be tested.

No one here thinks that home schooling is inherently inferior...it has the potential to be disastrously inferior though.

Exactly!

 

I find the sometimes lax and vastly differing state by state regulations in both homeschooling and unschooling may produce a potentially dangerous society.

 

Education is paramount in a fully functioning society.  I AM not stating that any of these options be denied to it's citizens.  No.

 

I am urging that all educators be held accountable in their efforts and that all students be closely monitored through the governments.

 

That's it - that's all; accountability and adhering to a specific set of regulated standards that are monitored are very important for me.

 

I would think that any really wonderful homeschooling parents would welcome this sort of criteria.  As it would lay to rest the idea that their motives aren't simply justified due to laziness, fear, over-protectiveness..... etc.

 

Many many parents should and do homeschool amazingly well.  Sadly many others do not. 

 

Therefore having more stringent and a more watchful government eye on both the teachers and the students would only serve to benefit this cause IMO.  Thereby creating a better educated child regardless of the method of education chosen.

 

 

Fredi

 

 

 
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November 20, 2006, 3:57 pm PST

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just because the public school system isn't perfect that some how home schooling should be a free for all...

 

I didn't say that at all. The jist is: why use a measurement tool that has been found to be faulty by the very institution that created it? Why model homeschooling (statistically a successful institution) after public schooling (statistically a flawed system)? The first generation of homeschoolers in over a century recently reached adulthood and surprise! they have done so well that colleges and Ivy League universities are now actively recruiting homeschoolers. That is what we call 'quanitifiable success'. It is the stuff of logic and impartial decision-making. I don't see what more involvement the public schools system can possibly add to the homeschooling experience. I only see a million ways that they could take it over and create yet another failure.

 

These are my kids we're talking about. Failure is not an option. I have the right to provide them with the quality education they deserve. No one else has the right to interfere. That's how I see it.

I said in my post to fix the tests. I see you skipped that part.

Home schooling is statistically successful, though the statistics as Julie pointed out before are skewed. No ALL home schooled kids are being counted in these stats, just those that volunteer to partake in surveys tests and other ways of measuring their success.

Public school is not statistically unsuccessful as many many many successful people come from public school.

It's interesting to see how you cherry pick the good from one place and the bad from another.


 
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November 20, 2006, 4:02 pm PST

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We're just about to head off to the library, and I was printing up a list of what books we have that are due. The thought struck me that it might answer some people's questions about whether or not unschoolers will truly learn about a variety of subjects.

 

Here's the first ten books off of each of my kids' lists (if I posted the whole list, it would be way too long! It's all I can do to keep them organized and on one shelf in our living room, so we won't have a ton of fines):

 

Son (10):

Evolution action

The Emancipation Proclamation

Brighty of the Grand Canyon (DVD)

Castle diary : the journal of Tobias Burgess, page

The Ocean of Osyria

Wormwood (Book on CD)

Ivanhoe

Nanotechnology

The remarkable worlds of Professor Phineas B. Fuddle

Walt Disney's Mickey Mouse adventures

 

Daughter (7):

I'll always be your friend

Born free (DVD)

Watership Down (Book on CD)

Look to the north : a wolf pup diary

Horse heroes : true stories of amazing horses

Ice skating stars

The Boston coffee party

The Flame of peace: a tale of the Aztecs

Umeko and the music show

Black cowboy, wild horses : a true story

 

So let's see, just in their first ten books apiece, we've hit U.S. History, sports, nature and animals, science and technology, world/cultural history, great literature, mythology, and modern cultural icons (Mickey Mouse, LOL).

 

And that's just one part of one library list! We go there at least once a week. And that doesn't even take into account all of the people the kids talk to, the movies and documentaries we watch, the discussions we have, the hands-on things that they do, the homeschool field trips or classes. This is just their interests in books to read.

 

No, I don't really worry about my kids learning all sorts of things.

You "unschool" is a way that seems to be working. And that is great. All I was saying before was that the unschooled kids I know are not getting any education at all. Their parents aren't doing anything to provoke learning or expose instances to learn. That is sad to me...I don't care how a kid learns something, long as they learn.
 
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November 20, 2006, 4:16 pm PST

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Quote From: purplepenny

I said in my post to fix the tests. I see you skipped that part.

Home schooling is statistically successful, though the statistics as Julie pointed out before are skewed. No ALL home schooled kids are being counted in these stats, just those that volunteer to partake in surveys tests and other ways of measuring their success.

Public school is not statistically unsuccessful as many many many successful people come from public school.

It's interesting to see how you cherry pick the good from one place and the bad from another.


Public schools statistically have been going downhill quickly for decades. The standards are now so low that an intelligent spider monkey could graduate, and yet many students can't. I believe an educational institution that accepts 40% wrong as a passign grade is flawed. I believe that after 13 years of school, one should know basic reading and math. So I guess we just hold education to different standards.

 

If "fixing the tests" was easy or remotely possible, I should hope it would already have been done.

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:26 pm PST

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If Johnny can't read or can't understand simple logic then his life could infringe on my rights by the possibility that he could do something stupid, vote for something I find dangerous or harmful.

Actually, hardly any of the men who founded our country were Christian. Most were deists and unitarians. If you are home schooling your kids I would hope you would teach them actual facts.

Actually, hardly any of the men who founded our country were Christian. Most were deists and unitarians. If you are home schooling your kids I would hope you would teach them actual facts.

 

Here is a link to a list of the self-professed religions of the founding fathers. Note that they are all some form of Christian denomination. One says he is Episcopalian and Deist, but lists Episcopalian first. The only Unitarians are Unitarian Congregationalists, a Protestant denomination. This is what they actually called themselves, not the opinion of a historian born 200 years later.

 

http://www.adherents.com/gov/Founding_Fathers_Religion.html#Declaration 

 

I do teach actual facts. Apparently the public schools do not?

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:28 pm PST

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Its relevance is that you previously made a comment that you'd be pissed if you got to the age of 18 and your parents hadn' taught you how to read the newspaper because you were more interested in chasing butterflies.

 

Unschooling isn't for everyone, for sure.  There are tons of kids in the school system who undoubtedly would benefit from unschooling.  But without willing, dedicated parents, it's not going to work.

 

No, I don't believe ALL parents should unschool.  But I also know some highly successful intelligent people who excel in areas other than spelling and writing.  Being able to write well does reflect positively on your intelligence.  Unfortunately, bad spelling is not a sign of ignorance or stupidity.  Some people just aren't good spellers, period. 

 

I'm really bad at aural directions.  Yes, I understand them, but I can't repeat them or follow them without freezing up.  I hate phone conversations where I need to remember the info being given.  I need to write it down and see it, and the act of writing cements it.  What I'm trying to say is that parents don't need to hold doctorates to be able to impart knowledge to their kids.  A love of learning and dedication goes a long way.  I'm constantly saying, "Gee, I don't know, but let's go find out!"

Wow! Talk about taking something out of context! Here is the post you were referring to ....

 

Assume the very worst case scenario. You got to the point where you decided you wanted to be an english teacher but had not bothered with English skills. What then? Is the dream over? From watching unschooled kids and older self-directed learners what happens (with them at least) is they simply go out and get the skills they need. Then they pursue the dream. Would you have really looked at your lack of English and decided it was an insurmountable obstacle? I really doubt it.

 

My response:

It depends on the degree to which I was lacking the skills. If my parents let me get to adulthood without being able to so much as read a newspaper, I'd be pretty pissed with them. If I couldn't construct a sentence or communicate effectively because I preferred to chase butterflies, I would say my parents had failed to do their jobs as parents.

 

Now I realize that is most likely not the case with your children or other "unschooled" children, but if you are going to ask me how bad is the worse case scenario, I think the worst case scenario is rather frightening.

 

I find it rather disingenuous to cherry pick one statement out of context and use it to paint an inaccurate picture.

 

It's not just the matter of spelling. She didn't even get it when I corrected it! She wanted it sent out to parents and assumed they would understand her meaning. She was a nice lady in many ways, but she was in deep denial about her own lack of skills.

 

But without willing, dedicated parents, it's not going to work.

 

I agree. I also don't think traditional schooling has a great shot at succeeding without dedicated, willing parents.

 

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:29 pm PST

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You "unschool" is a way that seems to be working. And that is great. All I was saying before was that the unschooled kids I know are not getting any education at all. Their parents aren't doing anything to provoke learning or expose instances to learn. That is sad to me...I don't care how a kid learns something, long as they learn.

All I was saying before was that the unschooled kids I know are not getting any education at all. Their parents aren't doing anything to provoke learning or expose instances to learn.

 

Then why don't you report them for educational neglect and let the 'experts' decide?   There may be mitigating circumstances, ie the kids are autistic, special needs, etc.  And not every kid (public, private, homeschool, or unschool) is going to be 'advanced.'

 

Where are these true homeschool failures?  I'd wager they're extremely rare.  But these failures are touted as being 'high' and that the kids are 'behind'.  To me it's the proverbial straw man scare tactics to convince those parents on the fence that maybe, just maybe, they should leave education to the professionals.

 

As far as those here wanting homeschoolers to be forced to take standardized testing, even private schools in my state are exempt from these.  It speaks to the fact that private schools have a different agenda than public (ie Catholic Schools).  Many homeschoolers chose to homeschool for the fact that schools are now so geared to 'teach to the test' and test scores are so highly over-emphasized.  I applaud the 10th grade students who purposely threw the test to make their point.  The emphasis on testing is ridiculous, and for all of the purported raising the standards and no child left behind, the truly intelligent students and gifted students are the ones falling through the cracks. 

 

There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all education.  Our schools are geared toward the middle ground.  Special Ed gets its share of the money, but the smart students are bored out of their minds and labeled ADHD. 

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:33 pm PST

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I said in my post to fix the tests. I see you skipped that part.

Home schooling is statistically successful, though the statistics as Julie pointed out before are skewed. No ALL home schooled kids are being counted in these stats, just those that volunteer to partake in surveys tests and other ways of measuring their success.

Public school is not statistically unsuccessful as many many many successful people come from public school.

It's interesting to see how you cherry pick the good from one place and the bad from another.


I didn't say it was statisticaly unsuccessful, did I? Why all the straw man arguments? I said it was statistically flawed.

 

You can argue with the homeschool test scores, but Stanford doesn't.

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:35 pm PST

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You might want to ask how many of those classes are dropped every single semester if you ever consider sending your kids there.

 

The original question was how a homeschooled child would learn these subjects. I explained how. I think it's a moot point when the average public schooler is not learning them. Even Harvard doesn't require that incoming freshman already have completed calculus.

 

Funding is a HUGE issue, but I'm not willing to let my kids be punished for an inept bureaucracy. That is yet another reason why I homeschool.

 

I don't see any of thse low paid teachers. My father is a teacher and make almost $50,000 a year. That's as much as my mother, who has a master's degree and works in the private sector. My father works less than half of the annual hours she does and has better benefits. It's hard to see how someone with a mere Bachelor's degree in Liberal Arts could do better.

Please read my post again. I stated that it was difficult to find teachers who are qualified to teach higher maths and sciences because their skills give them the ability to acquire higher paying jobs elsewhere. We cannot FORCE highly skilled people to take the lowest paying job available to them given their skills.

 

Your father is lucky. I had ten years experience AND a Masters degree and I wasn't making $30,000. Believe me, I was putting in FAR more than the 37 hour workweek. Between being the school newspaper sponsor and the drama coach, AND grading writing papers for the over 150 students I saw each day, I worked about 60 hours a week.

 
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