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Parents want the best for their children, but what’s the best way to educate them? Dr. Phil’s guests face off in a debate about whether to school, homeschool or unschool. Dana and her husband, Joe, call themselves radical unschoolers. They say education happens as a side effect of life, and they don’t believe in tests, curriculums or grades. Are their three kids learning what they need to know? Then, RaeAnn says public schools are death traps and wants to homeschool her children. Her husband, Steve, says their kids are safer at school than they are at home. Can this couple reach a compromise? Plus, Nicole feels like an outcast at 26. She says she hated being homeschooled, and couldn’t relate to other kids. Share your thoughts here.

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November 20, 2006, 4:35 pm PST

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Does anyone remember the show back in October about "Teachers Caught In The Act"?  The 24 year old teacher who fell in love with her 15 year old student and didn't realize how inappropriate this was?  That poor girl was homeschooled.  She had obviously led so sheltered a life that she had no concept of how an adult 24 year old would normally relate to a teenager.   It was like she herself was still a teenager.  This naive young woman had obviously missed out on some elements of being a regular teen through her homeschooling experience.  Not that I think all homeschooled kids go thru this, but it apparently does happen.  I am not at all in favor of young elementary age kids having to be burdened by too much information or exposure to things of a more mature nature, but older teens need the opportunity to understand the way the world works - good and bad, so that they can survive in that world when they no longer have mom and/or dad there 24/7.   People who choose homeschooling strictly as a way to "protect" their kids or micromanage every single thing their children are exposed to do their kids no favors in the long run. 
 
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November 20, 2006, 4:35 pm PST

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Actually, hardly any of the men who founded our country were Christian. Most were deists and unitarians. If you are home schooling your kids I would hope you would teach them actual facts.

 

I'd ask you to define "Christian."  Do you mean professing Jesus as a personal savior, or do you mean having a world view that a Creator god created men equal and endowed them with unalienable rights like life and liberty? Because nearly all of our founding fathers held the "Christian" view of the latter; and as for the former, the personal journals and diaries of Patrick Henry, Samuel Adams, George Washington, John Adams, James Madison, John Jay and many others at the time of our founding will attest to a personal faith. The claim of "hardly any" is just wrong.

 

Even deists believe a god exists and Unitarians go so far as to say God created the world, even if he isn't personally involved.  The "actually" part is that deists and Unitarians were in the minority until the years after the War of Independence.  It was, in large part, not until the Continental Army received military help from the French that deist ideas of enlightenment took root.  

 

My home schooled children know this because they have studied far more of he original writings than any condensed history in public school text books could possibly include.   

  

 

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:41 pm PST

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Wow! Talk about taking something out of context! Here is the post you were referring to ....

 

Assume the very worst case scenario. You got to the point where you decided you wanted to be an english teacher but had not bothered with English skills. What then? Is the dream over? From watching unschooled kids and older self-directed learners what happens (with them at least) is they simply go out and get the skills they need. Then they pursue the dream. Would you have really looked at your lack of English and decided it was an insurmountable obstacle? I really doubt it.

 

My response:

It depends on the degree to which I was lacking the skills. If my parents let me get to adulthood without being able to so much as read a newspaper, I'd be pretty pissed with them. If I couldn't construct a sentence or communicate effectively because I preferred to chase butterflies, I would say my parents had failed to do their jobs as parents.

 

Now I realize that is most likely not the case with your children or other "unschooled" children, but if you are going to ask me how bad is the worse case scenario, I think the worst case scenario is rather frightening.

 

I find it rather disingenuous to cherry pick one statement out of context and use it to paint an inaccurate picture.

 

It's not just the matter of spelling. She didn't even get it when I corrected it! She wanted it sent out to parents and assumed they would understand her meaning. She was a nice lady in many ways, but she was in deep denial about her own lack of skills.

 

But without willing, dedicated parents, it's not going to work.

 

I agree. I also don't think traditional schooling has a great shot at succeeding without dedicated, willing parents.

 

Now I realize that is most likely not the case with your children or other "unschooled" children, but if you are going to ask me how bad is the worse case scenario, I think the worst case scenario is rather frightening.

 

And just where are these frightening examples of horrifically under-educated unschoolers and homeschoolers?  Surely if they are that plentiful you should have examples. 

 

And I'd also wager that those homeschooled kids who entered your classroom 'behind' (as they obviously weren't following the same curriculum) caught up fairly quickly?  I'm not saying making the honor roll, but I doubt they flunked out, either.

 

My homeschooled niece and nephew who were loosely following a curriculum entered a private religious high school known for its advanced academics when they were a freshman and sophomore respectively.  Both caught on quickly and made As and Bs.  Another kid I know was pulled from school after second grade and went back for 6th.  Same thing.  Did well after a month.

 

And I don't need to imagine the worst case scenarios for public school graduates.  I've met a lot of them over the years.

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:43 pm PST

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All I was saying before was that the unschooled kids I know are not getting any education at all. Their parents aren't doing anything to provoke learning or expose instances to learn.

 

Then why don't you report them for educational neglect and let the 'experts' decide?   There may be mitigating circumstances, ie the kids are autistic, special needs, etc.  And not every kid (public, private, homeschool, or unschool) is going to be 'advanced.'

 

Where are these true homeschool failures?  I'd wager they're extremely rare.  But these failures are touted as being 'high' and that the kids are 'behind'.  To me it's the proverbial straw man scare tactics to convince those parents on the fence that maybe, just maybe, they should leave education to the professionals.

 

As far as those here wanting homeschoolers to be forced to take standardized testing, even private schools in my state are exempt from these.  It speaks to the fact that private schools have a different agenda than public (ie Catholic Schools).  Many homeschoolers chose to homeschool for the fact that schools are now so geared to 'teach to the test' and test scores are so highly over-emphasized.  I applaud the 10th grade students who purposely threw the test to make their point.  The emphasis on testing is ridiculous, and for all of the purported raising the standards and no child left behind, the truly intelligent students and gifted students are the ones falling through the cracks. 

 

There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all education.  Our schools are geared toward the middle ground.  Special Ed gets its share of the money, but the smart students are bored out of their minds and labeled ADHD. 

for all of the purported raising the standards and no child left behind, the truly intelligent students and gifted students are the ones falling through the cracks. 

 

This is my major problem with the school system. Our country is going to need leadership to get through several impending international crises, to solve medical and environmental ills, and just generally to lead us. Yet our public schools are floundering to even maintain the status quo. How are we training the brightest of the bright, our world's future great thinkers? We are requiring them to learn with the same materials and methods as students 3 or more grade levels behind them. We are asking them to be bored senseless for the majority of their waking lives. We are punishing them if they so much protest. Our gifted children are being taught that they should shut up and be happy to be bored. If they don't comply, we medicate them.

 

What a formula for the next Winston Churchill or Thomas Edison! (Both of whom, by the way, were homeschooled. So maybe this is not a modern problem only.)

 
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November 20, 2006, 4:50 pm PST

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Actually, hardly any of the men who founded our country were Christian. Most were deists and unitarians. If you are home schooling your kids I would hope you would teach them actual facts.

 

Here is a link to a list of the self-professed religions of the founding fathers. Note that they are all some form of Christian denomination. One says he is Episcopalian and Deist, but lists Episcopalian first. The only Unitarians are Unitarian Congregationalists, a Protestant denomination. This is what they actually called themselves, not the opinion of a historian born 200 years later.

 

http://www.adherents.com/gov/Founding_Fathers_Religion.html#Declaration 

 

I do teach actual facts. Apparently the public schools do not?

There you go again making wild assumptions about me. I have learned about the religions of our founding fathers (of which there are hundreds) on my own through my own research through reading the writing of the actual founding fathers. Not by going to bias websites. Anyone can make a web page say anything they please.

If you would like a list of books that I own, that are actually written by founding fathers on their ideas on religion, secularism and such I will email it to you gladly.

This website you listed has Benjamin Franklin listed as a Episcopalian (Deist) He was not. He had very anti-Christian leanings.




 
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November 20, 2006, 4:53 pm PST

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All I was saying before was that the unschooled kids I know are not getting any education at all. Their parents aren't doing anything to provoke learning or expose instances to learn.

 

Then why don't you report them for educational neglect and let the 'experts' decide?   There may be mitigating circumstances, ie the kids are autistic, special needs, etc.  And not every kid (public, private, homeschool, or unschool) is going to be 'advanced.'

 

Where are these true homeschool failures?  I'd wager they're extremely rare.  But these failures are touted as being 'high' and that the kids are 'behind'.  To me it's the proverbial straw man scare tactics to convince those parents on the fence that maybe, just maybe, they should leave education to the professionals.

 

As far as those here wanting homeschoolers to be forced to take standardized testing, even private schools in my state are exempt from these.  It speaks to the fact that private schools have a different agenda than public (ie Catholic Schools).  Many homeschoolers chose to homeschool for the fact that schools are now so geared to 'teach to the test' and test scores are so highly over-emphasized.  I applaud the 10th grade students who purposely threw the test to make their point.  The emphasis on testing is ridiculous, and for all of the purported raising the standards and no child left behind, the truly intelligent students and gifted students are the ones falling through the cracks. 

 

There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all education.  Our schools are geared toward the middle ground.  Special Ed gets its share of the money, but the smart students are bored out of their minds and labeled ADHD. 

"I'd wager they're extremely rare."

Based on what?

"There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all education."

No one here said anything remotely like that.
 
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November 20, 2006, 4:56 pm PST

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Now I realize that is most likely not the case with your children or other "unschooled" children, but if you are going to ask me how bad is the worse case scenario, I think the worst case scenario is rather frightening.

 

And just where are these frightening examples of horrifically under-educated unschoolers and homeschoolers?  Surely if they are that plentiful you should have examples. 

 

And I'd also wager that those homeschooled kids who entered your classroom 'behind' (as they obviously weren't following the same curriculum) caught up fairly quickly?  I'm not saying making the honor roll, but I doubt they flunked out, either.

 

My homeschooled niece and nephew who were loosely following a curriculum entered a private religious high school known for its advanced academics when they were a freshman and sophomore respectively.  Both caught on quickly and made As and Bs.  Another kid I know was pulled from school after second grade and went back for 6th.  Same thing.  Did well after a month.

 

And I don't need to imagine the worst case scenarios for public school graduates.  I've met a lot of them over the years.

"And just where are these frightening examples of horrifically under-educated unschoolers and homeschoolers?  Surely if they are that plentiful you should have examples."

Are you serious? She never said they are "plentiful"...she just said that the worst case scenario is fightening...GEEZE! LOL
 
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November 20, 2006, 4:58 pm PST

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purplepenny wrote:

Actually, hardly any of the men who founded our country were Christian. Most were deists and unitarians. If you are home schooling your kids I would hope you would teach them actual facts.

 

I'd ask you to define "Christian."  Do you mean professing Jesus as a personal savior, or do you mean having a world view that a Creator god created men equal and endowed them with unalienable rights like life and liberty? Because nearly all of our founding fathers held the "Christian" view of the latter; and as for the former, the personal journals and diaries of Patrick Henry, Samuel Adams, George Washington, John Adams, James Madison, John Jay and many others at the time of our founding will attest to a personal faith. The claim of "hardly any" is just wrong.

 

Even deists believe a god exists and Unitarians go so far as to say God created the world, even if he isn't personally involved.  The "actually" part is that deists and Unitarians were in the minority until the years after the War of Independence.  It was, in large part, not until the Continental Army received military help from the French that deist ideas of enlightenment took root.  

 

My home schooled children know this because they have studied far more of he original writings than any condensed history in public school text books could possibly include.   

  

 

I am not sure what this has to do with anything...a deist is not a Christian.  More importantly this country was meant to be secular, not religious.

If you want to get into this further then please contact me through email or on a board that is on topic. I get sick of my posts being erased because they are off topic.
 
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November 20, 2006, 5:03 pm PST

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I didn't say it was statisticaly unsuccessful, did I? Why all the straw man arguments? I said it was statistically flawed.

 

You can argue with the homeschool test scores, but Stanford doesn't.

It wasn't a straw man, I misread what you said.

I am actually flabergasted...LOL..I am actually for homeschooling in many instances, just the people posting so far are way more interested in getting defensive, argumentative and stepping on a soap box than having an actual conversation.

"You can argue with the home school test scores, but Stanford doesn't."

Not all home schooled kids go to Standford do they? Do you get it yet? You have no way of knowing if home schooling is effective or successful as a whole. You only know about the home schooled kids who are public about it, as it take tests, go to college...etc...
 
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November 20, 2006, 5:06 pm PST

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Now I realize that is most likely not the case with your children or other "unschooled" children, but if you are going to ask me how bad is the worse case scenario, I think the worst case scenario is rather frightening.

 

And just where are these frightening examples of horrifically under-educated unschoolers and homeschoolers?  Surely if they are that plentiful you should have examples. 

 

And I'd also wager that those homeschooled kids who entered your classroom 'behind' (as they obviously weren't following the same curriculum) caught up fairly quickly?  I'm not saying making the honor roll, but I doubt they flunked out, either.

 

My homeschooled niece and nephew who were loosely following a curriculum entered a private religious high school known for its advanced academics when they were a freshman and sophomore respectively.  Both caught on quickly and made As and Bs.  Another kid I know was pulled from school after second grade and went back for 6th.  Same thing.  Did well after a month.

 

And I don't need to imagine the worst case scenarios for public school graduates.  I've met a lot of them over the years.

At the risk of being understood, I was ASKED what the worst case scenario would be. It was a HYPOTHETICAL question. Please try to keep things within the context of the conversation.

 

One girl who returned was far above average - truly stellar. The others not at all. Their parents approached homeschooling for all the wrong reasons and were under the mistaken assumption that all they had to do was buy a few books from Barnes and Noble and let the kid have at it. If the parents are truly committed and prepared for homeschooling, I am SURE the children adapt well to public schools should they need to return.

 

I feel you are deliberately MISSING MY POINT. My concern is not at all for the families who are doing a great job homeschooling - and I suspect that the majority of homeschool parents ARE doing a great job. Any responsible discussion about homeschooling needs to include very specific, very honest information about what is actually required of the parents. What the time demands will be. How much research, effort, etc. needs to go into it. I have dealt with many parents who think they can homeschool simply because they bought Hooked on Phonics!

 
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