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Parents want the best for their children, but what’s the best way to educate them? Dr. Phil’s guests face off in a debate about whether to school, homeschool or unschool. Dana and her husband, Joe, call themselves radical unschoolers. They say education happens as a side effect of life, and they don’t believe in tests, curriculums or grades. Are their three kids learning what they need to know? Then, RaeAnn says public schools are death traps and wants to homeschool her children. Her husband, Steve, says their kids are safer at school than they are at home. Can this couple reach a compromise? Plus, Nicole feels like an outcast at 26. She says she hated being homeschooled, and couldn’t relate to other kids. Share your thoughts here.

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November 23, 2006, 5:20 pm PST

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The funding issue isn't important in the case of ONE child, but if MANY homeschooled children decided to take various classes, it WOULD be an issue because schools in Florida are funded per student. It doesn't matter if that child 's family paid taxes, not to that particular school anyway. I am not suggesting that homeschool students be denied access, but if a flood of homeschool students were to need public school classes, the funding laws need to change.

 

I agree and that is why I find it hard to believe, given the state law, that the public school would receive no additional funding.

 

You seem to be dead set against the idea that any parent would homeschool their child and NOT comply with the regulations. Why is that?

 

No, not at all. I'm simply pointing out that in your situation you, and I'm sure the other administrators at the school assumed that the homeschool parents did not comply with state regulation because you were acknowledgeable of the state laws. In fact you (on a local school level) have no way of knowing if they complied. Individual schools do not govern homeschoolers, state laws govern homeschoolers.

 

I would imagine that if I had sent YOU a letter stating that the standardized tests were available to you at the school on such and such dates along with a reminder of homeschool compliance laws, you would not have IGNORED it. You most likely would have called the school to inform us that you were using a different option. I am assuming you, and most good homeschooling parents, would want to avoid a misunderstanding or a bureaucratic mess.

 

I don't live in a state that requires testing but if I did I wouldn't feel the need to answer to individual schools. The only misunderstanding or bureaucratic mess would be a result of the administrators lack of knowledge on the homeschooling laws. That is why it is so important for those in the public school system to be knowledgeable of the state law concerning homeschooling.

 

I really do not understand this mentality that schools are against homeschoolers.

 

Please go visit the website for HSLDA. It gives case after case of examples.

 

 

As far as schools needing to understand the laws regarding homeschooling, maybe. Realize the multitude of laws and regulations that school personnel need to be on top of. In dealing with high stakes testing, drugs, gangs, ESOL, ESE, federal IDEA, character education, curriculum standards, etc., homeschooling will fall to the bottom of the priority list simply because the people who work in schools generally have very little interaction with homeschoolers. The rest of the stuff is in our face every day.

 

I understand that there are many laws that administrators must keep in mind. But, they do not belittle the importance of being educated in the state laws concerning homeschooling.

 A  principal, vice principal or any other administrative position in a local school is not responsible for homeschool attendance laws, testing, letter of intent to homeschool or any other aspect of homeschool requirements.  These requirements are monitored on a higher level.

 

Local school administrations should be knowledgeable about the homeschooling laws for the simple fact that they are state laws concerning schooling.

 

Also, if they were knowledgeable it would avoid any misconceptions. You asked before, "I am assuming you, and most good homeschooling parents, would want to avoid a misunderstanding or a bureaucratic mess. Am I wrong?". This is the perfect example of how not being knowledgeable of the state laws will cause a problem. You are assuming that homeschoolers would answer to a local school to avoid a bureaucratic mess. But, what you aren't understanding is that the bureaucratic mess is created by the administration not being knowledgeable of the laws. If they were knowledgeable they would know that the homeschoolers do not answer to local schools and they would not assume the homeschoolers didn't comply with the law.

 

As a fellow educator I'm sure you agree that knowledge is crucial. This is just another example of how a lack of knowledge can lead to problems.

If you want to give me a specific case to review, I will gladly look at it. I find legal cases extremely interesting. I have visited the HSDLA website. I know you won't like this, but to me, it comes off as the homeschoolers' version of the NEA. I'd rather not delve into one-sided rhetoric, but again, I will look at any specific cases you feel are relevant to our conversation.

 

Please understand that I was never under any illusion that I was responsible for any homeschooling laws or enforcement of those laws. I was simply the testing coordinator, and responsible for a task.  I believe the letters were sent to me first so I would know what to expect and what accommodations I needed to make for homeschoolers taking the test. Of the five students on my list, I only knew one of them. When I returned the testing materials to the district, I asked about the unused tests and I was told simply to document that the students did not take the test. If they had taken the test at another district school, I would have been asked to send the testing booklets to that school.

 

I inquired about the one student I knew because this was ABSOLUTELY a case of a student being home but not schooled. If you need specifics, Mom was simply avoiding the truancy laws, and the child was staying home with his teenage sister and her baby all day. I asked what would happen as a result of him not taking the test, and I was told most likely nothing. That the state would probably catch up to him eventually, but it would take a long time.

 

You asked before, "I am assuming you, and most good homeschooling parents, would want to avoid a misunderstanding or a bureaucratic mess. Am I wrong?". This is the perfect example of how not being knowledgeable of the state laws will cause a problem.

 

I guess we simply think differently. The reason the letter had the school information on it was because that child's test was at the school. I don't think I could have caused a bureaucratic mess, but I would think the parent would want to respond - if not out of a sense of accountability, perhaps out of a sense of courtesy. I have had banks and other institutions make mistakes or even simply send me information that I didn't think applied to me, I would call to question. Quite frankly, I was a bit surprised that not one parent bothered to say. "Hey, do not worry about making any accommodations for our testing, we are doing something else."

 

I do realize that knowledge is crucial, but I also realize that it is impossible to be completely knowledgeable about everything, even within a given job. I am more than happy to have a few specialized people take care of knowing all the laws pertaining to homeschooling or any other issue. When I was a school administrator, I knew how to get in touch with the people who specialized in certain areas. Notice that I didn't call the homeschoolers, report them to authorities, or bang on their doors. I simply turned over the information and asked what else was expected of me.

 

I get the sense that some homeschoolers are so militant about their beliefs that they don't understand that it simply isn't the center of everyone else's universe. My son took swimming lessons with a boy whose mother was homeschooling her children. She told me that she and other homeschooling parents in her network were pressuring the YMCA to offer a special swim class for homeschooling students; they were even considering a lawsuit. She reasoned that it was discrimination that the Y offered swimming lessons at times convenient for public school kids, therefore, it should offer lessons at time convenient for the homeschoolers. I find that incredibly self-involved.

 

 
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November 23, 2006, 5:29 pm PST

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Quote From: winterwarmth

yental wrote: "
Who will be there to inspire them to grow and reach their full potential if it were not for a teacher?"
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Indeed.  I have seen many children who could use the influence of a teacher, as some parents are not interested in providing inspiration, motivation and support.  Teachers sometimes are the only people these young people can depend on.  However for functional families - teachers, while there are many good ones, are a supplemental support for the foundational support children should already be receiving at home.

Teachers do indeed provide a lot for a classroom of students.  It takes a lot of dedication to do it.  Not all people are cut out for the job of co-ordinating the activities of a public school.

One of my children was a special ed student in school, and had a teacher much like yourself, a top-notch one whose support and advice and influence on my child I was (and still am) beyond grateful to have received.  Occasionally we still encounter each other (grocery store, bank, whatever) and she's very interested in how we were doing.  You see, she was an incredible support to me as well, and advocate for me, when our family decided to opt out of the school system and pursue other paths.  And this is a woman whose income depends on children like my own child!

Winterwarmth,

 

I really appreciate your posts. If I ever decide to homeschool, I'm going to move and live next to you! LOL!

 

The show airs tomorrow and many people are off from work. I also have come to learn that some homeschooling groups are emailing their members urging them to post on this board. I suspect this board may be literally insane tomorrow. I have been on when special interest groups flood the board before, and I have found that it is pointless to try to keep up or to have a rational conversation with ANYONE. I am sure some anti-homeschoolers will be making some noise too, especially if the first family comes off as extreme.

 

I am going to take a break from this board. I may be back once the fervor dies down. I want you to know how much I appreciate the support you have given to teachers and school officials. Truly, you are a voice of reason. Much luck to you in your homeschooling endeavors. I hope to *see* you again once the craziness subsides or perhaps on another board here. There are many friendly non-debate boards here.

 

Julie

 
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November 23, 2006, 5:46 pm PST

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Quote From: rjonesva

I don't agree with the philosophy of unschooled. I think those who subscribe to this type of thinking and teaching are ignorant and are doing their children a huge disservice. I think every parent has a responsibility and duty to educate their children and to shape and mold that untapped and raw potential. When children are left to raise, entertain and educate themselves they don't choose things that are productive or positive. When a child has to much free time to think idle thoughts that is when trouble beings to be birthed in their minds and activities.

 

I do agree that homeschooling is not for every child or parent. It does take commitment, time, energy and at times sacrifice but the benefits are Hugh to your child and your relationship with them. If your planning on homeschooling take the time to properly educate yourself on the different resources, methods, support groups and enrichment activities. It will help you to have less anxiety, more success and fun.

Unschooling parents do educate their children.  You seems to be confusing hands off parenting with unschooling. 

 
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November 23, 2006, 6:16 pm PST

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Quote From: julie1418

Winterwarmth,

 

I really appreciate your posts. If I ever decide to homeschool, I'm going to move and live next to you! LOL!

 

The show airs tomorrow and many people are off from work. I also have come to learn that some homeschooling groups are emailing their members urging them to post on this board. I suspect this board may be literally insane tomorrow. I have been on when special interest groups flood the board before, and I have found that it is pointless to try to keep up or to have a rational conversation with ANYONE. I am sure some anti-homeschoolers will be making some noise too, especially if the first family comes off as extreme.

 

I am going to take a break from this board. I may be back once the fervor dies down. I want you to know how much I appreciate the support you have given to teachers and school officials. Truly, you are a voice of reason. Much luck to you in your homeschooling endeavors. I hope to *see* you again once the craziness subsides or perhaps on another board here. There are many friendly non-debate boards here.

 

Julie

You're welcome, Julie.  It was great having a good discussion like this.  I enjoyed recounting some of the very reasons our family chose this, and some of the feedback the honest seekers put out, especially you.  Your input as a public school teacher was very educational and informative :)

Yeah, I will check out some of the other boards, and keep an eye out for you in other subjects.
Thanks again.
 
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November 23, 2006, 6:23 pm PST

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Quote From: julie1418

If you want to give me a specific case to review, I will gladly look at it. I find legal cases extremely interesting. I have visited the HSDLA website. I know you won't like this, but to me, it comes off as the homeschoolers' version of the NEA. I'd rather not delve into one-sided rhetoric, but again, I will look at any specific cases you feel are relevant to our conversation.

 

Please understand that I was never under any illusion that I was responsible for any homeschooling laws or enforcement of those laws. I was simply the testing coordinator, and responsible for a task.  I believe the letters were sent to me first so I would know what to expect and what accommodations I needed to make for homeschoolers taking the test. Of the five students on my list, I only knew one of them. When I returned the testing materials to the district, I asked about the unused tests and I was told simply to document that the students did not take the test. If they had taken the test at another district school, I would have been asked to send the testing booklets to that school.

 

I inquired about the one student I knew because this was ABSOLUTELY a case of a student being home but not schooled. If you need specifics, Mom was simply avoiding the truancy laws, and the child was staying home with his teenage sister and her baby all day. I asked what would happen as a result of him not taking the test, and I was told most likely nothing. That the state would probably catch up to him eventually, but it would take a long time.

 

You asked before, "I am assuming you, and most good homeschooling parents, would want to avoid a misunderstanding or a bureaucratic mess. Am I wrong?". This is the perfect example of how not being knowledgeable of the state laws will cause a problem.

 

I guess we simply think differently. The reason the letter had the school information on it was because that child's test was at the school. I don't think I could have caused a bureaucratic mess, but I would think the parent would want to respond - if not out of a sense of accountability, perhaps out of a sense of courtesy. I have had banks and other institutions make mistakes or even simply send me information that I didn't think applied to me, I would call to question. Quite frankly, I was a bit surprised that not one parent bothered to say. "Hey, do not worry about making any accommodations for our testing, we are doing something else."

 

I do realize that knowledge is crucial, but I also realize that it is impossible to be completely knowledgeable about everything, even within a given job. I am more than happy to have a few specialized people take care of knowing all the laws pertaining to homeschooling or any other issue. When I was a school administrator, I knew how to get in touch with the people who specialized in certain areas. Notice that I didn't call the homeschoolers, report them to authorities, or bang on their doors. I simply turned over the information and asked what else was expected of me.

 

I get the sense that some homeschoolers are so militant about their beliefs that they don't understand that it simply isn't the center of everyone else's universe. My son took swimming lessons with a boy whose mother was homeschooling her children. She told me that she and other homeschooling parents in her network were pressuring the YMCA to offer a special swim class for homeschooling students; they were even considering a lawsuit. She reasoned that it was discrimination that the Y offered swimming lessons at times convenient for public school kids, therefore, it should offer lessons at time convenient for the homeschoolers. I find that incredibly self-involved.

 

NHELD is a more balanced example than HSLDA, as many home educators (regardless of their teaching philosophy) are neither Christian nor do they support the non-homeschooling-related agenda of HSLDA.

A republic is a government whose scope of authority is limited by law. The officials of government would be under explicit limitations as to what they could and could not do.

Jefferson wrote:
"All the powers of government, legislative, executive, judiciary, result to the legislative body. The concentrating these in the same hands is precisely the definition of despotic government. It will be no alleviation that these powers will be exercised by a plurality of hands, and not by a single one. 173 despots would surely be as oppressive as one. Let those who doubt it turn their eyes on the republic of Venice."

This topic--the danger to the people’s liberties due to the turbulence of democracies and omnipotent, legislative majority--is discussed in The Federalist, for example in numbers 10 and 48 by Madison (in the latter noting Jefferson’s above-quoted comments).

Thomas Jefferson, in the drafts of the Kentucky Resolutions, wrote: "In questions of power, then, let no more be heard of confidence in man, but bind him down from mischief by the chains of the Constitution."  And, make no mistake, by "republic" they didn't mean merely a representative democracy. By no means of interpretation! They meant a government whose scope of authority was legally limited by a device called a written constitution.
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I agree with the poster who stated John Dewey and Horace Mann have far more influence on present-day public education as it exists than did Thomas Jefferson, though he clearly had plenty to say (write about) about education.
 
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November 23, 2006, 6:32 pm PST

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Have you read any of her other posts? She is not against homeschooling. She is considering homeschooling for her own child. Sadly, she has been so turned off by much of the anger on this board that she has probably been pushed in the opposite direction.

 

By the way, we DO have a vested interest in insuring that our society is educated. If we allow parents to simply NOT educate their children (not to imply homeschooling = lack of education), then our democracy will fail. You should be VERY concerned that ALL children are given the best education possible, regardless of how they are schooled. I plan to have my children educated either in public or possibly a private school. I still CARE that homeschooled kids get a good education. So if the crackhead Mom down the street decides she is going to "homeschool" because she is tired of the school reporting her for truancy and neglect, I DO care, and I DO want someone to say NO!

Have you read any of her other posts? She is not against homeschooling.

 

Maybe not against homeschooling, but she posted on the first page of this board very much against unschooling.   

 

Twice, I asked her simple questions in response to her posts,  and she became very defensive.  But, then I think people tend to get defensive when it comes to their children.  Maternal instinct to protect, I guess.

 
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November 23, 2006, 6:35 pm PST

The REAL Reason for dissing homeschoolers

The study by the Fraser Institute, an independent public policy organization based in Vancouver, Canada, focused on home-schooled students in North America. According to the study's findings, the typical home-schooled child is more mature, friendly, happy, thoughtful, competent, and better socialized than students in public or private schools. They are also less peer dependent and exhibit "significantly higher" self-esteem, according to the study.

 

But Janet Bass, a representative of The American Federation of Teachers, said it's impossible to compare home schooling with institutional schools.

 

"They're two totally different environments," she said, adding that there's no comparison to children in school to children "at home with mommy." As long as the right programs are in place, "you'll get good results" no matter what the environment, Bass said.

 

But wait, I thought the NEA said that homeschooling couldn't possibly cut the mustard. And now the AFT is claiming that we can't compare the two? Really? Why not? The outcome measures are there - test scores, college admissions, even the vaunted "self-esteem" indices - for the assessment. But now, for some reason, we're supposed to believe that we can't possibly draw any conclusions by comparing the two methods. Certainly, the homeschooling group is special, and self-selected - but it's silly to say that no conclusions can be reached.

 

What's more, the NEA goes on and on about parental involvement in education.  Doesn't it make sense, then, to wonder if the ultimate in parental involvement - homeschooling - might have the potential to be the ultimate in educational environments?

 

And that line about "at home with mommy" is just insulting, if you ask me.

 

Choice quote from the report:

 

There is one overriding lesson for policymakers to learn from this survey of home schooling. As home schooling researcher Isabel Lyman pithily described the American experience: “Home schooling has produced literate students with minimal government interference at a fraction of the cost of any government program” (Lyman, 1998).

 

I'd say they're learning that lesson, and they're none too happy about it.

 
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November 23, 2006, 6:37 pm PST

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Quote From: fhs2002

I know the show didn't air yet, but what do you all think about the girl who is supposed to be on who hated homeschooling? I know something like this could stir up a big debate, but I have my own feelings and want to know yours.

Just guessing here, but I seriously doubt that she was an unschooler.  Her parents were probably some of the extremely controlling religious zealots who school at home. 

 

BTW, if Phil had been looking for adults who hated public school, he could have interviewed me ;)  

 
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November 23, 2006, 6:37 pm PST

CHILDREN LEARN DIFFERENTLY!

DEBATE! DISCUSSION SEEMS TO BE A MORE APPROPRIATE WORD. WHY IS THERE A RIGHT OR WRONG IN THIS ANSWER? THERE ISN’T. ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS WE ARE TAUGHT IN COLLEGE IS TO EVALUATE OUR LEARNING STYLES. WE ARE TO GO THROUGH THIS WHOLE PROCESS TO FIGURE OUT HOW WE LEARN AS ADULTS. IT SEEMS TO ME THAT PUBLIC SCHOOLS WOULD DO THE SAME FOR CHILDREN AS THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TIME TO FIGURE OUT THIS CONCEPT. WHY DO WE EXPECT CHILDREN TO LEARN THE SAME WAY IN A STANDARDIZED MANNER THEN, TEACH ADULTS TO FIGURE OUT THE BEST WAY TO GAIN KNOWLEDGE AND USE IT TO THEIR ABILITY? I HAVE THE SAME CREDENTIALS AS DR. PHIL AND I HOPE THAT HE IS PROFESSIONAL ENOUGH TO SEE BOTH SIDES OF THIS “DEBATE.” THERE ARE POSITIVES AND NEGATIVES TO EACH SIDE. I HAVE 2 CHILDREN. ONE IS HOME SCHOOLED AND THE OTHER IS IN PUBLIC SCHOOL. THE OLDER CHILD IS HOME SCHOOL AND WANTS TO BE A LAWYER. BY THE TIME SHE GRADUATES FROM HIGH SCHOOL AT 17, SHE WILL HAVE A TWO YEAR DEGREE FROM COLLEGE AND BY 19 HAVE A BACHELORS DEGREE IN CRIMINAL JUSTICE. SHE THEN WANTS TO PURSUE A JD IN LAW AT DUKE UNIVERSITY. SHE IS AN AVERAGE KID, NOT A “GIFTED STUDENT”. SHE TALKS TO HER FRIENDS ON THE PHONE, SPENDS THE NIGHT AT FRIENDS HOUSES, PARTICIPATES IN YOUTH GROUPS, VOLUNTEERS HER TIME AT PUBLIC SCHOOLS TO HELP OTHERS READ AND DEVELOP MATH SKILLS, HELPS ELDERLY DURING THE WEEK, AND COMPLETES ALL HER SCHOOL WORK. WHY, BECAUSE SHE LEARNS BEST BY DOING AND WITH LESS DISTRACTION. SHE HAS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS ALL BECAUSE I WORK HARD TO GIVE HER THAT. YES, I AGREE THERE HAS TO BE SOME SCHEDULE WITH SOME FLEXIBILITY, BUT IF YOU ARE DETERMINED AND CAN DEDICATE THAT TIME TO YOUR CHILD, THEN HOME SCHOOLING DOES ALLOW YOU TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN SUCCEED FASTER. I SPEND 3 HOURS A WEEK COMPLETING HER BI-WEEKLY SCHEDULE ALONE. I ALSO HAVE A DAUGHTER IN PUBLIC SCHOOL. EVENTUALLY, I WILL HOME SCHOOL HER, BUT UNTIL SIXTH GRADE, I WILL KEEP HER IN SCHOOL. I VOLUNTEER IN HER CLASSROOM SEVERAL HOURS A WEEK AND I HELP TEACH THE CHILDREN AND SOMETIMES I CAN BRING BETTER IDEAS UP TO THE TABLE. CHILDREN ARE IN A CHAOTIC ENVIRONMENT AT PUBLIC SCHOOL, THERE ARE NOTES, TALKING, SEXUAL GESTURES, FIGHTING, HITTING, AND IN BETWEEN ALL THE CORRECTIVE BEHAVIOR TACTICS, ARE TEACHERS TRYING TO TEACH OTHER CHILDREN. THERE IS ACTUALLY VERY LITTLE TEACHING IN THE SCHOOLS. I WOULD LIKE FOR EACH PARENT TO GO TO THEIR CHILD’S CLASSROOM ONE DAY AT RANDOM TO VOLUNTEER, TO SEE HOW MUCH THEIR CHILDREN ARE REALLY TAKEN IN. THEY GO TO SCHOOL FOR 8 HOURS AND BRING HOME 3 HOURS WORTH OF HOMEWORK AND ASK PARENTS FOR HELP AND WE HAVE TO CHECK THE HOMEWORK. THAT IS WHAT WE CALL TEACHING. EXAMPLE, THEY SEND CHILDREN HOME WITH SPELLING WORDS AND 1 WEEK TO LEARN THEM, SPELLING HOMEWORK TO HELP REINFORCE WHAT THEY ARE LEARNING AND WHO CALLS THEM OUT AT HOME AND MAKES THEM LEARN WHAT THEY DON’T KNOW? PARENTS.  WHEN YOU THEY HAVE BOOK REPORTS DUE OR PROJECTS TO COMPLETE AND RESEARCH, WHO HELPS THEM? PARENTS. THE CONCEPTS MAY BE INTRODUCED AT SCHOOL, BUT PARENTS END UP TEACHING AND HELPING THE CHILDREN MORE AT HOME. HIGH SCHOOL BIOLOGY IS NOT DIFFERENT THAN COLLEGE BIOLOGY. US HISTORY IS STILL US HISTORY IN COLLEGE. GENERAL REQUIREMENTS IN HIGH SCHOOL IS THE SAME IN COLLEGE. I AM NOT SAYING THAT ALL PARENTS SHOULD HOME SCHOOL, BECAUSE SOME ARE LAZY AND SOME CAN NOT ACCOMPLISH WHAT THEIR CHILD NEEDS. HOWEVER, PARENTS LIKE MYSELF, ARE DETERMINED TO MEET THEIR NEEDS, WHETHER IT IS IN HOME SCHOOL OR HIGH SCHOOL. EACH FAMILY HAS DIFFERENT NEEDS AND IT IS THE PARENTS CHOICE, BUT THEY NEED TO BE WISE AND MATURE ENOUGH TO MAKE THE RIGHT ONE.

IF I AM GOING TO BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR MY CHILD IN ALL ASPECTS UNTIL THEY ARE 18 YEARS OF AGE, THEN I ALSO HAVE THE CHOICE TO GIVE HER THE BEST EDUCATION THAT I CAN. IN MY OPINION, AS LONG AS YOU ARE DOING RIGHT BY YOUR CHILD’S EDUCATION, AND THEN HOME SCHOOL IS REALLY NO DIFFERENT THAN PRIVATE SCHOOL. PRIVATE SCHOOL AND HOME SCHOOL ARE BOTH OVER A YEAR AHEAD IN ALL SUBJECTS.

 

 
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November 23, 2006, 6:43 pm PST

Public school can impede social development

Quote From: acumming

Yes, homeschooling can be as beneficial(perhaps even more depending on the child and the type of education that he/she is immersed in) as public/private school. BUT, as a member of society, the child will have to acquire at the very least, a base set of social skills so that they can relate with other people and conduct themselves appropriatly in social situations. Homeschooling often does not place the child in a setting where these social skills can be adequatly developed. A family setting does not allow for a child to learn how to relate to, and act appropriatly to those in his own age group; their social skills can be stunted somewhat if they are forced to continuously relate to often those who are only in positions of authority(parents) or younger children, whose development stages are lower than that of the older child who needs to further develop his social skills to be accepted in his age group. Relating to acceptance, if a child is not accepted into a social circle of his own age/preference, this can lead to feeilngs of low self-worth and well, another emotionally messed up teenager in this society will have emerged! Trust me on this, I've seen cases where homeschooling can harm a child's social development if a child is kept from social interaction that would be achieved somewhere other than school.

Of course measuring social development is pretty much impossible, so this is all just anecdotal and both sides can be endlessly argued.  Social misfits are raised in all types of places, do you have any statistics that support the idea that more are home educated?

 

 
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