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Parents want the best for their children, but what’s the best way to educate them? Dr. Phil’s guests face off in a debate about whether to school, homeschool or unschool. Dana and her husband, Joe, call themselves radical unschoolers. They say education happens as a side effect of life, and they don’t believe in tests, curriculums or grades. Are their three kids learning what they need to know? Then, RaeAnn says public schools are death traps and wants to homeschool her children. Her husband, Steve, says their kids are safer at school than they are at home. Can this couple reach a compromise? Plus, Nicole feels like an outcast at 26. She says she hated being homeschooled, and couldn’t relate to other kids. Share your thoughts here.

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November 27, 2006, 12:04 pm PST

Guess you better change your mind

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Very well said.  I'll have to avoid you before you change my mind.  lol

I too belong to an inclusive group and if asked to describe myself would probably say free thinking Christian.

 

We even teach evolution. ;>)

 
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November 27, 2006, 12:05 pm PST

no school

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I also know several unschooling families.  None of them are ultra-religious. 

 

What people need to understand is that unschooling isn't just washing your hands of textbooks, curriculums, and planning.  It's actually a greater responsiblity, creating an educationally-rich environment, and providing their children with lots of resources.  Dr. Phil actually made a few points FOR unschooling that he may not have realized.  Saying he enjoyed learning about the market in his 30s and absorbed and enjoyed it was the point of self-led learning, whether it be by a child or an adult.  Unschooling parents often leave little tidbits about to spark a child's interest.  I know many who put interesting books in the bathroom (even as an eclectic homeschooler I do the same) and before they know it, the child is asking for resources on that topic. :)  Trust me, we all remember the things we wanted to learn about way better than that we learned just to pass a test. 

 

<grin> on the class size comment.  The county in which I live just published that they are short 1,300 students by their annual projections.  Luckily they're blaming the rising insurance, home prices, and taxes for this, not the homeschoolers or private schoolers.

A reality check would show that in at least some people, far more learning is done outside of school than in. 
 
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November 27, 2006, 12:11 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

Quote From: sneakers145

As Dr. Phil said on his show, history tends to repeat itself.  For most of humanity there were not public schools, and we seemed to do just fine without them in the past.  Since they are a recent development and have not doubt served their purpose (and continue to do so for the majority of society), I doubt that they will cease to exist anytime in the near future.

 

I do think my children learn more by being out and about where life is being lived can teach them more than a classroom.  Problem is, is that the school system is a behemoth and very difficult to change.  I doubt that my efforts or even those combined with other homeschooling parents could affect change soon enough to have any effect on my own children.

 

Notice I'm not blaming teachers or schools for society's ills.  I'm not.  But I speak with parents of other public school children here in town (my kids have many schooled friends) and the stuff their kids are exposed to at a young age is atrocious.

 

Before I'm accused of sheltering my children from the big bad world -- far from it.  We regularly discuss sex, drugs, pot, gays, gay marriage, nudity, porn, etc.  The thing about it is that at home, they're free to discuss it and get an ADULT's input.  On the bus, on the playground, many of these conversations take place OUT OF EARSHOT and without adult input.

These are just a few homeschooled people from our past, that made our country what it is today.

Stonewall Jackson and Robert E. Lee.  

Alexander Graham Bell,,,,,The Wright Brothers!  George Washington, Abe Lincoln, Thomas Jefferson, Theodore Roosevelt, Moses, Joan of Arc, Albert Einstein, Booker T. Washington, Winston Churchill, Supreme Court Justice John Marshall, Agatha Christie, Charles Dickens, Ansel Adams and his wife Abigail, Charles Chaplan, Sandra Day OConnor, pretty impressive huh?  Texas A&M Pres. Frank Vandiver,  John Witherspoon Princeton President.....

Leonardo DaVinci and WolfGang Amadeus Mozart.

Our children CAN be anything!!  Cool, huh?

 

Don't lock yourself so tight into a belief.  Explore just a little and you'll see their are advantages and disadvantages to everything.  FYI...I homeschool and have an older child in public school in a different jurisdiction.  I do both sides every day.  So I am able to see both sides clearly.

 

 
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November 27, 2006, 12:12 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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I also know several unschooling families.  None of them are ultra-religious. 

 

What people need to understand is that unschooling isn't just washing your hands of textbooks, curriculums, and planning.  It's actually a greater responsiblity, creating an educationally-rich environment, and providing their children with lots of resources.  Dr. Phil actually made a few points FOR unschooling that he may not have realized.  Saying he enjoyed learning about the market in his 30s and absorbed and enjoyed it was the point of self-led learning, whether it be by a child or an adult.  Unschooling parents often leave little tidbits about to spark a child's interest.  I know many who put interesting books in the bathroom (even as an eclectic homeschooler I do the same) and before they know it, the child is asking for resources on that topic. :)  Trust me, we all remember the things we wanted to learn about way better than that we learned just to pass a test. 

 

<grin> on the class size comment.  The county in which I live just published that they are short 1,300 students by their annual projections.  Luckily they're blaming the rising insurance, home prices, and taxes for this, not the homeschoolers or private schoolers.

"It's actually a greater responsiblity, creating an educationally-rich environment, and providing their children with lots of resources."

That I understand and respect. Unfortunately the unschoolers I know are NOT doing that.
 
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November 27, 2006, 12:13 pm PST

You Misunderstood Me

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What does my church have to do with me pointing out that I believe people should have the right to  take their children out of the public school system if it is not working for them?

I was not attempting to make your church an issue.  What I was saying is that we are drifting toward a theocracy.  Should that occur, it would behoove you, me or anyone else to hope our faith is the one in power.  It is one of the reasons for the founding of our country.  I did not intend to insult you or your faith.  I f I did so, you have my sincere apology.
 
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November 27, 2006, 12:19 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

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I have never asked for any apology from one who has considered their opinion carefully under full light.  In truth, I do not completely disagree with you.  With all the posts favoring home school, I am really trying to give voice to an alternative position.  While I do firmly believe that we must, ultimately, repair our public schools, I can see why some prefer alternatives.  Yes, I have been doing a bit of agitating today.  I have done so for the purpose of stimulating debate and trying to represent those who have no real choice other than public school.  
I have been reading your posts and I do see your point.  I don't feel the slightest bit agitated by anything I am really seeing on this board.  Although my stating that I won't apologize for unschooling may have appeared a little defensive, that wasn't my intention.

I don't know how familiar with my posts in particular (realistically, the posts are all flying by and I don't expect any one person to read everything I specifically write), but although I unschool, I'm not particularly interested in whether some people feel one way of education is better vs another.  For me, if a child is thriving and growing and confident in who they are and prepared to take on new challenges, it's ALL good.

Our family's needs simply didn't fit the structure of the public schools, and so we started homeschooling, then gradually made the drift into unschooling, as the children were learning much more outside the curriculum than in it anyway.

When talking to people in our off line life, we do use the term "homeschooling" though, because while it is still in the realm of "different", at least people have stopped with the blanching of their faces.  To outright say "unschooler" would be a big kick-me sign at this point, and for us, we pick our battles.  Sometimes, after a full day, we want to pull the buzzer when the bus gets to our stop and go home :-)

Doesn't mean we avoid opinions contrary to our own (otherwise I'd not be here and my children wouldn't be also reading this board), but there is more to us than our "method of education", and it gets old after a while.  I play guitar, I am adept in (and a teacher of) fiber crafts, I sing alto, my favorite color is maroon... one of many many topics you'd find us enthusiastically expounding upon.

Best,
WW
 
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November 27, 2006, 12:21 pm PST

Oh No!

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This posting,I believe, should be the bottom line of this debate. 
I actually agree with you!  One of us is in trouble!  lol
 
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November 27, 2006, 12:21 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

Quote From: sneakers145

As Dr. Phil said on his show, history tends to repeat itself.  For most of humanity there were not public schools, and we seemed to do just fine without them in the past.  Since they are a recent development and have not doubt served their purpose (and continue to do so for the majority of society), I doubt that they will cease to exist anytime in the near future.

 

I do think my children learn more by being out and about where life is being lived can teach them more than a classroom.  Problem is, is that the school system is a behemoth and very difficult to change.  I doubt that my efforts or even those combined with other homeschooling parents could affect change soon enough to have any effect on my own children.

 

Notice I'm not blaming teachers or schools for society's ills.  I'm not.  But I speak with parents of other public school children here in town (my kids have many schooled friends) and the stuff their kids are exposed to at a young age is atrocious.

 

Before I'm accused of sheltering my children from the big bad world -- far from it.  We regularly discuss sex, drugs, pot, gays, gay marriage, nudity, porn, etc.  The thing about it is that at home, they're free to discuss it and get an ADULT's input.  On the bus, on the playground, many of these conversations take place OUT OF EARSHOT and without adult input.

You say, you doubt your efforts and even the efforts of other homeschooled parents combined could effect change soon enought, to effect YOUR children.  Don't you care about your children's, children.  It may not effect your childs generation, but it may effect your grandchilds generation.  Also, if all the women in our countries past (Elizabeth Statton, Susan B. Anthony, etc.) thought that way, You as a woman wouldn't really have a say at all in your childs education!!! 

 

You are sheltering your children.  I too discuss sex, drugs, pot, etc.  with my children, and they may hear that on a bus, or be confronted with drugs.  So they learn "by experience" to say No.  As opposed to being told about what COULD happen and IF it happens.  And homeschooled parents tend to only discuss the negative aspects of what you don't want your children to learn from other children.  What about the positive influences other children can have on your kids?  or the positive influences teachers, administration and staff could have. 

 
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November 27, 2006, 12:21 pm PST

FL Homeschooling

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I would be remiss in not pointing out that Florida does have requirements for home shool.  Whether they take the form of laws are not, I do not know, but they are strictly adhered to. 

Florida is not only quite stringent with their homeschool 'laws, statutes,regulations...whatevers' - each county requires reporting, testing and registering.  BUT they are also one of the most homeschool friendly states we have lived in - (we've been in CA, NC, AL too) and have much of the support systems set up to suppliment the academics.

 

It is in my opinion one of the BEST states in which to homeschool.

 

Donna

 

 

 
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November 27, 2006, 12:25 pm PST

11/24 Great School Debate

Quote From: m1ste00

Every state has homeschool laws. Period. There are no states that rely on "standards". 

As for the couple on the show, I would be willing to bet they are under religious exemption so they are not required to test at all, and can literally fall off the radar. 

As for the "scrapbook", a portfolio is a much greater representation of a childs education than filling in circles on a test.  States vary, however, a parent must show the evaluator (who is a teacher) that progress has been made throughout the year by showing actual work done by the child.  A parent cannot say "We did this" or "We went here" they must have proof (pictures, tickets, receipts, etc) that certain trips were taken or areas were covered. The evaluator is also free to talk with the child, which most do (I cannot speak for all of them as I do not know all of them) at which point, the teacher can find out directly from the student what has been taught or covered and what has not been.

This is interesting. I read a report about a Colorado man who was concerned for some homeschooling kids in his neighborhood. The parents relied on a mail-in homeschool assessment for their accountability. The man contacted the same company and received a packet to get homeschool evaluation for his "missy." He filled out the paperwork and received documentation that Missy was progressing academically and meeting the homeschool requirements. Turns out Missy was his dog. It was THAT easy to get a good evaluation.

 

I realize that most homeschoolers keep it above board and are wanting their kids to progress and learn. It disturbs me that the popularity of homeschooling could lead to more unscrupulous money making schemes like this. An independent company doing assessments may not be objective because they are motivated by money, and they could be inclined to drum up business by creating a reputation for being "easy."

 
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