Topic : 11/28 Jeremy Returns

I agree that it is important to not rush to judgement because in America one is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty.  However, Jeremy's behavior on the Dr. Phil show is not helping his case if he is innocent.  He is being evasive, hostile, and uncooperative which makes his arguments seem less credible.  He comes across as arrogant and my gut tells me that he is a smooth talker who has learned from years of experience how to be manipulative. If he was really innocent then he would voluntarily agree to supervision during his visits.  This issue is not about him and his ego.  I actually feel sorry for Jeremy.  I do believe that he was abused as a child even though he denies it. I think he is in an arrested state of development and that he was never able to move forward emotionally due to the traumas that he endured as a child.  I believe that he is attracted to young children and girls because emotionally he is on their level.  He is stuck emotionaly at the age of 12 or 13.  He is still a wounded child but he is refusing help.  Maybe because it would be too painful and scary to face what he has been through.  But, unfortunately, I do believe that he is a danger to his daughter and that he will always be a threat to children.  It is too bad that something more dramatic and horrible will have to happen in order for their to be concrete evidence against him.  He is relatively skilled at hiding his sexually deviant behavior.  It is his daughter who will continually suffer until he makes a big enough mistake that will demonstrate that he has a problem.  All we can do is pray that it happens quickly so that his daughter does not have to continue to endure this abuse.   I wish that CPS workers were all required to have professional licenses in order to perform their jobs.  So many of them are not well trained and they don't have the ability to know when situations need to be taken seriously.  If Jeremy ever is found guilty of these charges then the CPS worker on this case also needs to be held accountable and maybe the judge as well because that would be an indication that they all have very poor judgement.  After all, in these situations CPS and the courts are the only hope we have in terms of protecting our children.  If they don't have the insight and proper judgement to protect our children in cases that are not always clear cut then what are we as parents to do?  We rely on them to be able to make good decisions and air on the side of safety when a child's well -being is in jeopardy.  I don't think they are doing that in this case. 

I am a single mom of a beautiful boy. When he was young I suspected his dad was physically abusing him. After several small incidents, (I did report them and nothing ever happened) it became more obvious each time he was around his dad that things were just not right and they didn't match the stories being told to me.

Two weeks before his first birthday he spent the night at his dads. The next day I came to pick him up. I noticed a burn on the top of his hand. It was in the top of his middle fingure, perfectly round, and centered. I took him straight to the childrens ER. It was a cigarette burn through 3 layers of skin. They had to numb the skin and scrape the ashe out of his fingure. I was histerical. After this I was interviewed by DCS, and they pretty much told me that they couldn't do anything. We were going threw a divorce and they acted as if I burnt my child to hurt his dad. That made no sense to me. After that he contracted a staff infectiion from the burn and whatever else he was exposed to over there. We were in and out of the hospital on his first birthday. Not once did his dad come see him at the hospital, not even on his birthday. The whole time we were there, I was interviewed by workers. They all made me feel as if I had done this to my child. They asked me how clean my house was, and if I ever left my child alone. As far as I know they never interviewed him. In the end, they told me that they do not get involved in custody cases. We were only separated and had not even filed anything yet. After it cleared up, he tried to take me to court to get visitation. I too almost went to Jail. I was not going let my child get hurt. So, I packed our stuff and left. I have moved several times. Each time I move I feel its totally worth it. I would do anything to keep my child safe. He is now almost 5 and I have had no contact with his father. I am still legally married, but someday I will get that taken care of. Some people may think that this is extreme, but you would do the same if your child was being hurt.

I have no faith in our court/legal systems. The people that know how to use it, abuse it. The people that need it, get hurt and treated very badly. There are so many stories of this I hear everyday. I think we need to look at the system and challenge it to do a better job. It seems to m like it hurts more children than protect them.

Dear Dr. Phil

When I was young, I too was molested and there was NO PHYSICAL EVIDENCE...this is such a sad story..I have worked in nursing and i have also had considerable contact with State workers and unfortunately they are not always " ON TOP" of everything...I really think there should be an investigation of the child protection agency in that town and state...if I was Kaylie's mother and grandmother, NOT ONLY WOULD I BE PICKETING, I would be contacting the President of the United States...and your wife, if she was in this awful situation  WOULD DO THE SAME THING OR MORE.  I also realize that unless they listen to you, there isnt anything you can do...i will be praying for this terrible situation...I am sorry, but I have also dealt with men like Jeremy and he is absolutely A BIG FAT LIAR...EVIL COMES OUT OF HIS EYES...i will pray for him too...tks for all that you and your wife and family do.  You are making a big difference in all the peoples lives who watch you...blessings, A VERY CONCERNED GRANDMOTHER

I totally agree.  We're not all liars, and Dr. Phil, I love you to pieces but you're wayyyy off the mark on this one. 

The same thing goes on here in Canada.  Most workers don't bother to look deep enough.  They see what is put in front of them to read, they sit for an hour or less and speak with all the people involved, most times they don't speak at all to the child in question, depending on the age.  They don't KNOW the person, they don't KNOW the child, but they automatically assume that because they have a 'better education' or make 'more money' or have 'that degree in child WHATEVER', that makes them the top authority in those people's lives.  They don't live with that child, they don't hear them scream and cry when they're supposed to go with the person that is 'hurting' them.  They don't hear them cry and beg not to go back again.

Kaylee's mother, if she is telling the truth, and I do believe she is, should take the damn jail time rather than send that little girl to jeremy, his father and his wife.  I would, most people I know would.  Not a chance in HELL would I be sending my baby off with someone I believed is hurting her, molesting her, touching her, or whatever. 

Defy the courts if need be, but keep that baby safe!!! 

you stated that it was jeremey that had molested a little boy years ago,  IT WAS NOT HIM,  that was a report about HIS father.  if you are going to post something please get the facts straight.  this story is messed up enough already.

like you bible quote, nice.  i like it and will use in in some emails.  thanks

What is wrong with you people? Are you all parents ? Must not be because requardless of the constant fighting back and forth between the mother and father there is still a huge concern of why the child had to go to the HOSPITAL  with a 2cm tear Labia. That just don't happen for no reason at all and that's not something the mother can just coach the daughter intio saying and it seems like everyone is looking over that. I'm not saying that the mother is completely innocent and perfect but you better believe if it was my daughter and the same thing happened (Hospital) then you better bet your aXX that I would be doing the same thing she is and try to protect my daughter. No I don't think that she's going about it the right way but I do think that her intentions are good and true from her heart. And truthfully she's held it together better than I would have because I would have already climbed Jeremy' when the hospital inncident happened. The court system is the ones at fault here. What would it hurt for them to atleast open a investigation on this just to be on the safe side. That is what they get paid for to protect the children not just to go by there own opinions. The court system fails a lot of children everyday that's why our world is in the mess that it's in. I know I work with the cabnet of social services constantly and I'm a foster/adoptive parent and I see both sides of the court system.

Kallie's mother don't give up keep fighting for the safety of your daughter.

The guy is a little on the creepy side, but if we took children away from every parent that just rubbed people the wrong way with their exterior looks/behavior, we'd have a ton of parent-less children.

The mother is a little over-the-top in her mission to convince everyone that her ex is guilty of molesting the daughter.

Where are all of the professionals that could step up to the plate and find out once and for all whether the man is innocent or guilty so the child can possibly resume a somewhat normal life?