Topic : 11/28 Jeremy Returns

Quote From: jojejojemom

Talk about coaching though.............the mom said, "I don't want you to go, but you have to."  Also she openly talks to the camera in front of the child.  Is that in the child's best interest?  Even if this did happen, the mom is making the child into a circus act and she and her mother are the heavily burdened caretakers.  I say to her be a real mom.  She lost all credibility with me tonight when I saw her on video and saw her conversations with the child.  I think there is more to this.  Jeremy may not be perfect by any means, but mom and grandma need help. 

Quote From: martinveronica

I have three children ranging in age from 14 to 7. I am a woman who became preganant at an early age (15) and I have watched both shows with Jeremy and Kaylee's mother and grandmother.I understand thier story and agree with their plight aginst Cps.  I feel compelled to write this message because I myself have been in a similiar situation. Heres why: I feel angry when people stick up for CPS or in Illinois as it is called DCFS because in more situations than not I feel as if they are not helpful in various ways. My daughter is now 14 years old when she was 13 she began developing as most young girls do. She and her brother have always been allowed to see thier biological father because I believed that they were always safe and protected when they were with him. My daughter went to spend the night with her father and the following morning I received a phone call from my daughter that was my worst nightmare-she asked me where I was (which was odd because she knows my schedule) and knew I was working at the time-she then proceeded to ask where her stepfather was which she also knew he was working-when I asked her why she wanted to know she said that she wanted to go home-so I told her to tell her father to bring her home at around noon so that she would not have to be home by herself-she said no she needed to come home right now and began crying-when I asked her why she was crying she said that she just wanted to go home so I told her to call me as soon as she got there to let me know that she was okay. About thirty minutes later she called me back hysterical-when I asked her what was wrong she said that she had went to sleep and was woke up by someone touching her bottom-she moved the persons hand not thinking because she was still half asleep-she felt someones hand again this time in the front of her pants towards her crotch and she moved it and turned around and it was her father. She asked him why he was doing that and told him he wasn't supposed  to touch her there and her father then got up and left the room. Before he left he told her that she wasn't to tell anyone and she said you know I have to tell my mom. He left the room and my daughter laid there until she knew I was at work and then called me. I left work immediately and after speaking with my daughter I called the police -they came to our house and asked my daughter questions and then asked for us to follow them to the police department so that she could speak to a child detective. Her father was arrested that evening and questioned and also put in jail. The detective called to say that he had denied any wrong doing but that my daughters story seemed more credible than his so he was put in jail. Following the arrest I was told to contact the states attorney to see about charges being filed -after about a month of phone calls I was told there would be no charges filed because the case was built on "hear say." Following this I received a visit to my home by DCFS and was questioned as to my past and information about myself and the raising of my children. About a month later I received a subpeona in the mail from DCFS for my daughter and I to go to a hearing about what had taken place. Understandibly my daughter was upset having to be in the same room as the person (her father) who had done this to her. I let my daughter know that this would be held in a secure setting and that she would not have to be near her father unless a judge and police or baliff were near him. Here is where the biggest problem begins-When we show up for the hearing we walk through the front doors; past her father, his wife, his girlfriend and his mother all sitiing in the same waiting room as us-my daughter starts shaking and crying because she is in the same room with the man who I said I would protect her from. We were eventually ushered into a room with the child detective but close enough to all the others that we could hear them talking about such things as why they do not understand why I am trying to keep my children from their father, etc. It was determined that during the trial my daughter could stay in the other room until she was called to testify. I was visibly shaken and angry about the whole situation and told by the judge to get a grip on my emotions while I sat only inches away from the man I intrusted the care of my daughter to and he took all that trust and her innocence away from her. While I sat answering questions the judge asked I also got to watch the judge give my daughters father the choice of whether or not he wanted to have my daughter come in and testify against him. Thank god his mother was there to sway him not to force her to do this. My first problem is that I feel that without penetration in the states attorney eyes, DCFS eyes and the local police department they feel as though a crime has not been commited...My second problem is that in this day and age there are millions of domestic violence incidences where things get really ugly and shootings and what not can occur. I took my daughter to this hearing number one because we had no choice in the matter we either went or faced jail time, also I did not think that we would be anywhere near him until we testified and also would have thought victims would have had another entrance than the accused did. I felt like my daughter trusted me two times and felt betrayed by me: One when I let her be around her father and this happened and Two definitely when I told her not to worry there was no way DCFS would make her be around her father without some sort of protection. Throughout all of this DCFS founded the case which means absolutely nothing other than his name and offense will be entered into a computer and the next time he does this (to another child)if there is no evidence there will be something sayin he was accused before. This is great but it does nothing for my daughter and what she has been through. This trial was held in the summer of '06 and there has been no other correspondence or action from DCFS to us. I feel like I would have been arrested if I let my daughter be around her father after this occured and I have taken all the precautions I can to make sure that she would always be safe from that but don't feel like DCFS had the childs interest or emotions at heart or that they used their authority in the proper manner-not to mention that her father has four other children with his current wife that he lives with and is around daily. How is this Protecting Children? Isn't DCFS an abbreviation for Department of Children and Family Services? No thanks, I don't want or need your services.....So please try to have an open mind when you're listening to a mother and child who are not being protected by people who are being paid to protect them.

Quote From: missabeaver

I can't understand why this Jeremey person is still able to visit with this poor scared little girl without supervised visitation!!!!  The mother has not tried to keep Jeremy away from his daughter, she is just asking for his visits with her to be supervised.  Is that too hard to do??  At least until the truth is found.  It is obvious that the child's safety is not a priority.

Please someone make sure this precious little child is protected!!!!

I am a foster parent, and have dealt with good and bad CPS workers.  I do see that a lot of the time the "parents good name" is considered more important than a child's safety.   How very sad that makes me.  I pray for all of those precious little children that have no voice.

Quote From: new2unme

I agree with you 100%. Why would the mother allow this little girl to visit her father if she really believed he was molesting her. Would you nor I not do 15 days in jail to protect our children from a sexual predator. Maybe if grandma and mom made a few sacrifices on their own behalf someone would listen to them and take them more seriously. I'm not defending Jermey, because I do not know that he is guilty, but I'm leaning to believe he is innocent. Both paretns could make more sacrifices fro their children. They are immature, stubborn, and neither puts the childs best interest at heart. I ave a child which I risked jail time for to protect, adn even allowed someone else to adot her so she would never face harms way if her biological father ever came back into the picture to again try to get visitation. A mother shoudl sacrifice her life, her freedom, adn even her heart to protect her child. I don't know what Jeremy's problem is, but he needs to grow up and just answer yes or no. He did make an important point though, maybe he's struggling because he's been accused for so long. I think he has issues with control figures in his life, and maybe he is hiding something he's not proud of and maybe feeling guilty about, but that does not make him a child molestor.