For the most part, I enjoy watching Dr. Phil, but I have to tell you, the Doctor is way off base when it comes to CFS. I know first hand.
In my opinion Dr. Phil is making the positive statements regarding CFS, based on his personal experiences with the system, and I can not argue with that. However, there are thouands of CFS office in the world and it's been my experience that there are many far less dependable. I feel it's important that he contact hundreds of people and document their experiences with CFS before insinuating the mother Krista is falsely allegating CFS is, (for lack of better words ) blowing her concerns and complaints off ,and ignoring her complaints. Dr. Phil does not know. They could very well be doing so. Not only that, to be condescending to her on national television is less than professional. The Dr. Should refrain from comments requiring the guest to defend herself until he has proof they CFS is doing their job.
I am a 40 year old Christian mother of 4, wife, & successful business owner. I was the fortunate child in my family. How I escaped my fathers wrath I will never know. What I can tell you, is the beatings my father administered to my mother for years will be vividly etched in my memory until I die. His hanging a large snake in from of her at the window as she did dishes is forever with me as well. The gun he used to shoot at her, barely missing her face while we pretended to sleep on the floor will not be forgotten. The trips to the grocery store my mother had to make with makeup caked on her face in a meek attempt to hide the bruises and cuts on her face. Everyone knew it was happening, and no one did anythign about it. I remember the ongoing battle in my mind when considering sneaking out the broken window at 7 years of age to sneak a mile up the country road to my moms friends house for help for my Mom... always opting not to, due to the overwhelming fear of what would happen if I were caught. My mother finally escaped with a divorce after 13 years of marriage, 7 childrens and many beatings later. (Pregnancy was no safe haven either. Years later I would find out my father knocked my mother to the floor while several months pregnant with my sister kicking her over and over and threatening to kill all of her children if she didn't come home from my aunts house. (She was helping my aunt pack for her move)
Years later my father, stepmother and 9 children lived in a 2 bedroom house. My father had my brothers empty the urine from a large jar that he and my stepmother utilized as a toilet during the evening. My father futher beat my brothers with fishing rods and tree switchs, and it was not uncommon for him to hit my brothers with a fist, knocking them to the ground. Belt marks and bruises were no strangers to my siblings either. My brother was beat daily with the belt prior to starting his day. 'I know you will do something you're not supposed to do today....' my father would say.
All neighbors turned a blind eye for years. At 13 I recall dreaming of my father and stepmother (also abusive) dieing in a car accident, and how I would raise my siblings. Perhaps the CFS would come and rescue my siblings from their lifes being lived in constant ridicule, mental and physical beatings and more.
Finally, the day came when a knock on the door revealed a CFS worker. I remember that day as if it were yesterday and I was no more than 16 years old. I even remember the Workers name - Jean. (Oddly enough fate brought her to me as a client years later) My father opened the door to a seasoned CFS worker. The worker indicated my father had been reported by the physical education teacher. He'd indicated there were several large bruises covering both of little brothers legs. (Finally, after years of abuse, there was hope, someone had the guts and enough concern to report it to CFS....., surely the abuse will stop now right?) Wrong! After confronted by the CFS worker my father curtly stated 'I will discipline my children any way I see fit', and defiantly shut the door in her face.
That was the last day anyone ever graced our doorway with their presence. It would be another 2 years before my siblings say relief , and only because my father hung himself in our garage ending the abuse.
One of my best friends worked for a different State CFS office for 15 years, and she could confirm CFS drops the ball on many occassions. That said, I have little or no confidence in the CFS system. Perhaps Dr. Phils experiences are the exception and not the rule. It's time to do some homework.
Regards,
Roberta
One day
Dr. Phil follows up with Krista and Bonii's quest for the truth, to find out if 3-year-old Kaylee is being molested by her father, Jeremy. Jeremy maintains his innocence even after a polygraph test showed him to be lying. He took another lie detector test at his hometown police department, and brought the results for Dr. Phil to review. What does an independent polygrapher say about this second test? Then, Jeremy asked to undergo hypnosis as another means of getting closer to the truth. Were there any new revelations? And, Jeremy had agreed to supervised visits with Kaylee, but when he got home, he changed his mind, so Krista denied him visitation. They end up facing off in front of a judge. Did Krista serve jail time or let Jeremy see Kaylee? Is Jeremy being falsely accused, or is this little girl still in harm's way? Talk about the show here.
