Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

Is the rant really over? Is it safe to come out?  LOL  Ami, I wish I knew what to tell you about this.  It does seem like you're wound up very tight, thanks to a lot of poopy stuff going on.  You need a chance to decompress, that's the bottom line.  Figure out a way to do that, 'K?  I'm fortunate not to have ever had trouble with my in-laws.  They were a bit off beat in their ways, but tolerable. Most tolerable.  And Ralph's mother... yeah, no problems there, she's a sweetie.  But I know they're out there, those parents.  The ones that cannot for the life of them let go of any sort of control.  Inpossible to deal with, and obviously it's the kid that has to deal with it, to get out from under Mommy's thumb, but it must not be easy.  Hey, I've been there to a degree, moved 1000 miles away to get some independence from my mother.  And as we've talked about, having cancer has helped me get more of a spine too.  One of the benefits.

I think that something big has to change in this country.  I think a law needs to be passed, making it mandatory that every single question MUST have an answer. Oh, and not just any old answer, but most definitively, The Right and Just Answer.  Yep, that little law would solve all the problems of the world...

I responded to the wrong post.  :-P

Nite nite.

you get to stay home and listen to the insanity instead of witnessing it. I'm always amazed when people complain about how someone else wants to live their lives. I have siblings and their offspring that go through drama's and my response is always "It's their house, they get to decide". The latest is my nephew is getting married and he doesn't want certain members to come to the wedding. Well guess what? It's his wedding and he gets to make that choice. I know full well that I'm gonna be the one my brother comes to about why wasn't he invited. I am that person that never lies. Well I'm that person that's learning it's ok to sometimes and my response is going to be "I didn't know you didn't know." Because it's not my drama. My brother is going to be broken hearted for sure and I'll hold his hand and tell him I'm sorry, but I fully understand why he's not welcomed.

And I understand about Raj saying something false about you. How insulting is that? My ex used to do that to me as well and it's not picnic. Stay true to yourself and see I would just insist that he tell his daughter the truth. And if it's even close to possible it should be where you can hear the words. They have such a problem backtracking because it makes them look like the #%^^ they are, but it's the right thing to do. Unfortunately the damage is done and I doubt that she'll get it's the truth. The insult is that you are his "wife"! And that union should  not be marred over something so silly.

You know you are such a blessing for me. When you talk about all this it reminds me where I was in my life and I am so grateful it's not that way anymore. Thanks you so much! LOH!

Oh and I love the gift. It's so perfect.

With two runners on base and a strike against her, Sara Tucholsky of Western Oregon University uncorked her best swing and did something she had never done, in high school or college. Her first home run cleared the center-field fence.

But it appeared to be the shortest of dreams come true when she missed first base, started back to tag it and collapsed with a knee injury.

She crawled back to first but could do no more. The first-base coach said she would be called out if her teammates tried to help her. Or, the umpire said, a pinch runner could be called in, and the homer would count as a single.

Then, members of the Central Washington University softball team stunned spectators by carrying Tucholsky around the bases Saturday so the three-run homer would count - an act that contributed to their own elimination from the playoffs.

Central Washington first baseman Mallory Holtman, the career home run leader in the Great Northwest Athletic Conference, asked the umpire if she and her teammates could help Tucholsky.

The umpire said there was no rule against it.

So Holtman and shortstop Liz Wallace put their arms under Tucholsky's legs, and she put her arms over their shoulders. The three headed around the base paths, stopping to let Tucholsky touch each base with her good leg.

"The only thing I remember is that Mallory asked me which leg was the one that hurt," Tucholsky said. "I told her it was my right leg and she said, 'OK, we're going to drop you down gently and you need to touch it with your left leg,' and I said 'OK, thank you very much."'

"She said, 'You deserve it, you hit it over the fence,' and we all kind of just laughed."

"We started laughing when we touched second base," Holtman said. "I said, 'I wonder what this must look like to other people."'

"We didn't know that she was a senior or that this was her first home run," Wallace said Wednesday. "That makes the story more touching than it was. We just wanted to help her."

Holtman said she and Wallace weren't thinking about the playoff spot, and didn't consider the gesture something others wouldn't do.

As for Tucholsky, the 5-foot-2 right fielder was focused on her pain.

"I really didn't say too much. I was trying to breathe," she told The Associated Press in a telephone interview Wednesday.

"I didn't realize what was going on until I had time to sit down and let the pain relax a little bit," she said. "Then I realized the extent of what I actually did."

"I hope I would do the same for her in the same situation," Tucholsky added.

As the trio reached home plate, Tucholsky said, the entire Western Oregon team was in tears.

Central Washington coach Gary Frederick, a 14-year coaching veteran, called the act of sportsmanship "unbelievable."

For Western Oregon coach Pam Knox, the gesture resolved the dilemma Tucholsky's injury presented.

"She was going to kill me if we sub and take (the home run) away. But at the same time I was concerned for her. I didn't know what to do," Knox said.

Tucholsky's injury is a possible torn ligament that will sideline her for the rest of the season, and she plans to graduate in the spring with a degree in business. Her home run sent Western Oregon to a 4-2 victory, ending Central Washington's chances of winning the conference and advancing to the playoffs.

"In the end, it is not about winning and losing so much," Holtman said. "It was about this girl. She hit it over the fence and was in pain, and she deserved a home run."

I think it is obvious I am married to a child. Last night he continued to raise cain about all kinds of things. This morning it dawned on me, he is angry that I can't go. I think he really thought he was going to talk me into going...until I reminded him of the concert.

And yes Neecie he intentionally moved 400 miles away for the same reason you did. To get away from the control factor. I wasn't the only person who wigged when his parents started eyeing the house next door when it was up for sale. I knew I would divorce him if they moved in, I told him so. He told me we would simply move. How ugly could that have been?? yikes! I am just glad it didn't happen, and hopefully won't.

I have come to the conclusion it isn't just me. This dog thing is really nuts. The last time they were here the dog had to go with us out to eat. It stayed in the car but Mrs. W had to go check on it four times during the meal. It was excessive to say the least, we won't even go into the other factors that come to mind like inconsiderate, disruptive, ridiculous, obcessive, INSANE. Things like that. =P Not to mention when Lady is here Daisy (our dog) is banished to the basement or outside. Daisy gets completely usurped in her own home.  See what I mean about excessive?

She is better with the dog than real people. That is because she can control the dog.  And that is the bottom line in the whole thing and why the dog is so important to her. I meant what I said about it being Raj's baby sister...that is soooo true more than you can imagine.

So now we rue the day we gave her the dog. John wanted the dog, we were in the middle of moving and couldn't manage another dog at the time. So they drove down from NC to get it. Which seemed crazy to me as the dog was a stray puppy that someone dropped in our yard. Anyway it was nice that they gave the dog a home....and omg I have many times said that dog has no clue how lucky it is really. It even has health insurance!! LOL!! God's truth it does! Anyway it is a queen. Though really I feel sorry for it, because it has to be hell living with Mr and Mrs Analretentive.

Oh well, and no I think the rant is never really off. lol ;)

Hugs kids, I gotta go graduation gift shopping....

~Ami

xoxo

So I was heading out today to find the gift. My plan was a bookstore and then on to Cracker Barrell to find a card (they have awesome cards and what-not kind of things). Also to treat Matt to breakfast. =)  He talked me into going to Best Buy first so he could check out something for his gaming system. We did and low and behold the perfect gift jumped out at me!!  A digital picture frame.

I remember getting a frame and a photo album for graduation, so it seemed right to me. I called Raj, and sure enough she has a digital camera. And she is a computer geek like her dad. =) Not to mention it is a respectable price so if she takes it back, no biggie or shame on our part.

It will be fun I think. Anyway I want one and to me a good rule of thumb is to buy a gift you would be happy getting yourself. Digital frame for the win!! =)

I'm still going to add the cd and I did get her a great card. I wish these kids were different, I wish they were happy fun kids, I would have so enjoyed it, especially since there are no girls in our family...they would be special all on their own. <sigh> Some things are just not meant to be I guess.

Raj leaves tomorrow. <doing the happy dance> I hope he has a great time and I am glad that she invited us, maybe it will open a new chapter. A good one. 

(Of course I have no idea who I think I am kidding)

One mess down, four thousand to go!

~Ami

xoxo

Uh-hummm....I just had an epiphany. Albiet a small one but an epiphany nonetheless. The name of my bank is "Walk-ova-ya" .

Considering that I hate my bank and feel certain they should be sued on a daily basis for holding funds in this age of electronic and instant debit.....but they can't manange instant deposit credit.....the realization that they tell me everyday that what they are doing to me by simply putting it in their name has just struck me a completely profound.

You know some wise-ass in some corporate room somewhere thought this was funny.

Did I mention I hate my bank?

You see I carry a variety of vaseline tubes in my purse. I have my special bank vaseline, also insurance vaseline, and am soon to acquire gas pump vaseline. It comes in so many flavors. Raj has IRS vaseline.  lol.

When the insurance adjuster called me Monday with the finally offer on my car, and said he would send a check over that day,  I told him to please include a new tube of vaseline with it as I had used my insurance vaseline all up while paying premiums. He said "it will just be the check 'mam". 

He didn't laugh...but then I wasn't laughing either. Insurance adjusters are only fit for two kinds of jobs in this world...insurance adjusting (screwing with no vaseline) and collections (stupid and screwing with no vaseline). At least insurance adjusters aren't stupid. That must be how they sleep at night. They look in the mirror and say "self, it could be worse you could be stupid and then you could only be in collections...". <snort>

Oh yes and back to the Walk-ova-ya bank...errrm, so I go to deposit my hefty insurance check <giant sarcasm> and I notice as I sit looking at my blow tube transfer system for high tech banking....that four other customers have moved through their line and left already. I am still sitting in my un-airconditioned car needing to pee. It crosses my mind that I might have to go in....ugh I have no bra on, and am in my jammies and did not brush my hair. I pray "dear God, not today please". He hears me and obliges, the head teller begins to blab at me from the metal box on my pole.

"Sorry for the delay Mrs. Wxxx we have to verify this check is real."

I feel sure I rolled my eyes and I mumbled something on the order of 'morons'.

I can see my teller on the phone holding the check yakyakyakking. Finally she hangs up and says, "thank you for your patience Mrs Wxxx".

If pee had not been occupying my thoughts I would have had to ask the obvious.

"Why would you check out the check when it clearly says for deposit only on it?"

First rule of being a teller watching for stolen checks....people don't deposit stolen checks, they cash them. DUH.

I remind myself that banks hire tellers at minimum wage....like collection companies....

I know in my heart if I had asked for a new tube of banking vaseline, she wouldn't have a clue what I meant.

~Ami ;) 

Girl! You aren't even close to realizing your potential! You have GOT to start writing! Heck far, this place can give you enough to write about! Ami! You are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo good at that thing you do. You could be the next Maxine! Sisterfriend! DO IT!!!!!! I realize we have Trace in our mist. But man you are good at this!!!!!

Oh this is hiliarious. I am doing spell check now since I can't spell, and the other option for sisterfriend is "Scatterbrain"! How cool is that?!

And we're drinking beer and just talking. I had gone to the Derby Parade cos my friend asked if I'd go and I'm really not ok with sittin around this dang house all day and I took my boot off and boyeee is my foot swollen. So we're talking and telling my sister that I was going to the Oaks which is a big deal with in this town. As big as the Derby and no thing surpasses it and I swear this does.  (Ya'll gotta understand that I have to go back to work in 6 days!) My sister was telling us that she had gone to the track today and there was no way Kathy (30 yrs+ friend I never ever for many many yrs have gotten to hang with) was going to get me close enough to not walk alot. (Kat said she'd get me close AND get me a wheelchair) So.... I guess I'm going. *shaking head*

All the rest of this conversation is with my sister and my friend ok?

Guess what I did yesterday? I went to Brown County (a few hrs drive with no thing but hundreds of shops). And I went to the Bedlam Races (which is this thing were companies and whoever make beds and costumes and then race each other. Total fun and unbelievable ingenuity. Lot's of walking but we had a handicap sticker cos my friend had a plastic foot. She's actually the first one to get it. When we stopped at Kroger to get our Pegasus pins she said "I want to see how you walk." When she saw she said "You walk like me!" Had a blast of course. Parents with kids happened to sit behind us. Not a conversation you want kids to hear let me tell you! lol

And then I'm telling her I pruned trees today. You know that thing you never see until you're looking at them? Dang. There's all kinds of branches that have no leaves. So you get your tool and start trimming cos you're not going to "really" going to do anything and of course it will bug you to death now that you "see" it. And I've been here for 5 yrs!