Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

I had just had my teeth out and we were all over at my sister's and they were teasing me to take em out. I hated the temps anyway so I did. Well there's this one part on my uppers (full btw) where they put this nail thing in for whatever reason and the room of.....7 were dieing laughing and I said "Wait! That's not all!" and took the partials on the bottom out. Am I ever glad that's not of video! ROFLPMP! To this day, about a yr later, they say they can't believe I did it. In such the way, that it was waaaaayyyyy inappropriate. LOL. See! If they didn't push it, it wouldn't ve interred my head. So of course it's thier fault. We do dumb things while we drink.  

 

hmmmm.... wonder if anyone else will share they're most embarrassing moments?

You know you coulda just s\told us right? LOL  Am so glad your outlook is like completely different! Life IS good and it DOES  always seem to work out. I'm just thrilled for you.

 

I have read some of my posts folks. and do realize that many, many, many words are misspelled (is that one too?!) but I go so fast and have so little time I just rush thru em. My apologies.  And thanks you guys for saying you like my note taking/sharing thing. It's all just so neat I have no clue how to not share it here. Nuff said though. I'm not a glory monger or anything. I did kinda sorta know it was ok. Now I know, and I'll just continue. Oh! And this is good. I

d almost forgot to share this one. I was talking to my sponsor and telling her bout the obessing at 4am over my ex stepson of 4 yrs and asking why do I do that. She said "It's cos you are addicted to the caos". Of growing up in the home I grew up in! How brilliant is that?! "When you understand what's causing it, you can control it." was what was said in the meeting!  Do you have a clue how valueable that is?! OMG! Obsessing! Most of you know my work enviornment. Do you know how helpful that is for just that one part of my life?! And I told my sister and brother this today,and they of course can relate as well. So I maybe helped them!  My gawd! I think I can actually have a relationship now! LOL Don't really want one of those, but I swear to you this, with all that I've learned I do believe it could be healthy. ....naw! What am I thinking? LOL   sigh! Ok that's all folks. Didn't mean to say this much. How I do go on Neecie! LOL

 

*hugs* everybody.  Keep comin back!  (That's what's said after every single meeting)

I had to look the word up too....good thing I have my handy dandy Oxford sitting right beside me....now I learned a new word of the day too....!!!!

don't be soooo tired....

 

I'm sure you owe us a story or two...how about the cable guy????

 

 

So again I'm having issues with family....probably due to the fact I'm being self centered....selfish.....oh...I'm sure that is just to name a few.

 

Here is the story:  Tomorrow is my B'day.  Ron and I had planned along time ago that just the 2 of us were going out for supper and a movie.  Well we decided to change that to just supper since my bro is going be here.  A couple of weeks ago we all made the plan that Ron and I would go out for supper and hook up at the local pub with my parents, bro, sil, and other family members that just wanted to join us for my bro's last weekend here.  No birthday thing....which is 100% fine with me.  Anyways...Ron and I figured we would go out for something to eat tonite on our way there....but last nite my dad called and wants us to pick up some stuff to take to their house on the way...no biggie...but we would have to take a different route...and there is nowhere to eat...again...no big deal.  Ron and I then just decided we would go somewhere really nice in the future and it would just be the 2 of us celebrating our birthdays..cuz we were busy on his.  OK...now the rest of the story.  So my mom says that my bro and sil are going out to the pub tonite to meet my brothers friend from school.  (keep in mind there is only 1 pub and its the one we are going to tomorrow) She suggested maybe Ron and I would like to stop in there and have a visit too on our way through...eat some pub fare.  Yup, sounds like a great idea!!!  It was a plan.  Now today my sil phone and wants to celebrate my b'day tonite instead of tomorrow because they do not want to go to the pub 2 nites in a row.  This was never my plan anyways.  I hate smelling like smoke (sorry to you smokers).  So I said I had intentions of Sat nite cause that is my real b'day and I didn't really want to party too much tonite anyways...she got pissy at me and put my bro on the phone....so he is saying no biggie and don't worry about it. 

 

I think the real reason I'm upset about it is because the one other time they were here on my b'day...(I was still in the city...no kids...etc..) and they planned on taking me out for lunch and blah blah blah.....I took the day off of work.  Sooooooo my bro's friend phones the day before and is coming to town that day as well.....they blew me off....I sat at home by myself...they did not even invite me to come with them....so this time I guess I'm still kinda pissed about the last time...I'm not going to bring it up....but it just seems that is the way it is with my sil.  My brother being the devoted husband (i'm glad he is) will do what she wants.

 

OK....am I being selfish...AGAIN.  I dunno.  I just wanted to go out and party one last time on Saturday nite with my bro....and being on my birthday just makes it a little more special for me.  Its like my birthday present...him being here.

 

I don't want to fight, but my feelings are hurt.  I hate this.

 

Please I hope someone reads this before I get off the bloody computer today....(place expletive here...and here....and here....good grief)

 

thanks

 

Hey Vicki,

 

I always seem to have a problem with birthdays.  See in my view it is your personal holiday and the day you get to be selfish because it is about you.  I used to end up disappointed because, well I guess not everyone sees it quite that way.  Oh well, I've learned not to expect much and enjoy what does happen.  Anyway....

 

I think you nailed it when you said that it was more about the last time.  You were probably hurt, disappointed and pissed off too.  Try not to let that cloud this time.  Know that you had every right to feel that way but try and let it go.

 

Now I don't know if this is possible or if it is something that you would want but maybe the answer is having your brother all to yourself for lunch on your b day.  Go along with the plans for tonight and try and arrange a little one on one to celebrate your day.

 

Well, I don't know if any of that helps much but I truly hope that you have an amazing birthday!!!!

Thanks for that....

 

I doubt I will get any free "alone" time with my brother.  He has been here for some time now and still has to see a few more people...I'm just his sister.

 

My mom called and said don't worry...the plans are not going to change.  So here I am freaking again about something that has not happened.  It still makes me a little angry though.

 

Life goes on....

 

Have a great weekend.  I'm going to get off here for the day....and finish my schoolwork...get showered....and get purty..

 

cya

 

Vicki

 

I think all families are nuts.  How's that for an intelligent observation?

 

Case in point:  I don't have to tell you how close my brother and I are.  Hell knows I've gone on and on about  that since you've all known me.  We've just been like that since we were little.  The thing is, we're not all that much alike, never have been.  Sure we have the same physical appearance (although his nose really IS bigger than mine!) but other than that, well... let's see.  He's gay.  I'm not.  He's rich.  I'm not.  He chooses his words carefully.  I don't.  He has a temper.  Not me.  He cavorts with princes and intellects.  I don't.

 

Other than that!!!  We just have this bond okay, that no one can explain, not even the two of us.  It's just there.

 

So you would think that what is left of my immediate family (only my Mom and Shannon now - MJ's too little to form an opinion, although I have no doubt that she will take our side shortly) would appreciate something so wonderful and rare.

 

And yet!  Oh, don't even get me started - they play me.  Mom has always made huge noises about how she never gets to see her son.  Complains that he never calls her.  Quite honestly,  I think I've seen him more since he moved out west than I have when he was living in the city.  And my daughter - it's always, "Well, can you please say hi to him for me?"  Why the hell don't they call him?

 

I am the relayer (is that spelled right Neecie?!) of messages.    Oh well.  Just before my bro went off to Portugal she of the feather boa made tons of noises about wanting to see my  brother the next time he was in town - could I please call him and arrange an appointment for the two of them?  Holy crap.  Apparently he's the executor of her will and since Shan has being going a little off the wall lately she wants to make changes to her will.  Now, if this doesn't sound like shades of my grandmother... never mind.  Anyway, I tell Mark this.  He calls Mom, tells her when he's going to be in Toronto and will gladly go and see her, to which she replies, "Oh dear, that just won't do, I have a hair appointment that day and then I'm off to Germany."

 

Shannon made a point of telling me that she had to cancel two doctors' appointments so that we could meet Mark and Luc here for coffee.

So what else can you do but shake your weary head?  And smile, I guess.

 

I know that your circumstances aren't the same.  If I were in your shoes I'd be frustrated too.  But given how much you love your brother, you surely must understand that,  well he must be feeling tugged and pulled in all kinds of directions and maybe all the both of you need is to just look at each other, shrug your shoulders and smile.  The connection is already there - you don't need a place or a pub or a party or a dinner or a freakin' parade with balloons and strippers and skywriters and fireworks and confetti and, and,  oh geeze, I'm getting carried away here!  Sorry.

 

Like I said.  Families are nutty.  Wherever you end up on your birthday, make sure you pull him aside for five minutes and just tell him how much you love him and miss him and that you're glad that he's there.  In the end, that's all that matters.

 

Happy Birthday Vicki!  Luv ya.

 

Trace.

 

 

See I didn't get on here till 10 pm so I'm sure that what happened is still in the haps, and call me crazy, but I bet you're having a great time. I'm sorry, and am somewhat pissed that you didn't get exactly what you want on your bday. Kinda can't wait to hear the details cos all things for some reason work out for good. You'll have to let us know. And huge *hugs* from me. Happy bday sweetie. Last yr Ron wasn't in the picture was he? Life is good sweetie. It's what you make of it. And you are one blessed puppy in my book!