Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

I don't wonder about you at all. =) There is no set date or age as to when it is 'right' to be deflowered. The only right thing is when you are ready for it emotionally. That could be any age at all, and to completely honest with you it is more likely older than that average guy starts. Most guys who jump into sexual activity at an early age are not emotionally prepared for it, it is simply a game of conquest. Which is not what a sexual relationship is about at all. But immaturity abounds and in some cases continues for a life time with some boys/men.

 

It shows an enormous amount of integrity that you have obviously spent a lot of time discovering who you really are. You are aware you were not ready. That is more honest than many people ever are with themselves!! Hats off to you!!!!

 

The time will come and you will know it when it happens and lucky you that your mind will be prepared for the full meaning of sharing the most intimate moment of your life with another person. Not only will it actually mean something to you, but my bet is that special person will be thrilled that you took the time to know yourself first. After all how can you possibly begin to know someone else without knowing yourself? You can't and that my friend is what is so very wrong with so many guys to begin with.

 

I have three sons, two of which are in their 20s and they had the very same fears you have. Just know you are not alone in your thoughts and concerns, they are quite normal. =)

 

~Ami

So good to see you, I had wondered what was up with the down under! hehe

 

Sorry you are having computer issues. We go through that here too at times. Raj just put more memory in mine it was running so slow it was nuts. I am just glad you can do those kinds of things and I am sure you are that Mark can too. =)

 

I am glad to hear that Stephanie is enjoying her first weeks of school. I think it is so important that it is a positive experience at that age. It seems kids who hate it in the beginning hate it all the way through. So this time is crucial that it is a happy fun time.

 

So "quite switched", I am assuming that means "very good at" or "gifted"? I can't think it would be anything else talking about our Stephanie! =)   LOL I love the way you say things, I can just hear the accent....LOLOLOL!!! Can you hear my southern drawl.....sugah. hehe!!

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxo

I really shouldn't be surprised Neecie that you mention the one movie that can instantly bring a smile to my face!

 

So way back when that movie was out in theaters I was in a crappy live-in relationship that after 5 years was going no where.  I knew it, he knew but it was easier to be, well, lazy.  I wasn't unhappy but I wasn't happy either.  I was bored and lonely.  One evening as I was leaving work a co-worker/friend said he felt like going to a movie so I joined him.  My boyfriend was off doing his own thing so it wasn't like I would be missed.  We got there and the next movie showing was Groundhog Day.  It was my life, just repeating every day, one after another with nothing ever really changing.  Seeing that movie, at that point in my life woke me up from my slumber of laziness.

 

The best part of this story is that a couple years later I was walking down the aisle with, drum roll please....the coworker/friend who I saw the damn movie with!!!  Seems that the perfect guy for me was right under my nose but I didn't see him due to the fog that was my life.  I guess that was our first "date" even though I didn't know it at the time.  There was nothing romantic about it just two people trying to find there way in life. 

 

That one movie changed my life.  Thanks Neecie for reminding me!  : )

Trying to catch up, home today with a sick kid again!  I HATE WINTER!!!!

 

Okay, snooping, I say no right now because I would have hated it if my mom did it to me.  For all I know she did but I never found out.  Ask me again in about 6 years when my middle is a teenager and I might have a different answer. 

 

Ditching a date due to looks, no I would give him a chance.

 

The tax/citizenship thing, well I think that it is safe to say that while I may be a crazy blue state liberal, if you really, really just want to be a citizen for monetary benefits, get the hell out, please ; ).  I'm with Ami on this one.

 

Re-gifting, wouldn't because I would probably get caught.  I would most definitely sell it on ebay though!

 

Crap I can't remember the others, see why I would get caught re-gifting!

The only thing I have to add to what Ami said is, well, stop telling people that you are a virgin.  It is none of anyone's business but yours and the woman that you do eventually have a relationship with.  You have a lifetime ahead of you to enjoy your sex life, good for you for being smart enough to get through your insecurities first. 

My first ex! We always had sex, never cared when and that went on for yrs. The only thing is he....how do you say this? Pulled out in time? lol Then we broke up and I was living with a girlfriend. For some unknown reason I took a nap which I never did and he saw some of our neighbors. They told him we always left our door open and I woke up with him in my bed. I'd missed him terrible bad (knew he wasn't good for me) and there he was. It was sooo romantic. I kept asking if I was dreaming! When it happened I "knew" and told him so. When I had to call him to tell him he convinced me that it wasn't his. Later in the day an inner voice (which I swear was God said "Janet! You haven't been with anybody else!" I had been going thru the "you are such a tramp" drama in my head. Anyway, we married. What a disaster that was. In some ways good though. Lots of ways actually. But of course it didn't last. I knew when I got pregnant with Jeremy too.

 

So new question: Did ya'll "feel" it when you got pregnant?

You're at a drive-in movie with your spouse, something you haven't done in yrs. While watching the movie you both get very romantic and very aroused. Would you have sex in the care at the drive-in?

 

Hell yeah!!!!! In a heartbeat!

 

Another good question: what's the crazyiest place ya'll have sex? Me? In the park, in the fall and we could hear people allllll around us. It was soooo hot. Never will forget that. I'm such a fuddy dud usually and would never consider doing such a thing in such a public place but that was really nice and I'd probably do that again someday. Maybe. If the chance presented itself. And IF I could ever find someone that wanted to have a relationship with me again.

Oh Janet that is better than my story hands down!! Or should I say pants down! =P rotf!!

 

Yes, I know exactly the days I got pregnant with my oldest boys too. We had been trying to get pregnant for three years and it just didn't happen. I had a horrid reaction to birth control pills early in our marriage and had to stop taking them. Then proceeded to not have a period for 10 months....yet I wasn't pregnant. They finally gave me some kind of booster shot to make my body kick in and try to reregulate. Two years later the doc warned me that the reaction was so bad that birth control can cause infertility in a small percentage of women. I was upset to say the least. If I had known this I would never have taken it and I still say if I had daughters I would be very leary of letting them have it. It is not as 'safe' as you think for the body. Anyway I digress...I had just given up on ever getting pregnant. Not to mention that poor Rick was a premature ejaculator. Couldn't help it at all, he would head for the bed and zing, gone before you knew it. =( So needless to say nothing was conducive to swimmers finding nirvana. =P

 

So one night for whatever reasons I had the woolies and we just played and played all night long. =) In fact Mr. Premie, well I decided the best way to handle that was unload once and hell in time that pistol would reload for round two!! Voila`!! It worked everyone was ecstatic and orgasmic! =D And I knew the little rascals swam in for home plate!

 

So yep rinse repeat two years later and we had baby number 2. Both of my older boys were created from double header nights. (Oh that is soooo bad..... =P)

 

Funnier yet, all three of my boys were concieved in Septembers. I do believe it is the only month of the year I can get pregnant and for the longest time I just swore I was never going to lie down in September again. LOL!!

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxo

I think I have told the story of the store front window. =)

 

Also on a car hood behind a store one time in broad daylight. It was a very low traffic area but you talk about a rush, nekkid in broad daylight on a car hood is scarey! =P

 

Funniest....in a john boat on a lawn chair with the silly boat rocking the whole time. I just knew we were going to land in the lake! And if you don't know what a john boat is....well a wee bit bigger than a freakin canoe. So imagine a lawn chair set in it cross ways. Our heads were over the edge on one side of the boat and our feet over the other edge rockin away.

 

Damn I was once young and fun!

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxox

John finally has his all-state audition in the morning. (It got snowed out if you remember two weeks ago.) I will be so glad when this pressure is over for him. Make it or not I don't care, I know this kid did his best and that is all that matters. =)

 

Oh and you know the question the other day about the skipping the grades. Well, John got a letter that he qualified to apply to the country charter school for math, science and engineering. WOW! It is an unreal program and they start getting college credit in the 9th grade. Well we all discussed it, and studied on it and weighed it all out and decided not to even apply.

 

Long story short, the demands of the school were unreal and though John could handle the work hands down (other than Chinese I for language) it just seemed too much like making a kid an old man before his time. There has to be some fun when you are still young enough to enjoy it.

 

Anyway he is music bound not math bound, at least today. ;)

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxo