Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

Last Friday I had promised my girls that I would take them to the movies after school on Monday.  They were pretty excited because they wanted to see the damn Hannah Montana movie.  I bought the tickets in advance and was set to go. 

 

A friend calls me yesterday morning wanting to know if I'm free to go to a rally for Obama, she'll drive.  Now I have waited for a long time for a candidate that I can believe in and also believe as well and I really think that he might really be it.

 

So what do I do?  Kept my damn promise to my kids and missed seeing history in action. 

 

BTW-A few years back a poster on the Current Events board brought him to my attention and I have been paying close attention ever since.  So if anyone is still in touch with Tap give her my regards.

Ami, that is wonderful news about John!  My husband was in orchestra many moons ago and gave me the info on All state and what being a chair meant.  Quite an accomplishment!

 

Trace, words fail but wishing you lots of hugs.  It really does suck that life is not fair at times.

I would have done the movie thing too Loretta. Your kids will remember that. =)

 

I can't say I would ever support any liberal, I just can't support all the Federal programs and giveaways they always call for. But sadly there seems there is going to be a liberal republican in the final presidential bid who is equally as fond of giving away our country. That distresses me. Thus my feeling that no matter who wins, it is just someone we have to endure for a min of 4 years....and pray it isn't 8. *sigh*

 

Hugs,

~Ami

A promise is a promise and one to the girls is just too important.  As much as I wanted to go to the rally I would have been miserable. 

 

I consider myself to be pretty much a moderate, I support some of the Republican ideals and some Democratic.  I have supported and voted for members of both parties as well as independents.  I've been a member of both parties but after the past 8 years it will be a long time before I trust a Republican again.    Time and history will tell I guess.  I do know that I love my country and I hate what has happened to it and just hope for positive change. 

 

Hugs back at you

thank you that helped out so much !!!

Instant money. The ATM machine, the debit card and the credit card.  This is an invention that is doing nothing more than padding the owners of banks pockets beyond belief. Banks count on people overchecking using them and they make enormous profits from users in od fees, overlimit fees and general fees. When I worked in banking, it disgusted me what cash cows those are and that it was pure profit for banks. =/ Convenient yes...expensive as hell yes. These modern conveniences were never invented for their convenience, they were invented to be money makers.

 

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I don't have a must see tv show. I used to, but I rarely watch tv anymore. Each year I had to see the Wizard of Oz and Gone With the Wind. I can even remember when I was really little my mom would lay out the picnic cloth on the floor in the living room and serve us pbj and chicken noodle soup on Wizard of Oz night. It was the only time we got to eat supper and it not be at the table. It was soooo cool!!! An annual event!!  A few years back I finally got both movies so I can watch them anytime I want now. =)  The only thing more recent that I used to watch every year was Ken Burns "The Civil War" on PBS. They usually play it during their telethon week. It is an awesome series. =)

 

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Secret camera...hmmm. That one is very hard, I have thought and thought about it all afternoon and I can't think of a soul. I just don't have that much curiousity about people. =P

 

Hmmm....Osama Bin Laden's cave, so I could send our peeps to blast that bastard to kingdom come. =)

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 hello ive been with my commonlaw husband for 8 years now and we are having problems in the bedroom when we met he was in to dressing as a woman in latex and having sex that way  i tries for a while but its not what im into so we stopped and resumed normal sex lives any way he started looking up stuff on the computer like clothing and feminization sites he would get turned on but swares he didnt masturbate when i found out about a year later we had a huge fight and to me it was like he was cheating we resolved the issue and carried on with our lives now almost 6 years later we are facing this issue again he wants me to treat him like awoman in the bedroom and i have tried but i find it disgusting and it takes away from my own sexuality ifeel  that this is what excites him more and that bymyself i dont excite him anymore he says i do but that he needs this kind of sex to fullfil him aswell. is this a fetish that i can work around? am i right in asking him to forget about it? or do you think he really wants to be awoman and is fooling himself?  is he gay or bisexual because he likes anal sex although he isnt attracted to men he has had somee experience in this so he swares hes not gay. but if its just a fetish surely he can give it up. im very confused hurt letdown by him and its effecting everything in our relationship what should i do??? i need advice soon thanks for listening i will await your advice with anticipation.

If your mind is not comfortable with it, you will not be able to 'work around' it either. It maybe the occassional play time you can enjoy but as for it being a lifestyle if you are not comfortable now you never will be. It doesn't grow on you. A man who is interested in cross dressing and anal sex is not necessarily gay at all, but there is a factor in their makeup that they are more comfortable when they are in close touch with their femine side. Something btw that all men do pocess. It is just most men do not reach into their femine side in the bedroom. Those that do, want a mate who is all into them being the femine part of the activity. You are playing parts and he is in the part that he is most comfortable with. For whatever reason he is not as comfortable being the alpha male.

 

Not to sound completely textbook 101 but it does have to do with his mother and his relationship (or lack of one). In a nutshell it is a psychological thing not a fetish....and he isn't likely going to grow out of it.  A fetish is a psychosexual attraction to inanimate things, that isn't what is going on here.  His comfort zone is what it is about. The biggest problem is that it isn't your comfort zone. In fact it is making you uncomfortable. Which in time you will come to completely resent, if you don't already.

 

Sex is supposed to be about two people, not one. The internet opens a door that until it's advent was not available to people with these kinds of desires. Now the click of a keyboard can open doors to entire cultures and markets that cater to the exact tendancies he has. He will not give that up easily if ever, he will simply hide it from you better.

 

Understand that cross dressing isn't wrong. Sexual excitement comes to people in many different ways. He is a consenting adult that likes it. You aren't going to change him no matter how much you beg and plead and threaten. That feminine need is very strong and he is being honest with you when he tells you he 'needs' it. Cross dressers take a huge risk exposing their secret desires to someone, the ridicule and reprisals are huge and can be devastating. He is being very straightforward with you. The only question here really is if you can AND want to adhere to his methods. This isn't going away.....and it isn't about him loving you either. He may love you with all he is, this is just who he is.

 

Regards,

~Ami

 

 

Ami, what an enlightening response.  Well done.