Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

The message one:

On vacation is on vacation...who needs a phone! =P Not sure what I would do, probably make a very perturbed call in....and make it very obvious that I didn't appreciate being disturbed on my vacation.

 

The dumb hottie:

Ok so this is my first hubby. He was beautiful I will say. A very very fine looking specimen without question.  Think Tom Selleck type. In fact when we divorced several people asked me why would I divorce something that looked that good. LOL And yes I kid you not he was a fine male specimen. But he was dumb as a bag of hammers, and just as boring. That is not saying he wasn't really a kind hearted sort, because he was very kind hearted and easy to get along with....because there was never an original thought there! Not to mention he was well....poorly equipped in the tool shed if you get my drift. There was a lot lacking, pun intended. Not something he could help sadly. So to me beauty and good heart are not enough.

 

Or maybe they just weren't then....now I think I might be really happy with eye candy.... ;)

 

massuese with a bonus:

Well it would be hard for me to be in this situation since I can't imagine having a massage as it is. But then the offer for 'full body'.....hmmm.....dunno, perhaps if I have had enough to drink!! lol  j/k....I think ;P

 

Hugs,

~Ami

 

 

I've been coming here everyday to see how it's going without Raj around! You didn't even mention him!

 

Glad things went well with John's dealio. That's just great really. Maybe the time will come when I'll get to hear him. 

 

What kind of car did you end up with?

 

Same thing happened at my closing. I had transfered funds from my 401k and no one told me I needed to wait. I was freaking out and the mgr gave me the check. I really like my bank.

Well it was a nice quiet weekend without him around! LOL

 

We tend to bicker about things entirely too much. He just grates my nerves terrible. I think it is me, I have noticed lately lots of things grate my nerves. =P Anyway it does him good to be gone from me, because then he gets all mewly about missing me and how much he loves me blahdiddy blah. I know I sound ungrateful, but he is rather a mushy mouth at times. <sigh>

 

Anyway get this, so his daughter graduated magna cum laude. Which is awesome and though it only took her 8 years to do it, I am glad she finally finished (though it is really completely irrelevent to us as we don't have a clue about her life.) <stifling the urge to meow>  So after graduation, which by the way was sunny and bright so no fussing over seats, they all went to lunch.

 

Lunch consisted of Raj, his parents, both his daughters, one boyfriend of oldest daughter, both of Raj's exes. LOL. Sooooo happy I was not there!!!!!!!! Sheese. Though I think Raj ate it all up, and more power to him for it too. lol

 

She liked the frame according to Raj. The only real messyness in all of the trip is Raj came home with renewed angst about his mother and I being friends. He once again asked me to make peace with her. He told me she said she is willing to forget it all if I will call her.

 

Now part of me just knows he is pushing this thing. I don't want to be friends with her. It wouldn't be like "friends" it would be like endurance. He keeps telling me "they are old and they won't be around forever" yadayada.  Ummm....not my problem. And frankly they will be around forever, that is always the way.

 

My internal warning system that rarely works screams at me NO, when he broaches making up. It honestly gives me the creepy crawlys. I don't want to have to go hang out with them. It would just be one big fake fest.

 

The other day he said something or other about where we were going to eat out, I said I didn't care where we went. Now Raj is one of those people who can't seem to accept the given answer to something. If I say I don't care where we eat, that means I don't care. That does not mean I don't want Mexican and you had better read my freakin' mind. It means I don't care.

 

I say what I mean. If I don't want something, I will say so straight up, I'm not shy. Nor can I stand the idea that someone thinks they should read my mind. I certainly don't read others minds and am not going to try to even. He said, "well I thought you were just saying that to be nice".

 

<cough, cough> Now tell me why my husband has not figured out yet...that I don't say things just to be nice. I either mean what I say or I don't say anything. There is no guessing game with me. In fact I think I am about as easy a person to figure out as there is because there is no guessing about things. But does my hubby get that?? Nooooo.

 

I politely said to him, "haven't you figured out that I don't do things I don't want to?"

 

He snapped, "oh yes I know you don't, even when other people do for you"....

 

I just started laughing hysterically. The evening deteriorated from there on out.

 

Point being that in two days I could tell he had been around his parents and in particular his mother and those exes of his...and his daughters....who manipulate the crap out of him. And you know what, he knows how to play that game, so it drives him nuts that I don't play and he gets his hand called on it all the time here. It is just nonsense and stupid if you ask me.

 

When I see him flip back into that mode after being around that bunch, my head rings and nausea comes over me thinking about being 'friends' again and having to hang out with my in-laws. NOOOOOOOO!!!

 

I prefer the title 'selfish b*tch' to 'poser' anyday.

 

Yeah we enjoyed him being gone. Yet part of me missed him...sorta. <sigh>

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxo

And support 100% your decision to not make up. Too much drama in that scenario. And it would never never end. I think your happiness level will be alot stronger with things just the way they are. Just tell him you don't have the energy for it.  And he'll come around Ami. He just needs some space to readjust to realville. I'm really glad she liked your gift.

Ami, when you started talking about what Raj said, "she said she'd forgive all, if you just call..." my nerves started tingling.  Tigers do not change their stripes and that's all I have to say about THAT!

 

Congrats to John on his performance, what an incredible thing that must have been.  He's certainly on his way to bigger and better things.

 

Scruples.  Let's see... No way, would I take that call.  Any employer that would expect me to cut short a vacation with my daughter (cuz that's what it would be) to attend some stupid meeting.  Well, if they want to fire me for not answering a phone cal that must have been a joke... I bet I could find someone better to work for.

 

I would not be interested in someone who's stupid and boring.  Looks are Ok, movie star looks - yep, they look good on the big screen, and that's probably where they should stay.  Of course, if you ask me, I've found someone who has movie star looks and he IS smart. :D

 

"full body massage"?  Oh, I can imagine moments when I would have been tempted by something like that, in my fantasies.  But actually faced with the option?  Naah.  I'm more of a prude than that.

I agree that I really honestly do not have the energy to deal with it. It means not being free to be me too. Not to mention the rub to me lies in the fact that 'she is willing to forgive if I will call her" feels wrong simply because I don't see that there is a thing for her to forgive. It isn't me that she needs to forgive, I didn't do anything. It should be Raj she needs to forgive, he created this whole nightmare from the get go...and they contributed to it in reality. Matt and I just happened to be freakin' handy nothing more.

 

If I had any energy at all I would be pissed that she even said that. But I don't have any energy, at least not to spare on this middle school ya-ya fest. So that to me is the end of it.

 

I need all my energy to car shop!! =P  When I am not so sleepy I will fill you guys in on this adventure! Too funny!

 

I looked in the mirror and obviously did not get enough beauty sleep....

~Ami ;)

How are you feeling? It's good to see you again miss. Tell us how life is treating you. And how'd it go with Ralph's visit?

I'm doing Ok.  Halfway through chemo, and it seems very doable to get to the end of it.  Some days I'm tired, and others I feel more normal, so I just have to take it as it comes.  Soon, we'll have visitors... My mom for five days, then about a week, then my dad arrives for two weeks, then a couple days and mom comes back for a weekend.  So, there will be lots going on, and lots of help with Erin and the house.

 

I haven't seen Ralph for a couple of weeks.  Can't remember where I left off in the story, but three days after BIL's death, the OR family scheduled a viewing, giving 24 hour notice to his family here.  So, they scrambled for a plane flight, Ralph went along to run interference.  They spent 45 minutes at the viewing, having arrived late because of a delay in the flight.  Grandmother did not attend.  Later, when they went to claim a portion of the ashes, they were denied any, and flew home empty handed.  Ralph calls the grandmother "The Wicked Witch of the East".  The girl's are now planning a memorial service for Saturday morning and I plan to go and help however I can.  I really hope that will be something that will help the girls start the healing process. 

Been busy around the farm, so I haven't been on here.  But just wanted to get on here and wish a wonderful Mothers Day.

 

Catch up next week!

 

 

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Vicki