Topic : Is This Normal Social Discussion

I'm doing Ok.  Halfway through chemo, and it seems very doable to get to the end of it.  Some days I'm tired, and others I feel more normal, so I just have to take it as it comes.  Soon, we'll have visitors... My mom for five days, then about a week, then my dad arrives for two weeks, then a couple days and mom comes back for a weekend.  So, there will be lots going on, and lots of help with Erin and the house.

 

I haven't seen Ralph for a couple of weeks.  Can't remember where I left off in the story, but three days after BIL's death, the OR family scheduled a viewing, giving 24 hour notice to his family here.  So, they scrambled for a plane flight, Ralph went along to run interference.  They spent 45 minutes at the viewing, having arrived late because of a delay in the flight.  Grandmother did not attend.  Later, when they went to claim a portion of the ashes, they were denied any, and flew home empty handed.  Ralph calls the grandmother "The Wicked Witch of the East".  The girl's are now planning a memorial service for Saturday morning and I plan to go and help however I can.  I really hope that will be something that will help the girls start the healing process. 

Been busy around the farm, so I haven't been on here.  But just wanted to get on here and wish a wonderful Mothers Day.

 

Catch up next week!

 

 

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((GROUP HUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

 

Vicki

Also gonna be a crazy weekend, The Molly is coming and she and the guys are all going to a company paint ball bash tomorrow. I am staying home and cleaning house, or just lazing about maybe. lol

Anyway hope everyone has a great Mother's Day!!

 

Hugs,

~Ami

xoxox

But I wanted to wish ya'll a Happy Mother's day too. My son and his girlfriend are taking me and her mom to thetrack. I have a friend at work that bets the horses all the time and he said to call him and he'd tell me his favs. He cashed 9 out of 12 horses at the Derby so I may actually win some money. I usually pick them by the names. lol Have a good one kids. HITYL?

Hope you all had a great Mother's Day and got to spend some time with your loved one's.

 

My Mother's Day was great, Stephanie and Mark got me 2 lovely rose plants, I love roses and so now have quite afew rose plants now.

 

Well sorry this is short and sweet, will get back here soon. Till then please Take Care each and everyone of you. Bye-for-now, Love Kelly.

I also hope that everyone had a nice Mother's Day.  Our celebration has been postponed until my Mom is here this weekend, so while it was a nice day, nothing special happened.

 

The memorial service was very nice.  The BIL had a lot of interesting and different hobbies and things he was interested in -- one of them was making windchimes.  So Ralph had gotten three of them down from the trees around their house (falling off the ladder in the process - he's OK) and brought them to the church.  I brought a couple of large sets that I had as well, including one made by my dad and stepmom.  It was a breezy day and the sound of the chimes were really nice as teh service went on.  The small historic church was filled with people, and many spoke of Rick and expressed love and support for his family.  The Pastor spoke and I thought, did a wonderful job.  The younger daughter actually was brave enough to get up and sing "I Say a Little Prayer for You", and was supported by three of her friends who made up choreography to go along.  She didn't make it through the song before she got emotional, but I thought it was a very sweet and brave thing to do.

 

I thought that the girls handled everything better than I expected.  It seems like they have a tremendous amount of support among their friends and schoolmates, so I expect that will help.  Financially, things are a mess (long story).  He didn't have much, but it looks like his mother is doing everyhting she can to keep whatever it was.  The funeral home has been instructed not to release a death certificate to Ralph's sister, so they have to pay an attorney to go to court to get it.  This, at a time when the whole family is pretty tapped out on cash.  Ralph told me that someone had suggested to him that he lease his townhome and move in with his sister, so that he won't have to continue supporting two homes.  Also, he feels the need to be more present with his nieces and their activities, so it probably means that I'll see less of him.  Hopefully, things will get resolved in time, and things will get better.  It's a bit hard to see when that will be....

Happy Belated Mothers Day everyone!  Hope that everyone enjoyed the day.  I think that yesterday was the best mothers day that I have had. 

 

While I am married to a really good guy and I do recognize that I did get one of the good ones, well he is still a guy.  I don't care about most holidays, don't expect much, don't need lots of gifts but the one day that I want my hubby to plan something and put in some effort is mothers day.  Now I know I am not his mother but since the girls are still young he gets the honor.  He is a very smart man but sometimes very smart men can be just plain stupid.  In years past he has been just plain stupid and waits to the last minute to think about doing something nice for me.  Last year I, not so calmly, explained that considering all that goes into being a mom, all the events I plan, all the balls that I keep in the air, the least he could do is take 15 minutes and plan something, anything but something for me.

 

I guess he heard me because this year he made reservations at my favorite restaurant for lunch.  The place is an old mill on a small waterfall and I love the atmosphere.  Not typically a kid place which made it all the nicer.  The girls were well behaved and enjoyed dressing up for a fancy lunch.  I also slept in until 9:30, haven't done that in forever.  I was given roses and dandelions.  We then went and flew kites at the beach and played in the cold sand.  A wonderful day.

 

The best gifts of all were the cards that the girls made.  My littlest did a book with her kindergarten class, the kids completed the sentences that were pre printed on a page.  My two favorites were My mom always says:  her answer "I love you" and My mom loves:  "me".   I think that out of all the things that I can give to my kids, them knowing that I love them with everything I have is the best gift I can give them.    I'm so glad that they know it!

 

Hugs to all and Neecie, enjoy your Mothers Day .  I am keeping you, Erin, Ralph and his family in my thoughts.  It never fails to amaze me how death can bring out the absolute worst in people.  I am so sorry that the kids have to deal with the added issues.

Ok Loretta, dang not often am I genuinely envious of other people!!! But you win! =P

 

Mother's consisted of me getting up at 6 am and me cleaning house and working. Ah well one day no different from the others. My oldest son called me Saturday and told me happy mother's day, since he had a double shift on Sunday and wasn't going to have time to call. Other than that nada. Now I realize how this has happened....sort of. There was no one to teach the boys about shopping and so forth. My mom would generally just get something and call it from the boys. It seemed silly for me to buy something wrap it up and call it from them. And J's dad could only ever say "you are not my mother"...so he would have no part in it.

 

They are guys. <sigh> Not even so much as a home made card, ecard, frack not even a baseball card! And believe it or not that oldest son of mine one year when he was very little gave me a treasured baseball card for Mother's Day. I still have it. He is the son that called me. The 'good' son. I reminded my other two sons that their 'good' brother knew the appropriate suck up and they were both Damien siblings....grrrr.

 

I also declared I would not cook for them on Mother's day, they said they didn't care. All they could do was lay around and moan about how sore they were from paint ball. I fed them cheese for supper. =P

 

Hugs,

~The Jealous Ami

xoxo

How precious.

 

Ami you are a hoot once again. lol

 

My Mother's Day was that my son and his girlfriend took me and his mom to the track. Now I'm not a gambler and it was freezing flippin cold with a driving rain. They did not dress for it and I don't think it's possible for anyone to really. But man was it fun! I have a friend at work that bets the horses and gave me tips and we won some. The other's I always just pick the names. Like HappyPoint. I told Jeremy that I picked that because I was at a happy point in my life. He grinned and placed the bet. You know what? I think he likes me! lol It really was much fun.

 

My older son didn't even call! Psssshhh. He's in California now and he thinks it's probable that he'll have to go overseas in August. He's never been, he's not married, and he has no kids. Jeremy is just furious about the war and thinks he should move to Canada. If it does happen Jeremy and I are going to watch him get on the plane. Of course I'm worried a tad. I told Jeremy "Why not my son? Everybody else's has to go." Just please to God to be safe. I do trust Him so.

 

I am back to work. I over did it and my Dr put me on part time. I hate that but y'all know me, gangbusters. And of course I've danced. I just need to stay away from that place! I am so blessed to have that job. It makes you realize when you go back how very much you value doing something you completely love. I've slowed down alto more actually and see these people more like people instead of dollar signs. It's an awakening of sorts. Course I did do the on line class thing with "A New Earth". It's funny guys cos now when you see something you see "it" and then the bigger picture starts coming in. KInda cool to look at life that way.