Topic : 11/29 Out of the Doghouse

hi i just had to comment...i really think corey got a bad rap..so what he dated a girl who was almost 18..while i dont think cheating on anyone is good...hes not married has no kids..i think they were to hard on him for dating a "younger girl" let me tell you i was 17 when i met my now husband he was 32...we have been together for 30 years have 6 children together 4 grandchildren...yes it can work... i am so sick of people dissing older men younger women..it cant work...well its working for us..and i have so much respect for firefighters...they are the true heros....thank you corey

What a joke!  Corey just came on the show to try to justify has slimy actions!  He talks about all those 20 year-olds he doesn't like to date because, they have too much baggage.  Well, he just helped create one!  Maybe, he needs your help Dr. Phil.  His explanation about his long-term relationship that failed with his high school sweetheart, may be the reason he's become such a pig now.  Is he dating high school aged young women trying to get back what was lost?  His attempts at justification saying she's 18 - not 17 and mature, and how good a Fireman he is -- whatever!  O.K., just because he treats women poorly doesn't mean he's not a good fireman.  But, there is a difference in maturity between 18 and 37. 

 

There was no contrition in his statements.  It is just a sad attempt to justify what he did and to redeem himself in the eye's of his community.  O.K., as he stated nothing he did was illegal.  His promiscuous behavior is even encouraged amongst males by alot of the media of this society.  That doesn't make it right.  And, he shouldn't be on a show titled "out of the doghouse", when it is clear he is still a dog.  He just didn't want everyone to know.

 

Sincerely,

 

be honest

Clearly Corey was concerned because people were taking thigs way overboard. It was not only affecting his personal life but his professional one as well. I agree with you that he chould live how he wants too, but I am sure you realize when it affects such an inportant job there has to be a line.

I often wonder if everyone would be so quick to judge if their personal lives were looked at. No one is perfect and a t least the man is not married and has no children. I do think he should inform his partners that the reationship is NOT EXCLUSIVE! However it seems though most people are taking things a bit overboard. If your home was on fire and your family was in danger would you really care that he dates around?? Wouln't you prefer he take his job serious and keep his private life seperate? Maybe everyone is being a little too judgemental??

My husband cheated on me n March of this year.  It has been the most difficult obstacle to overcome.  We are in counseling, but I have no idea if I can ever get over this.  I have lost all confidence in myself.  I obssess over the betrayal.  Sometimes I can't turn off my mind from thinking about it.  Even certain music brings back very vivid, disgusting memories of that time period.  I am afraid to try to work out things and I'm afraid not to try.  I almost feel as though I have PTSD, because I did suffer an emotional breakdown.  Everyone seems to say that "once a cheater, always a cheater."  If I believe that, my marriage has no chance and I'm wasting time and effort for nothing.  I am starting to believe that things will never be the same.  I am truly afraid that if he cheats again, I won't survive it emotionaly or physically.  Along with that emotional breakdown I lost so much weight....from a size 12 to a size 0...40 pounds.  The stress is affecting me physically.  He says he's sorry.  But he's not as sorry as I think he should be.  If I had hurt him the way he hurt me, I'd spend the rest of my life making it up to him.  He tried hard to make it up to me for about 6 months, but now he says I have to get past it.  Sorry to rant...I feel like a shell of a person!

I went through this same thing after 9 years of marriage.  I still don't think he has a clue as to how badly he devasted me.  My whole life, self-esteem, confidence...everything has changed.  I don't know whether I'm doing the right thing by staying with him.  But I'm afraid to leave.  We are in counseling, but will the trust ever be there again?

Your post really stood out to me.  I went through a period several years ago of betrayal.  I can feel your pain through your words.  I read Dr. Phil's book 'Self Matters' and really worked on ME.  Not that for a second I thought anything was wrong with me or I needed 'changing' or 'fixing'.  It was a horrible blow to my self esteem and I needed to rebuild me for me.  I fell in love with myself, exercised, and surrounded myself with good people.  Most important, I trust MYSELF to deal with anything that comes my way particularly, my husband.  Don't get me wrong, I can still go back in my mind to the horrible feeling of betrayal but it is fleeting and goes away.  Don't give up on you...YOU are worth it!!!  My thoughts and prayers are with you....go out and get yourself, if you don't already have it, Dr. Phil's 'Self Matters' and read and do the exercises.  It will change your life.

This Dyson is beyond a pig.  I was so appalled watching him.  his wife needs to tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.  regardless of whether or not he is going to change, the way he has behaved is inexcusable.  she should go find a real man who actually respects her instead of an uncivilized barbarian who can't seem to control his animal instincts.

Wow, saw part of the first show and did not pay much attention until today's show.  It really hit home for me.  When Dr. Phil began to describe the results of his tests I though he was talking directly to me.  I mean every part of it was right on but obviously i seek validation from men.  I have known i have altered sense of perception and have been taking medications and talking to a councelor for over 10 years and never has anyone been so right on about my personality.  I thrive on walking all over people and will run away when they catch on or dont do what i want anymore.  I never thought it could be obsessice controlling behavior.  I'm curious as to what kind of counseling Dr. Phil has recommened for Dyson, I would like to try it myself.  I am so thankful I saw this show and am relieved to know that there are people like me and hopefully we can change.