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Created on : Tuesday, November 21, 2006, 02:25:13 pm
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It's holiday time again, and parents everywhere are figuring out how they're going to afford what's on their kids' Christmas list. Theresa is a single mother who is extremely stressed out because she says her 17-year-old daughter, Bailie, is spoiled. Bailie expects her mom to buy her new clothes, a computer, purses -- much more than Theresa can afford. Theresa says that Bailie even leaves notes around the house saying, "Clean my room!" How has Theresa, who's unemployed, been able to keep up with Bailie's demands? She reveals a dark secret that she's been keeping from everyone, including Bailie. And what does Bailie want most from her mom that she's never gotten? Then, 24-year-old Katie says that she's always been handed everything she wants, and if she doesn't get her way, she begs and whines to get her dad to foot the bill. He still pays for her gas, insurance, furniture and clothing. Now, Katie says her 4-year-old daughter is growing up to be just like her, and it's Grandpa’s fault. Plus, Dr. Phil and Robin have signed on to be the national spokespeople for Toys for Tots. To kick off this year's holiday toy drive, they head to Texas Motor Speedway to cheer on the UPS Store/Toys for Tots racing team. Talk about the show here.

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melinda446
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November 30, 2006, 12:50 pm PST

not being spoiled

All I know is that we do not give gifts to the older kids.

We have a rule that as soon as you turn sixteen

everyone is not responsible to buy you anything.

We have too many in the family.

Instead we have a dinner and just sit around and talk.

This year will be very sad for my dad passed away this

spring and the last thing on my mind is trying to keep

up with everyone else.

 

 
 
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November 30, 2006, 1:17 pm PST

Kettle is black...

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Ok, I have read all your messages and would just like to say that you are welcome to your opinions.  This is the Katie that was on the show and I just wanted to say some things.  First of all, I am not the brat that you guys are making me out to be.   I am a kind and loving person that does care about others.  Just because I'm spoiled, doesn't make me an awful person.  I have goals and dreams and achieve things just like everyone else.  I think you guys are being to judgemental on us.  Yes, I agree that we need to learn how to live on our own and I am working on that but it took a long time to make me a spoiled brat, it's going to take a while for me to learn how to change.  It doesn't just happen over night!  I am working on changing and I am proud of who I am and who my daughter is....so continue with your comments but just know that we are good people and don't deserve to be talked badly about. 
What I don't understand is your upset that your Dad spoils your daughter, then open your eyes and quit teaching her that it's o.k. by continuing to do it to your father by having him pay your bills, obviously you have money coming in you admitted that so instead of teaching your daughter it's o.k. to have other people pay for thing for you teach her how to be responsible by doing it yourself.  I don't think your a bad person and I'm sure your loving but get some help.  I have a 4 month old daughter, and I can't imagine her being spoiled I worked my butt off through out my whole life, which makes it harder to watch people like you take advantage of things so easily.
 
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November 30, 2006, 1:36 pm PST

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What I don't understand is your upset that your Dad spoils your daughter, then open your eyes and quit teaching her that it's o.k. by continuing to do it to your father by having him pay your bills, obviously you have money coming in you admitted that so instead of teaching your daughter it's o.k. to have other people pay for thing for you teach her how to be responsible by doing it yourself.  I don't think your a bad person and I'm sure your loving but get some help.  I have a 4 month old daughter, and I can't imagine her being spoiled I worked my butt off through out my whole life, which makes it harder to watch people like you take advantage of things so easily.

Katie's daughter is merely following in her footsteps. If it bothers Katie so bloomin' much, why doesn't she break the cycle by getting off the gravy train? 
 
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November 30, 2006, 1:59 pm PST

When I was growing up..........

When I was growing up, we didn't have much, but what I was taught was what you had you took care of. One girl who went to my school was spoiled and I envied her until I grew up and realized that growing up the way I did was a benefit. Why? Because it taught me to work for what I wanted, instead of getting it handed to me.  There are lots of families out there that do not have much and I totally agree. Both daughters need to grow up. Both need to know that life does not revolve around you and life is going to be hard. I'm living with a teenage girl and she always wants things, she hardly gets her way and she throws fits, but she still doesn't get her way, no matter how many times she throws a fit, slams a door and etc.  If a child gets handed whatever they want, what kind of values do they learn. I learned growing up to work for what I want and to take care of my things, because as a kid, I knew  that my things couldn't be replaced. To this day I take care of my things and I cherish them. The mother is to blame, just as much as the daughter is to blame. The father should not help the daughter, even if it means she has to sit in the dark, because she would rather spend her money on things she wants, then taking care of her daughter and the important bills to live on. Shame on you both. I had a hard life and it taught me important things that still are with me now. I'm from a family of seven. 2 brothers and 2 sisters and I'm the second oldest and life was very hard growing up and it has taught us kids important lessons in life.  Most of the kids these days lost the meaning of earning things we want. I guess it's just a sad thing.
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:06 pm PST

Spoiled kids end up selfish adults!

My sister in law is the apitamy of spoiled. Now she is 22 living at home with 2 kids under 2 years old & wont even get out of bed in the mornings to raise her own children. She has manipulation down to an art form. Not only will she not hold down a job, she expects her parents ( who both work full time) to come home, clean & cook for her & her 2 boys. While they are at work she puts those little ones in a crib in front of the T.V. until she decides to get out of bed. this is the result of being spoiled rotten as a child. She uses her children against not only her parents but other family members. If we do not comply she will not let us have a relationship with them. If her parents do not buy her the things she wants, she tells them she will move into the ghetto & they will not see her boys again. So let this be a WARNING to parents who damage their children by spoiling them. It might be your grandkids who pay in the end. Chanda
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:14 pm PST

11/30 Spoiled and Entitled

Hello all, first of all I have 2 boys of my own.  They had chores while they were in school.  This is called being responsible.  I know how to tell my boys no, I can't afford it.  If they wanted something so bad, then they can save up for it.  Parents need to step up to the plate and be a parent and not let their children run over them.  Stop spoiling these kids, cause they will run all over you when they get older
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:17 pm PST

"Entitled Teens"

Kids today need to be sat down at the kitchen table around the time they turn 8 and let in on the family finances.

This is what parents got paid, this is all the bills, do the subtraction and let the little brats know that there is only so much to go around.

 
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:35 pm PST

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 They need to stop!  Just stop. Take these people to the homeles shelter and have them give their time and possesions to those who have little or nothing. The second woman whose father foots all her bills... My father  passed away 17 years ago when I was 16. I'd give all my "stuff" up for just a few more minutes w/him... a chance to introduce my kids to him. How much is that "stuff" really worth? Besides, by the time you're an adult ..it's time you "give back" to your parents.
AAAAAMEN!!!!!!
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:40 pm PST

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Kids today need to be sat down at the kitchen table around the time they turn 8 and let in on the family finances.

This is what parents got paid, this is all the bills, do the subtraction and let the little brats know that there is only so much to go around.

 

Wrong.First of all it isn't the kids business how much the parents get paid. PERIOD. You say no and that is that. No explaination needed.
 
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November 30, 2006, 2:43 pm PST

11/30 Spoiled and Entitled

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Kids today need to be sat down at the kitchen table around the time they turn 8 and let in on the family finances.

This is what parents got paid, this is all the bills, do the subtraction and let the little brats know that there is only so much to go around.

 

I don't agree with that at all. Kids don't need to be burdened with money in order to understand that they aren't entitled to a lot of material things.
 
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