Topic : 11/30 Spoiled and Entitled

To the 24 year old you look unproductive.  Get a life and more education so you have something to give to your child.  Children need love and time spent with them, thats what counts.  I have the money to spoil my daughter but I want her to understand it is the person that matters, not what you have.  I want her to understand to educate herself and bring something beautiful to the table of life , not to rely on someone else to do so.

He had Toys -r-us in his room clothes from Macy's gym shoes not under $50 most $100 .Money everyday for school even extra money to buy other kids a pop that didn't have the money ....he never shared ! He lied all the years in school every time he got in trouble it was the Teacher didn't like him .I stayed up many YEARS doing home-work till 11 pm or later .He grew up rebellious spoiled rotten from grandparents I was always competing with ,always . Wanted him to love me .All I asked of him was do good in school .Well everything I did for him was for no good .Nothing good came of me buying him everything .I bought my-self ...shoes from dollar general store for $3.00 Because I was afraid He would need something or I just didn't have the money because I spent it all on him !I just wanted him to LOVE me ! ...To make a long story short ... He is a Looser big time Looser .I raised a Big Time Looser that will never have anything ...because He thinks we should give it all to him .He Knows how to play Mind Games real good ..He is a professional now because he has turned 21 .A Professional Looser ! To hurt me for not buying him a car he joined the Guard then the Army and was going to Iraq .But he couldn't get the older men to buy him Beer .So he wanted out and cried and went a-wal or over the wall ...what ever they call it when you run away from the Army.So he had to check into a nut house to get certified nuts so he could get out ....the Army men figured him out and wanted to get rid of him .The Major told my husband he wouldn't send him to Iraq because he might get a bullet in his head and He was afraid one of his own men might do it ...why??? Because they didn't trust him ...I cant even explain his personality . He was on meth when he was in the guard ...and he is an alcoholic ..Now he has 50 personalities .He told this Old woman that we chained him to the bed and he had to doo doo on himself because we wouldn't let him out of his room !!! OM GOD! He would of moved some place else the first time he doo dooed on him self ! He had this old woman crying she told me !!!! I haven't even confronted him about this ...And I cant because he is nuts . Matter of FACT I took his door knob off because he would lock himself in his room all the time ... I have had teachers and students moms tell me WOW is he spoiled ! I thought he would grow up go to college and make good money really be some one ! He cant even hold a job ..A really BIG girl married him and they had a baby .He cant keep a job !The whole town laughs at him when he married this woman and he is really small ..Looks that way standing next to her .Its just not natural looking . He use to go out with girls who where his size .But I figured it out its because she had a place and a car and she bought him beer .And then I got to know her ....she is just like him she is nuts to ! So the reason for this post is see what happens when you spoil a kid rotten ....I made a Monster ! And that stresses me out big time ... And yes because of him My husband lost his job and we almost lost our house we lost our health insurance and I got sick and almost died I was in bed for a whole entire year .He never ever cared ..ever..So when your kids on Meth don't take off work and look for them ...Because you will loose your job and maybe your life ... And when we found him ...he put his Dad in Jail ! I will never forget that ever I never cried so hard ...I never even knew anyone in jail !!! I had to and see my hard working husband in orange and talk behind bars a CAGE !!!! All because we loved him ! Gave him our hearts and souls !So now my husband has to drive 200 miles a day to go to work because its the only job that pays what he was making .We have had it so hard and we have worn out a car since .... then ! I ate salmon patties every other day for 3 years ! I have learned my lesson ...I don't even want any kids in my home .I want nothing to do with his kid and never will .I got burnt and I cant forget I forgive and it hurts so bad to for -give ... But like I say I will not have anything to do with his Kids ! Never ..I just cant I have a phobia now .I am tired of being used and being lied about and people looking at me who really don't know .. I have had people really give me strange looks and after that old woman told me what he was saying OM GOD ! There's no telling what people are thinking ... I want to move so far away from here and never look back ... And I don't want to leave a forwarding address ...Matter of fact I have been looking at OTHER Countries to move to ... So don't spoil your kids or step kids cause you want LOVE and such ....You will just be digging YOUR own grave and theirs to .I regret raising him I wish I never even seen him ... So next time you go to the store and your kids there to and they pitch a fit remember what I said and what happen to me .I am just now getting to feel better after being sick it took 4 whole LONG PRAYING CRYING TO JESUS YEARS for me to get better ! I did so much crying .its just not worth it I have aged 10 years and my hair turned really Gray .....All because of him ... DON T spoil kids ... or you will pay for it sooner or later and they pay to because we didnt say NO! He was my step son ... not natural born ...just said this so you know all who have step children ..dont spoil them ..Be the wicked step parent ..or just dont be ! Let some one else raise them ...its just not worth it !

My daughter was spoiled to a degree.  She was given anything she wanted by a grandmother and I had to be the "no" person.  I did what I could to teach her that I had to stay within my means, and if I had extra, then I could get her what she wanted on top of what she needed.  Now that she is an adult, she still gets alittle demanding (she wants me to buy her an IPod for Christmas), but is learning that she needs to stay within her means.  Hubby just wants to give her a gift card with a certain dollar amount so that she hopefully buys tires for her car or if she wants, she can get her own IPod.  Children can be taught responsibility as well as get extra items.  Just need balancing.

While I am happy that Dr. Phil and Robin address the need for Toys for Tots, I would also like to see mention of Toys for Teens, an offshoot of the Toys for Tots - Pleas for toys for children are everywhere we turn during the holidays and you see lots of kid-type toys piled high - I think there has to be a greater need for decent Christmas gifts for the harder to buy for teenagers whose friends are all getting neat but expensive electronic gadgets that their parents just cannot afford. 

And Doctor Entitled Phil Spoiled. You mean And Brat Entitled Spiled. I was spoiled not once not- twice but three time in a row. I hate to see kids spoiled. I really do. Good luck on your E-Bay sel-

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