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Topic : 06/06 Big Weight Issues

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Created on : Tuesday, November 21, 2006, 02:30:06 pm
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(Original Air Date: 12/1/06) Do you ever look in the mirror and think, "How did I get this big"? For Angelique, 28, her compulsive eating is becoming deadly. She is morbidly obese at over 500 pounds, is afraid to go to restaurants because she says she'll break chairs, has to sleep sitting up, and her mother is raising her daughter because Angelique is too big to care for her. How is Angelique literally poisoning herself? Robert Reames, trainer and nutrition expert, makes a surprise visit to Angelique's house to clean out her cupboards and get her started on her weight-loss journey. Then, DeeDee weighed 750 pounds when she first appeared on Dr. Phil. It took five men, a van equipped with a special lift, a motorized wheel chair and multiple oxygen tanks to get her to the stage. Have things changed for her, and are her children still trapped in her web of guilt? And, Jennifer lost 162 pounds but was so ashamed of her body because of excess sagging skin, that she could barely look in the mirror. Dr. Phil arranged for her to meet with top Beverly Hills plastic surgeons. Did surgery change Jennifer's view of herself? Talk about the show here.

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November 30, 2006, 7:21 am CST

hey

Quote From: michelyne5

Dear Jennifer ,

 

Thank you so much for sharing your story of hope with all of us , but most of all thank you for thinking that we are worth the trust of your personnal journey......

 

As i wrote earlier , the mental side effect of losing weight is tremendous... i am now 80 pounds smaller with 50 more to go , but i am struggling and sabotaging myself , i loose 10 pounds gain it back at least 3 times for each 10 pounds. ...... i am at the point of given up just looking at the skin hanging from my arms and belly..... it makes me sick after all the efforts i have put thru it..... i can see that my weight problem could be solve but not my mental ......

 

After 34 years of anguish and sadness  i just can't see the point anymore....i just need to be regarded as a person not an obese or ex -obese...... for me the 60 secondes last  years....

 

thank you Lyne

do you mind if I ask how are you loosing all this wait

 
November 30, 2006, 7:31 pm CST

About weight

 

  Good for all you ladies that have chosen a healthier lifestyle! I do have a question though, and 

   please know that I'm not trying to be a jerk with this question. I was curious to know that if a

  person (male/female) starts to gain weight that isn't healthy for them, why not make the

  decision to get healty then? Why wait untill it gets to be too much? Of course it's hard and it

  might take some time but you didn't gain it overnight and your not going to loose it overnight

  either.

 
November 30, 2006, 8:14 pm CST

12/01 Big Weight Issues

Quote From: gatti1

 

  Good for all you ladies that have chosen a healthier lifestyle! I do have a question though, and 

   please know that I'm not trying to be a jerk with this question. I was curious to know that if a

  person (male/female) starts to gain weight that isn't healthy for them, why not make the

  decision to get healty then? Why wait untill it gets to be too much? Of course it's hard and it

  might take some time but you didn't gain it overnight and your not going to loose it overnight

  either.

I can't speak for everyone but I gained all my weight during a long bout of depression. It wasn't until I got my mind in a healthier place that I really started to care about my body.
 
December 1, 2006, 2:37 am CST

Sad to be so big

     I look at a person this large and wonder if they realize how quickly you can put the weight on and how hard it is to take it off.  What  makes them continue to eat huge amounts of junk food while at the same time they have to sleep sitting up.  They can't go out for dinner or to a movie because seating arrangements are so restricted.  Its like the weight not only cuts your life span dramatically, it also cuts your life style short.  I'm not saying it is going to be easy for her to get on a program but the rewards will be so worth it. She will get a chance to see the world from other perspectives than just her home and maybe working hard to achieve a positive thing in her life will win the respect of her mother and daughter and allow her to achieve some real happiness in the future. Dr. Phil is actually my hero - tells it like it is and people need to get real to fix things.  He will definitely help this woman.

 
December 1, 2006, 4:50 am CST

12/01 Big Weight Issues

Quote From: gatti1

 

  Good for all you ladies that have chosen a healthier lifestyle! I do have a question though, and 

   please know that I'm not trying to be a jerk with this question. I was curious to know that if a

  person (male/female) starts to gain weight that isn't healthy for them, why not make the

  decision to get healty then? Why wait untill it gets to be too much? Of course it's hard and it

  might take some time but you didn't gain it overnight and your not going to loose it overnight

  either.

For me weight has always been an issue after a very traumatic event in my life....I never learned how to deal with those feelings and turned to food as the drug of choice...the difference between food as a drug and other drugs is that you can't just quit eating....not and live anyway...you have to learn self control and often it is harder to unlearn something than to learn it initially...
 
December 1, 2006, 4:57 am CST

12/01 Big Weight Issues

Quote From: jennarain

I just felt the need to reply. 

 

My name is Jennifer.  I am the Girl on the show that is set to be aired on Dec 1st.  Dr Phil surprised me with surgery to remove my skin.  Please believe me when I say, that i have experienced everything that you are now facing.  I wrote into Dr Phil in regards to the downside of Weight loss.  My marriage was a joke,  I hated to be unclothed, touched, hugged looked at you name it I had an issue.  Even though I reached close to goal I still covered up, I was disgusting without cloths.  I was  mortified by my body the more I lost the scarier it was for me.  My body continued to look horrible the more I lost.  I always wanted to be skinny, and now that I lost my weight,  my loss became my nightmare.  I looked nothing like I pictured I would look like at goal.  I thought I could wear a T shirt yes something as simple as a T shirt and feel good about me,  But my arms were hanging swinging all the time.  To some this would appear PETTY, but to me being obese clinicly obese my entire life and finally doing something that is good to the outside as to weight loss was nothing close to good.  I resembled a melting candle, I hated my decision to lose.  I was guilt ridden that if i just stayed fat than i wouldn't have left one problem to gain another.  Surgery is extrememly expensive and one thing I knew in this lifetime No matter what,  I couldn't possibly do.  So I reached out to Dr Phil before a pre weight loss show and basically told him if he was going to do another weight losss show DO A REAL ONE OR DON"T DO ONE AT ALL!!!!  No one ever talks about the down side of weight loss that it is not alwys happy, lifes great!!! PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFttttt!!!!!!!!!!!.  I was soooo sick of seeing people at goal on stage showing off and happy with a new wardrobe or car or Trip to show off their new body I wanted to throw up.  All that is mateialistic and rots and goes away But you still have to wake each day to your body, and anything  over a 120lb weight loss is not a pretty sight.  No One ever talked about THE EXCESS SKIN. what the Hll does one do about it ? when after all the struggle,  to finally do what the media blasts in our brain to do,  we accomplish but look worse than when we started???  I lost with the dream in my head that I would look great for the first time in my life.  Hilarious, it was a cruel joke I tried soo hard but in the end the joke was on me....  My life wasn't in danger to rsort to surgery but my mental life was.  So many people don't get that. I had  agross body at 300+lbs and a gross body at goal.  I wanted to gain my weight back because than at least I would be filled out my skin wouldn't hang ripple or slap together, and the public would understand why i was covered up at the beach, ( because I was fat) But I was coverd up thin and people didn't get it.  If I exposed the sight of my flesh, I would have left people with the same reaction as if I was fat.  EWWWWWWWWW gross look at that lady, she needs to cover up.... Thin and fat I hid in big cloths.  Losing weight is not all what the media says it is.  You exchange one battle for another.  I wanted answeres from Dr Phil for all of us, but he surprised me with the Dr's from Dr 90210!!!!!!!  I came to the conclusion that maybe even Dr Phil doesn't have anything concret to help us, its all a series,  a process, but he does state that we must be realists about the whole process good and bad.  My journey I had no Idea, I guess I was dilusional.. LOL... I had noone to educate me on the whole journey I did it all ALONE.  By myself no surgery no dieticians noone me myself and my dream to be better Healthier.  Because I KNOW not everyone can have surgery,  I know alone,,, I couldn't.  The media plugs in us to lose, finally we believe in ourselves enough to DO IT.  But we are faced once again with NOW WHAT???? 

I live by the MOTTO..... Don't live to regret the things you've done.... Live to regret the things you haven't done.... In other words Just do everything.  The worst thing may turn into your biggest blessing...

 

I wanted to reach out to Angelique on the show and tell her that She CAN be where I am Because i was once where she is.  Just believe........ In YOU.  Believe that in the next minute Your Dream comes true, because thats how fast life can change.  If it takes min by min hour to hour day by day  month by month Trust that in the next min everything can change.

 

I could lose the weight myself but I couldn't shed the skin myself.  Surgery is not the answer for everyone but it was the answer for me.  Now I make it my mission to help all who are just waiting to walk in my shoes and face thier weight loss journey with pride and the belief that not another day will  you accept.... that you are worth being happy whatever your happiness is to you.

 

Smile you are 60 seconds from a Dream come true....

Sincerely Jennifer....

Jennifer,

     Thanks for sharing! You're like a celebrity now! LOL....but seriously...I am so happy for you and I too am on the weight loss journey...I have topped out at about 275...and am 5'3...my question is this....is the excess skin from having so much weight on the body, from loosing it too fast, or from not exercising....no judgement...just wondering if you know having been through it...I want to avoid excess skin if at all possible...I lost 100 lbs once about 6 years ago but didn't have that issue...I was exercising everyday though...and I was only 200...can't believe I just said "only 200"...geez...anyway, I would be interested in your take on this...or anyone else's for that matter..

 
December 1, 2006, 5:02 am CST

You're all my sisters!

How sad the messages here are! My heart goes out to all of you as you struggle with this problem.

 

 I'm a yo-yo dieter myself and, as Dr. Phil has said many times; losing and regaining increases the risk of heart disease by as much as 70%!  I've also experienced another downside of dieting.  After my last weight loss I ended up with a saggy neck waddle under my chin that makes me look ten years older than my actual age.  I can't afford a face lift so I've just exchanged "fat" for "old."

 

And now:  Even though I'm still exercising six days per week and still not eating any sweets or junk food -- I'm gaining my weight back!  In the past, I had always thought  that I re-gained because I went back to my bad habits but this time I didn't!

 

What on earth are we supposed to do?   The instinct to eat large amounts of fatty food after a major weight loss is intuitive and intense.  Our bodies are programmed that way!  They think another "famine" might be coming and they want us to be ready for it!

 

I really think I would be much thinner if I had never gone on the first diet  (or "lifestyle change") at all.

 
December 1, 2006, 5:56 am CST

Your Ex the Cheater isn't worth it.

Quote From: foxsmum

My husband has been on my back for years telling me to get rid of this extra weight.  Many times I tried, sometimes with success but then the weight would come back on.  after 16 years and three kids my husband had an affair and the woman is now pregnant.  Was the cause of his affair because I didn't try hard enough to loose this 40 pounds?  It is too late now I will have to deal with this for the rest of my life and if this is finally the incentive i have been looking for to really loose these 40 pounds it is tragic for me and for my torn family.

 

Carcrash I want to tell you that your weight had NOTHING to do with why he left you. I am 5 foot and probably knocking on 180lbs and my husband loves me unconditionally. If your husband has been dogging you about your weight all of these years, what does that say about him? I think he was just trying to pull himself up by pulling you down.

You'll probably look back on his affair in a year and think how glad you are to be rid of him. ( who needs a cheat and someone that runs them down around?)

 

Didn't catch the name but...the Aussie that wanted to email with people...I would love to email with you. I am going to be 39 soon, so we are around the same age. My email is samwisep@hotmail.com. I hope to hear from you!

 

Samantha, chubby but working on it. :)

Hello Carcrash,

 

I agree with Samantha, your ex had low esteem and he chose to cheat on you.  You don't need someone like him.  Just believe in yourself and keep the faith and you'll find someone else that will love you unconditionally.

 
December 1, 2006, 6:22 am CST

Work together on this one.

Quote From: imamom046

My 19 year old son has recently lost 85 lbs. he is so disgusted about the extra skin hanging from him that he wants to gain back the weight! Told him he was young enough that exercise should help him but I am so worried he will just try and gain it back any suggestions?

Have him set a goal. Have him save his money (perhaps you can match the amount, if you're financially able) and work toward saving enough for plastic surgery.

 

To get him excited about the idea, work w/ him to find a good plastic surgeon and have a free consultation (gets second opinions, of course). And see if you can find a doctor who will take less for the procedure since your son is young and probably not loaded. It can't hurt to ask and you'd be surprised at all the nice doctors there are (I work in a hospital and can attest to that fact).

 

The extra skin can be covered, for now, with clothing. Stress to him the importance of health over looks. Good luck to you. It's always hard to see our children in pain. God bless you both.

 
December 1, 2006, 6:28 am CST

Good luck to you.

Quote From: f192345000

hey Im 16yrs old and  I live in sand springs oklahoma and I wouldnt say Im over weight but I need to loose some weight and I was wondering if any of you guys have any suggestions for me like exercising and what I can do if you do email me at foreverpink4ubabe@yahoo.com

Medical weight loss programs are the way to go and I've tried MANY programs. I now am on a program thru my physical therapist's office. The program involves changing my eating choices and, of course, exercise. The junk food is gone. It's been replaced with whole graims, fruits, veggies and protein. I have lost 25 lbs in two months and have SO much energy. It took me 17 years to gain the weight so it will take me YEARS to get rid of it (if a weight loss program is drastic, the odds are it won't last over the long haul).

 

Find a doctor or trained professional who is an "expert" in the field of nutrician and weight loss. My specializes in teen obesity; he is working toward his PH.D in the field. I wish you were in the Gainesville, FL area; I'd refer you to him.

 

Any program that uses the word "Diet" isn't going to work.It's all about changing bad habits and getting your brain wrapped around the idea that health is what is important (not looks!). Best of luck to you, sweetheart. You know you CAN do it if you want it badly enough.

 
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