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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:19:40 pm
Author : dataimport
Your partner asked you to do WHAT? Some things are taboo. Some things are common but just not discussed. Where does your sex life fit in?

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December 1, 2008, 6:57 pm CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: lifeisajourney

You are so right I cant believe it. You are right on the money with this guy.He truly did not expect

me to cut him offf. He wanted me to run to him and save him from his horrid exwife. I am not

going to.Although when I met him I was in an abusive marriage and he sort of helped me through that.

Now I know why he did. He was looking for something in it for himself down the road.

Know what else I have found out. I was reading tons of material and I do believe he is narcisstic

and he hates women. It all fits now so well. His actions; his behavior and all of it.

He def. has that false sense of superiority for sure. You are so smart.

Oh; Know what else? He is a big time Passive Aggressive personality. It took me four years to

figure that one out. So it  made sense for me to go from an abuser to another passive aggressive

man. YOu know right now he does look like the one who cant let go.

I got another email from him saying how  much he misses my family and the holidays and on and on.

Most likely I have to block his emails and all. I just dont want him to do something else sneaky

behind my back since he is so PA. He has already done enough damage.

He also told me on email how sick he is getting from his diabetes. What can I do?

I know about karma and although I dont want revenge maybe this is the karma.

oh; he also toldme he hooked back up with his exwife because I left him. that was revenge on me.

Well; he was so PA I couldnt take it anymore. He is also selfish; self centered and lost his money

due to poor judegment.. I tried to talk to him but he ignored me all the time.

Thank you

I will act like I dont care . I can do it. I did it with  my ex husband and it worked like a charm.

Its funny how these guys dont go away.

If he marries his ex it will def. kill me but what can I do? He might even be so cruel as to send

me a note on it. So I have to block him out for good.

thanks

 

More power to you. I really hope you can keep going with the same confidence you sound like you have now. Good luck!
 
December 2, 2008, 12:04 am CST

Checkmate

Has anyone heard of "checkmate"  the home kit for testing semen when you are faced with someone not telling the truth about your relationship.  Is it normal to get a positive for semen in your spouse's undies when you have not had sex with her for over six months!  Is this checkmate the real deal or is it a fluke?  Let me know if anyone has used it. 
 
December 2, 2008, 2:58 pm CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: brucelee58

Has anyone heard of "checkmate"  the home kit for testing semen when you are faced with someone not telling the truth about your relationship.  Is it normal to get a positive for semen in your spouse's undies when you have not had sex with her for over six months!  Is this checkmate the real deal or is it a fluke?  Let me know if anyone has used it. 
I've never heard of it, so I couldn't tell you.
 
December 5, 2008, 3:51 pm CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: redfeathers

I've never heard of it, so I couldn't tell you.

Me neither but also be careful with self tests because they are often unreliable and/or have only a questionable test group. (for instance th self drug test can be set off by eating a poppyseed bagel so it is too sensitive.)

Finding semen in her underwear without sex is not possible but women can secrete liquid which is remarkably similar though of course without the sperm cells.

 
December 8, 2008, 12:53 am CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: oet_gaol

Me neither but also be careful with self tests because they are often unreliable and/or have only a questionable test group. (for instance th self drug test can be set off by eating a poppyseed bagel so it is too sensitive.)

Finding semen in her underwear without sex is not possible but women can secrete liquid which is remarkably similar though of course without the sperm cells.

That's true. I wouldn't put too much stock into something like that. I'm not someone who cheats, and I'm not in that position, but I think a test like that sounds like a product for really paranoid spouses. ...It sounds like kind of an invasion of privacy to me. Someone who can't trust their own wife would probably love that, unless they had, beyond reasonable doubt, suspicion that there is cheating going on. But if that were the case, I would just confront my spouse instead of going through their underwear with some kind of test like that. Besides, how would you know whose sperm it was if you had a positive test? It would be hard to find it on clean underwear, so if you used dirty underwear that's kind of old, there's a chance that it could be your own sperm from a night of sex.

 

I don't know if this stuff is even real, but it sounds way too flawed to be reliable.

 
December 8, 2008, 9:57 pm CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: redfeathers

That's true. I wouldn't put too much stock into something like that. I'm not someone who cheats, and I'm not in that position, but I think a test like that sounds like a product for really paranoid spouses. ...It sounds like kind of an invasion of privacy to me. Someone who can't trust their own wife would probably love that, unless they had, beyond reasonable doubt, suspicion that there is cheating going on. But if that were the case, I would just confront my spouse instead of going through their underwear with some kind of test like that. Besides, how would you know whose sperm it was if you had a positive test? It would be hard to find it on clean underwear, so if you used dirty underwear that's kind of old, there's a chance that it could be your own sperm from a night of sex.

 

I don't know if this stuff is even real, but it sounds way too flawed to be reliable.

a home test like that would only test for bodily fluids.  It's doubtful it could distinquish the difference between seminal and vaginal fluid.  I once had a girlfriend that would get really juicy. She had the crustiest underwear!  You wouldn't be able to tell the difference between sperm and her juice stains.  It looked disgusting, but suprisingly it smelled really good down there.   There's very few girls I can say that about, so it might have something to do with the extra juice flow.

 
December 9, 2008, 1:10 am CST

Is This Normal?

Quote From: turkalurk

a home test like that would only test for bodily fluids.  It's doubtful it could distinquish the difference between seminal and vaginal fluid.  I once had a girlfriend that would get really juicy. She had the crustiest underwear!  You wouldn't be able to tell the difference between sperm and her juice stains.  It looked disgusting, but suprisingly it smelled really good down there.   There's very few girls I can say that about, so it might have something to do with the extra juice flow.

....Erm...I'm no doctor but that was probably vaginitus. That's similar to a yeast infection, in that it causes a lot of extra vaginal discharge, but if it smelled good it could have been that. If it smelled kind of like a sweet bread, I'd bet $10 that's what it was. But, I'm no doctor so I could be wrong.
 
December 9, 2008, 3:17 am CST

I would do a consumers check

Quote From: brucelee58

Has anyone heard of "checkmate"  the home kit for testing semen when you are faced with someone not telling the truth about your relationship.  Is it normal to get a positive for semen in your spouse's undies when you have not had sex with her for over six months!  Is this checkmate the real deal or is it a fluke?  Let me know if anyone has used it. 

I also thought to do that on certain occasion, but opted out of it for various reasons. I am glad I did. It is an invasion, no matter how one wants to look at it. If you ask your s/o a question and you doubt their answer then you don't need proof you need to rethink the kind of relationship this is and why would you want to be subject to this?

 

I never found out if my husband was cheating, but cheating is not always the only thing one needs to make a conscious decision whether a relationship is productive or destructive.  Sex is not the finale behind whether you stay in a relationship or not.....don't you think trust would be higher up there?!  If you can't trust people, in general, then it may be a projection and fear on your part.

 

Also, it can be both. Usually is.  :)

 

Don't spend too much time trying to prove whether a person is being honest, use your intuition. It is usually much closer to the truth then some testkit!

 
January 13, 2009, 3:56 pm CST

sexless

I have been dating a guy for 2 1/2 years and we have never had sex.  He refuses to have sex with me - he says that has an addictive personality and once we start having sex he would want it everyday.  He says that we are getting very close to having sex but he has been saying that for a year now. Some of my friends describe him as having a narcisstic personality.  He has me perform oral sex on him at least every day.  I try to stop myself but he seems to have me so brainwashed that I can't stop.  I know that I should stop seeing him but I have trouble doing that.  I am friends with his ex-wife and she said that they rarely had sex.  She had to give him oral sex 3 times a day.  That is why she left him.
 
January 14, 2009, 2:03 pm CST

Is This Normal?

When you never had sex, your board is blank. When you want to get stimulated you can use preconceived schemes in your mind or try to find your own ones. After a while you just watch some porn TV shows to have ideas or to see what you conceive as normal for many people. But one time there was a part of a show about adult babies. It seems that pressure, stress, big responsibilities bring some people to evacuate in being treated like babies. It is far from being macho or even far from the idea of a responsible and mature lover. But there are two things in this: probably a part of fetish and a part of humiliation. Two things that are still bringing a stimulation for many of us. It is just the object of the fetish or humiliation that seems to be abnormal. How can you be a mature lover and eventually parent, if your stimulation comes from the idea of being diapered and cared of like a baby?

 
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