Topic : Is This Normal?

I'm not going to make any judgment on this, but if this is something you are not comfortable with, then he should respect your feelings. Sex is a beautiful sharing between people, and if it is not consensual on all parties, it is abuse, not just sex or love. 

Some people get into situations like this and never get scars from it, but that is the exception to the rule. Not many are strong enough to not allow it to cause problems in the relationship. The one thing is you can't unring a bell, and once the damage is done, there could possibly be no turning back in the destruction to the relationship. I know at least five couples that had experimented in this area, and none are still together. 

Don't do anything, even between just the two of you,  that you are not comfortable with, and don't enjoy yourself. Pleasing your mate can be a rewarding and sensual thing in itself, but not at the expense of it being forced on you. 

If you have discussed your desires to not do these things, and he is still insisting, then you should begin to question his love for you. I wonder if confusion or if it is having to face the facts where you problem lies. 

I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex. 

WOW, girlfriend, last time I checked this had nothing to do with love. He does not sound like Mr.  

Wonderful to me, by inviting his friends to paratake of you, as if you are a buffet. You are need to get away from this guy because there is no love involved. If you have any esteem this guy is about to make you lose it all. If you allow this type of degradeing to continue you are going to be a mental case and no good for anyone because you are going to have try to piece back together your life. 

You know that this is not normal and your guy is controling, he knows you are headover in love with him so he uses it to get his way with you. You are being USED, as a sex objexct by EVERYBODY.  Go to school, learn a hobby, find something positive to with your life then letting others slowly destroy you as a person. Lift you head up and think better about yourself. You need to find a whole another group of new friends who are doing something great with their lives and who will encourage you that you can do better. Once we know better we do better. Work on getting your life in order, buy a house ALONE, and wait for your wonderful future hubby to come along and then you won't have all that excess baggage with you, trying to make sure he love, and having to tell him that you did orgies with women and hundreds of men, that strangers had sex with you.  Get rid of the ZERO and wait on a HERO 

NOTHING good can come from this relationship....when you start to believe that you derserve better then you will get better... 

Your man has a problem..he doesn't respect you..which means if you stay with him then you are going to have a problem. 

If you stick out until the end of this "relationship" then you will see that he hasn't had ANY RESPECT FOR YOU AT ALL... 

And yes everyone that shares this idea is nuts..lol 

"He says he can separate sex from love." 

I know it may be hard to stomach but he doesn't love you...he is having sex with you. 

I have my own issues concerning my sex life with my husband.  But, I have been married for 22 years and have been thru many difficult times in my relationship.  I  believe that sleeping together is very important to your sex life.  Don't start sleeping apart, you will regret it later.  I wish I would have talked with someone a long time ago about my thoughts and behaviors.  Keep the faith!