Topic : Is This Normal?

I think the best way to find out his whys would be to  ask him. There are lots of books pro's and con's and I truly don't know any particular book that I would be comfortable recommending.  

I didn't mean to offend you, or to imply in any way you were not intelligent, successful, or secure. You asked why, without stating your position one way or the other. In my humble opinion, if you are not opposed, are emotionally stable and comfortable with it, and are using protection with multiple partners, it is a choice. Again as to why he is wanting to watch you with other partners, he would have the answers. 

I hope this helps, and again good luck, and great sex! 

The first thing you need to do is talk to him. Many men are not comfortable talking about sex with their spouse. It is an area where we might find out we are not what we think we are, sexually. 

Depending on how your husband is as far as communications go, you need to talk openly as you can with him about how you feel in this matter. You need to do this in a non threatening place. Talk to him while the two of you may be alone in the car, or in the living room after the children have gone to bed. The point is don't bring this up in the bedroom. You need to let him know how you feel, and what you are lacking, and at the same time find out how he feels, and what he thinks he is lacking as well. 

There could be a lot of reasons for his low sex drive. There are medical reasons, such as certain medicines and health conditions (low testosterone levels and more) can lower the sex drive. Stress, such as with a job or finances can lower the sex drive.  Maybe he needs to go have a physical, and check to see if any of these things are the problem. 

Some men have a kind of Madonna effect, where once their wife has given birth, they have a more difficult time seeing their wife as a sexual being. 

With the little information you have given, it is difficult to give any advice, but I will give this much more, in case it will be helpful. 

Talk to him about your desires. Let him know explicitly, if he is one that could take it, what you are wanting. Maybe you could liven up your sex life with role playing games between the two of you. Maybe it could be improved with something as simple as just the two of you getting away, even if it is just a motel/hotel in your own town. Sometimes just a change in scenery can make a world of difference. Other things you could try would be new sexual positions than you are used to. Explore your sexuality together.  

The biggest thing you can do to help your situation is to communicate. Communicate what you are missing, wanting, and looking for. For all you know, he may be hoping you would bring it up. 

I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex! 

Some Medications Prevent a Release of Semen, but the still have the sensation of ejaculation. I don't know by what you say if that is the situation. I can tell you that at 52, your boyfriend's answer is not the norm. Men "our" age still have emission of semen with ejaculation. There have been men in their 90's that have produced offspring. 

Your boyfriend's problem, if he is never reaching orgasm, it could be an emotional problem. It could be many things causing him to not reach orgasm, but maybe he needs to talk with a doctor. Again if he is reaching orgasm, but without semen, it could be some medication he is on. 

I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex! 

Men will at times become sexually lazy if you let them. You need to speak up and find out what is going on with him. Maybe you need to say something more like, "Okay, it's time for "US" to go to bed now." The biggest thing you need to do is communicate with him.  

If you don't enjoy oral sex altogether, then you should let him know that and not do it again. If you don't enjoy oral sex because it is a one way street, then you need to let him know he is being selfish and lazy, and you deserve as good as you give. No one in a sexual relationship should do anything they are not enjoying or comfortable with. Sex is something wonderful and exciting shared by adults and it is giving each other pleasure. He should be getting pleasure giving you pleasure as much as receiving pleasure.  

You can't expect a change, if you are not willing to talk about it with your husband. 

I hope this helps. Good luck, and great sex! 

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