Quote From: penny_ladyI know! I get so sick of hearing young girls in this day and age just throw their lives away for the first guy that screws them well. Sorry to be harsh, but I have a daughter, and I am in a happy stable marriage, we were married for 5 years before we had her, we have money now, we are stable and even with all THAT it's NOT EASY to have a kid.
Take the advice and run with it. I had got pregnant at the age of eighteen (yes wanted) and my entire life changed. The father did not claim he was in fact the father, my entire pregnancy he was in prison, I found a new man that was great and the father got out and demanded to be with me. I refused because I wanted the best for my child. Three weeks after birth was the task of having a job to fend for my child's needs, After 2 years of single parenting and many lonely moments of raising a child by myself, depression took over because my child hardy saw me because I was working so hard. now eight years later things are beginning to work out. After reading this, imagine yourself in my shoes. Yes, I thought a child would cure loneliness and relationship problems boy was I stupid. There is not a day that goes by that I wish I should have said no to wanting a baby. Yes, I am happy to have her. But reality kicks in and you realize your child had to pay for your actions (a deadbeat father, a busy working mom, daycare most of childhood, and neglect of love she could have more of if in fact I had waited. Children do not come with a manual but there are red flags of money issues, parenting problems, and there goes freedom. take up a hobby of using your spare time to volunteer at a hospital with children or a daycare to fill the gap of loneliness. trust me that is all you need right now. Babies do not cure family issues but create more when you are not ready. You are lonely from adults not children. Seek adult friendships and enjoy life until you are mentally, financially, maritally ready. TRUST ME!
Debi
