Topic : Is This Normal?

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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 05:19:40 pm
Author : dataimport
Your partner asked you to do WHAT? Some things are taboo. Some things are common but just not discussed. Where does your sex life fit in?

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August 11, 2007, 6:03 pm PDT

Donna

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I dont even know her last name much less what her email is, i have questioned him about not bein single a few times and he got kinda mad and said that he is as single as they come.

 

It's not that im bored actually just lonely i should say, i never have been in a relationship the guys i've met always wanted something else instead it was basically sex with most of them except for a few.

I work full time and will be going to school in the fall to take some classes, but i generally stay home not hanging out with anyone cause i don't have any friends technically here, im shy and have a hard time connecting with others. Every once in awhile i go down to chicago suburbs to see my friend.

 

All of the  things he wants me to do doesnt sound actually exciting, but i don't wanna get rid of him either. He likes the hard core stuff it seems and its not my thing, but im still pretty much going along with it. I guess he has never done any hard core stuff during sex cause i have asked him before.

We talked last night and we got into this conversation

He says " im going to eat a girl out and love it "

i said why? the taste would be horrible, it would make me sick, it makes me sick just thinking about it.

He says " i will be fucking you when u do it " i say So, then he goes u will love it and maybe she will want you as her slut also

I say " u can't make me love something that i never done and never had interest doin in first place

his response " u will for me"

that would make me bi if i were to be her slut and i wont be another chics sluts thats worse than being yours, all he said to that was ok

i say being yours is one thing, but being a slut to a chic thats just gross and im not goin bi

he responds " my goal is to make u not care"

i ask why? as long ur with me u should do what ur master tells u

i ask what even doing degrading stuff? he says im not going that far

well i dont know everything that u have in mind, he says " truth"

nothing in public, dont worry about that he says dont worry about what i ask

y is it yr goal to make me not care? cause i want my lil slut to be obedient

i say "i am to other guys, but u have higher standards "

he responds total control... lol

 

i was just talking and seeing what his responses were, but i thought they were idk what wanna call it. he gets into this way sometimes when we chat, i dont know if its a mood or what. He doesnt talk like that all of time maybe cause it doesnt come up, idk i find it kinda disturbing.

He has asked me a few times if i would get my nipples pierced i told him no, but then he goes 

 if we dated, what if i bought one of them, if i would, would you?

 

 

 

Have you met this guy yet, or has it been all online?  When does he move closer?  I think that you might be happier if you spend more time studying when school starts, along with making some real-life friends at the school.  You're bored, right?  Going to school should help with that.

 

I don't know what else to say about this guy.  The longer you are with him, the more controlling he will be.  Do you really want to be with someone like that?  You said he'd be going to school, too, right?  The same school? 

 

 

 

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August 11, 2007, 6:07 pm PDT

Find a book

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I cant seem to have sex.. as soon as i enter my girlfriend i cum.. I've had this prob as long as i can remember but i really love this women I'm with right now.. I wanna really make love to her, but she don't want anything but the real thing inside her, how do i really go about in fixing myself, she doesn't wanna help much.. she thinks all it takes is maybe pills or talking to the doc.. we both love each other and I'm real Happy she still wants me in her life.

Go to a bookstore and find a basic book on sex.  I don't know which one to recommend, but I'd say to get a big one that has tons of information.  I don't think we can hand out sex tips here, LOL.  You might want to ask your doctor about it, in case there is something that can be done. 

 

What do you mean, "she doesn't wanna help much?"  She just wants you take a pill and fix it? 

 

How old are you two? 

 
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August 13, 2007, 3:05 pm PDT

Condtictions of Love

My husband and I have been together for 8 months. Sometimes we enjoy oral sex. I like to have my husband wash down there, before I put it in my mouth. He complains that I am not being spontaneous, and I am putting conditions on love. I feel that a little notice, to be able to have clean bodies (his & mine) is a good thing. He feels I should love him, clean, or dirty. Is asking for a wash up, putting conditions on love??  Am I wrong??      Michelle
 
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August 14, 2007, 4:31 pm PDT

Never going to have a baby

My fiance and I have been together for some time now and I am at a major crossroads...... Never ever once has he ever been able to well fully function...... He can mantain an erection but cannot ejaculate during sexual intercourse. He never has been able to. Years ago he had a dangerous addiction to porn and sexual items.... before me. where he would have multiple partners a day just to full fill his sexual addictions.... he seaked counselling and has become better. I asked him how we will ever have a baby in the future. I will not have my baby developed in a test tube. I want it done well.... naturally. Any help would be appreciated......
 
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August 14, 2007, 4:32 pm PDT

Is This Normal?

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My husband and I have been together for 8 months. Sometimes we enjoy oral sex. I like to have my husband wash down there, before I put it in my mouth. He complains that I am not being spontaneous, and I am putting conditions on love. I feel that a little notice, to be able to have clean bodies (his & mine) is a good thing. He feels I should love him, clean, or dirty. Is asking for a wash up, putting conditions on love??  Am I wrong??      Michelle
 Oh Gosh no. I am the same way.... its just too grous for me...... I mean he urinates out of his penis. So yes I agree he should wash. But on the other hand also...... do you keep yourself washed every time before he performs oral?
 
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August 18, 2007, 10:19 am PDT

Boyfriends pressure to fulfill his fantasy

The man I've been dating for about a year and a half continues to ask me, sometimes jokingly, sometimes not, to fultill his fantasy of me having sex with a woman while he watches. This is 100% distasteful to me. He says that I should be willing to do anything for him. I say that someone who loves you shouldn't ask you to do things that compromise your moral integrity, belief system, etc. I do talk about this fantasy in bed with him as I know how much it arouses him, but again, I do this  for his pleasure not mine. He often makes little comments and jokes about this topic to the point that I've asked him to see if he can go 24 hours without some reference to me with a woman.... any suggestions? Am I overreacting? Too prudish? Am I supposed to do whatever sexual things he wants? What if I do this and then another fantasy comes up like threesomes, etc.... other things that I'm not comfotable wtih. We have a great sex life, are both satisfied, but this subject just will not die. I need advice... thanks
 
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August 22, 2007, 10:25 am PDT

Is this normal?

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Mabe its a show idea. While browsing through another forum I saw the word "domestic discipline".I thought okay now ,whats this. I look it up.Apparently grown women like to be spanked by their husbands for breaking the rules.They have submitted to their husbands to the point that they are willing to be spanked.All of them have said that it saved their marriage.The site is called "taken in hand".  Even feminists and women in positions of power have given in to this.They swear its not abuse but loving discipline. I knew women were getting back to staying home with their kids but I didnt think they were going this far back.Has anyone else heard of this.

IS THIS NORMAL.????I would really like to hear what Dr.Phil has to say about this one.I think after this he really can say hes heard it all.

I would like to get Dr.Phil's views on this one too - I saw the site and honestly have often wondered about this myself.  I think it's because I am a very controlling person.  Sometimes I feel like I do/take care of everything - I would like sometimes to feel dominated by my husband.  Perhaps that's what it is with these women.  My husband has never "disciplined" me, but he has made playful comments that sent a chill down my spine. I quickly release that not knowing if it is normal or not, but often wonder what the end result would be if I let him.
 
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August 23, 2007, 2:10 am PDT

Is This Normal?

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Minnie, you will find someone.  You don't need to worry about what the guys think.  When you find a good partner, he will be patient and loving and will not hold your virginity against you.  It's nothing to be ashamed of.  If a guy bugs you about it, just run the other way; he's not worth your time.

 

I hope you'll keep us posted.  I will try to remember to check back at least once a week to see if you've written.

ALSO i told my cousin that i will have a hard time being her friend

what is true

if she is friends with him

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Cause if she can be friends with someone who hurt me

i will have a hard time being friends with her

I cryed to her on the phone saying i am not asking you to choose

but i want you to understand if i act weird around you

 

I feel like he rejected and ran away from me and felt sorry for me because i was a virgin and to top it all off hurt my feelings...

she said no don't see it like that

i said how else am i going to see it ?!

 

I hung up after that

i hope you people understand why i can't be friends with my cousin

if she can hang out with someone who hurt me

i don't see her being my friend or any better then he is

 

That is how i see it!!!

 

 
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August 23, 2007, 6:17 pm PDT

Is This Normal?

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I love my boyfriend of 3 years but we've had our problems. He told me he thought the actual genital part of sex with me didnt feel good, eventhough we have soo much chemistry. He has had an impotency problem since he was a teen and cannot masterbate to climax, but had had adequate sex during a failed 20 year marriage.  He got his first girlfriend pregnant and married her. We met too soon after his divorse and he wanted to try it with other women to see if the problem was physical or mental as he hadnt slept with many women and wanted to experience that.  I was crushed, totally, but he had to answer these questions himself. Counselling would have been good I thought, but I think he's scared. At least he was being honest with me. He also wanted to make sure I was the right girl for him and didnt want another mistake. We broke up a couple of times for the same reason. He came crying back saying it worked with the others and I should do pelvic floor exercises, which has improved things. After the last break he seems to have totally settled saying I am definately the one for him. Trouble is I'm scared to trust him totally again incase he breaks my heart again. I'm worried that it's a pattern of gaining my trust then hurting me.  The first time I coped reasonably well considering but the second I was numb because I cant understand how you can love someone so totally as he says he loves me even while we were broken up and then have sex with another. He came back to me saying 'It's the quality of the relationship that matters, not the sex". I feel insecure and untrusting. Time will tell if it's a pattern. We now have discussed going to sex counselling. I dont want to feel that sex with others is better than me. Should I be grateful that he's been honest and then come back or should I be seriously worried about future problems?
  I actually think you should throw this moron out the window. He is mistreating you.  I would be worried.  man that cheats once will cheat again. Especially if you make them feel it is alright to do. He is taking advantage of you.
 
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September 2, 2007, 8:23 am PDT

spouses or roommates?

 This will probably sound dumb but my husband and I both have good sex drives and we love each other deeply. That being said, we only have sex once or twice a month. He works third shift and I have the kids and the house to take care of and a lot of the time sleep wins. when the occaision arrives that we both are awake and interested many times we are interrupted by the phone, the kids, a visitor and so on. We even joke that once we've said the "sex" word a silent signal goes out that somebody better do something quick or we might actually get to be intimate. Mostly it seems like it just might be true. Help please. We would be thrilled to even get an opportunity once a week. Any ideas?
 

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