Topic : Is This Normal?

I dont mean to sound condescending, but are you crazy dating a man with 5, count them 5 kids!!!????  I mean he may be very sweet and all, but obviously the man has committment issues, and has he never heard of birth control??!! If I were you I would back off a little and try to gain some perspective on the whole situation before you end up being number 6.  I really dont mean to sound hateful, but girl, I really wish you would spend some more time thinking about this. 

wow.  what a story.  i know for you it must be incredibly complicated, frustrating, etc-- but for me to read all that in black and white, you have to understand it seems very obvious:  run!!  run far away!  you have to trust your instincts.  we girls have pretty strong intuitions and your's is really pleading with you right now.  lest he has a poltergeist putting things on his computer and contamidating him with a VD-- well, those things are pretty darn black and white, huh.  i think that venereal warts are like herpes in that you always have them- so it COULD be that he got them a while ago and for some unknown reason are just now flaring up.  ???  you would have to research that one.   but the emails on his computer??  jeez.  how dumb does he think you are??  what on earth, if any, excuse did he have for them?   

i dunno- i just don't think love should be so freakin complicated.  i know that many couples have broken up and gotten back together and it all worked out hunky dorey, but in your case... it just seems like TOO much.  too much for you to have to deal with!!  RUN!!   

 I'm glad you wrote what you did. In the last couple of days I have found myself weakening, missing him, and wondering what life would be like without him. I think we should see a counsellor, even for just one session. It breaks my heart to think of leaving him, but I've already told him he's got to figure things out. It's not fair to string me along, and 10 years down the road he comes out of the closet. I would never be able to trust again. I have a way out, and I do want to stay until he sees a specialist in Feb., because I'm worried that they might have caused cancer for him, which he doesn't seem worried about. I've been researching...trying to find some other reason for these warts, something not caused by an STI...but so far no luck.  

 He says he's not gay, and he can still be aroused by me.....I don't know....you're suggestion is sounding pretty good right now. I don't know if I have the strength to stay and work out all of these issues, especially if he's going to continue hurting me. I don't want to be alone, but it's a reality I have to face. 

i really, really feel for you.  i can't imagine how tough this is.  i'm sure he is a great guy and all... but the lying, the possible homosexuality, the possible cheating on you....  oy!   may i ask how old you both are?  he might be bisexual, but all the "curiosity" on those sites and the emails, etc... seems like he needs to figure all this out!  because it sounds like he really is more on the gay side of the fence.  i'm sure he doesn't want to lose you in his life either, but you need to explain to him that you will always be his friend but that you deserve an honest, STRAIGHT man who doesn't cause you so much heartache and confusion.  i know that it's difficult to think of not being with him, but don't you think you (and your child) deserve all of that?  i've been with a guy who caused me much stress and anguish, but am now married to one who couldn't be more opposite-- i much prefer the latter!!   

btw, when i say STRAIGHT, i just mean for your sake-- i absolutely don't have anything against homosexuality.... except maybe when someone refuses to accept who they are and causes pain for people in their lives.  i'm sure it must be extremely confusing and difficult for him too.  but i just think you would both be better off if he would just admit the truth.  to you and himself.   

good luck.  do what your GUT tells you.   

Hello Everyone! I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season. Where do I begin? I have been with my husband for about 10 yrs now. we have only been married for 3 of those years. When we first got together about 3 months into our relationship, we talked about eachothers fantasies. When he told me his I was SHOCKED. but it didn't make me feel any different about him. I did alot of research on his fetish and and there seems to be alot of people whom have the same fetish. My husbands fetish is diapers. He absolutely loves to wear and have accidents in them. And he loves to wear girls panties and mess in them too.For years I diapered him for just about 24/7 and I was ok with that. But now it has gotten to be too much. I'm tired of giving him what he wants sexually. I try to explain to him that I have needs too but he just can't give them up. He says he will never give them up. I have reached a point where I'm so turned off by it and it makes me sick and i'm actually jealous. I booked a beautiful anniversary get away to Hawaii to see if we could get the sparks back. But he couldn't even leave the diapers home. Fot ten days he couldn't live without them. That is wrong to me. Anyways that isn't all that upsets me, he also has drug addictions too and he is obssessed with women in tight jeans. we can't go anywhere together without him staring at other women. He claims to me it is part of his fetish and he can't help it.I feel when you love someone you respect them enough to not do that. It is normal for us to admire the opposite sex and glance a lil but to stare is wrong.About 6 yrs ago I caught my husband masterbating in a window looking at a girl next door wearing tight jeans. at that time I was devastated. But I still stuck with him. I don't understand why do I let myself keep getting hurt by this man? He has alot of good qualities too he is very affectionate but to me it's not enough.he has so many addictions I can't even count them on one finger. Please! HELP! I do love him but i'm not in love with him anymore. Thank You for your time 

Hello Everyone! I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season. Where do I begin? I have been with my husband for about 10 yrs now. we have only been married for 3 of those years. When we first got together about 3 months into our relationship, we talked about eachothers fantasies. When he told me his I was SHOCKED. but it didn't make me feel any different about him. I did alot of research on his fetish and and there seems to be alot of people whom have the same fetish. My husbands fetish is diapers. He absolutely loves to wear and have accidents in them. And he loves to wear girls panties and mess in them too.For years I diapered him for just about 24/7 and I was ok with that. But now it has gotten to be too much. I'm tired of giving him what he wants sexually. I try to explain to him that I have needs too but he just can't give them up. He says he will never give them up. I have reached a point where I'm so turned off by it and it makes me sick and i'm actually jealous. I booked a beautiful anniversary get away to Hawaii to see if we could get the sparks back. But he couldn't even leave the diapers home. Fot ten days he couldn't live without them. That is wrong to me. Anyways that isn't all that upsets me, he also has drug addictions too and he is obssessed with women in tight jeans. we can't go anywhere together without him staring at other women. He claims to me it is part of his fetish and he can't help it.I feel when you love someone you respect them enough to not do that. It is normal for us to admire the opposite sex and glance a lil but to stare is wrong.About 6 yrs ago I caught my husband masterbating in a window looking at a girl next door wearing tight jeans. at that time I was devastated. But I still stuck with him. I don't understand why do I let myself keep getting hurt by this man? He has alot of good qualities too he is very affectionate but to me it's not enough.he has so many addictions I can't even count them on one finger. Please! HELP! I do love him but i'm not in love with him anymore. Thank You for your time 

do you ever watch csi?   there was JUST a show last week about that very thing!!  the character whose death they were investigating loved to wear diapers and act like a baby.  anyway, as they were investigating further, someone explained that people with that sort of fetish either were VERY attached to their mothers OR on the opposite side, did not have a maternal relationship at all.  or something like that... therefore they were stuck in....  whatever...  an infantile stage or something, wanting to be babied/mothered/etc.    aaaanyway-- i'm not sure if i explained it well, but does any of that sound familiar?  what is your husband's relationship like with his mother?  what was his childhood like?   

at any rate, kinda crazy, girl!  not to judge, but if you're tired of it, i agree with nomorelies--  get away from him for a while.  let him know you're serious about not wanting this as a part of your life anymore.  he needs professional help-- maybe like intensive therapy??   this fetish is heavy duty.  not to mention the drugs and the tight jeans thing and the masturbating outside someone's window!!   

if he's not willing to seek help for all of these obsessions, then i guess there's your answer.   good luck.